Carri20 said:Care to expand on that? Cause you know, I could dish out quite a bit of dough for an in-depth personality report but heck if I can get one free from the world famous Dr. Waterbear I'll gladly leap at the chance. Why don't you tell me all about my filthy flea-bitten sin-ridden personality and your flawless superior value set?
You know, it's like someone said in the philosophy forum--You can't make an argument against dating non-virgins without saying in one form or another, "I'm better than them."
I haven't stated that it's possible to stereotype a virgin or non-virgin by personality. Nor have a stated that it's possible to stereotype a virgin or non-virgin by values. I have stated that I think marriage should be life-long and that can have nasty consequences with non-virgins. I'll add that I see marriage, as one of its core, as a sexual commitment, from what I've said earlier should be life-long (had to make it sexual in some way, otherwise it'd just be a friendship). So I suppose it is true that under my paradigm I'm better suited for marriage than a non-virgin, and someone who's never looked at porn nor had sex would be better suited for marriage than I. As most people don't use this paradigm, virgin or non-virgin, I'm "better than them" in some way that's irrelevant. I'd hope I'm better at following my paradigms than most, and I would assume most people follow their paradigms better than most, so I'd assume this property would be true for most understandings anyone holds.
Again I'll remind you that a lot of people consider themselves virgins because they have been forgiven their past mistakes. You can ask "have you ever had sex?" and she might say "no" because since she became a new creature in Christ, she hasn't. To get the response you're after you would have to ask "before you were saved, did any man's body enter the one you have now?" ...And just the mere fact that you would have to specify "before you were saved" should indicate to you how significant the answer would be to God.
And I've asked that before. Does God consider it significant if someone can make you laugh? Is God going to consider significant the limitations you place on a spouse you choose - after all He loves all Christians.
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