Carri20
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I think we all need to go look at 1 Corinthians 13.
The implication that one MUST ask forgiveness from their future spouse for a sin committed before the future spouse was known, seems to strip away from the 'keeps no record of wrongs' part of the Love chapter... It sounds as if, were the person NOT to ask forgiveness, some would keep that 'over their head' and resent them as a result.
That verse should really bring quite a conviction to the hearts of those who say they would never consider dating a non-virgin. Heh. Should. I seriously wonder about the people they do end up with though. It's pretty clear that they will be "loved" conditionally based upon performances rather than personality and character.
I have a question for the ones who say they refuse to consider dating a non-virgin. What if you pray to God and ask him to pick your spouse for you (which I hope you would) and as a result God brings you a non-virgin? Would you blow him/her off completely and settle for someone less than what God has planned for you, all based on virginity? What if that non-virgin was your absolute best personality match?
Personally I think it's too easy for some of you to lump all non-virgins into a single stereotype. Think about it. The term "non-virgin" could apply to anyone from a born-again child of God to a big city drug dealer. But some of you toss them all into the same trash can regardless.
Guys, let's say you meet a nice Christian girl who lights up a room just by entering it and radiates the love of Jesus Christ in everything she does. She's bright, funny, compassionate.. You just can't help but be drawn to her personality. Maybe you spend some time with her, talk to her, and start to like her. Maybe you start to think she likes you back. Which do you ask first? If she's a virgin, or if she'd like to go out to dinner with you sometime? Maybe you make the mistake of assuming she's a virgin because she's so nice and Christ-like, only to find out she's not after you've already fallen in love with her and are convinced that this is God's will. After all, non-virgins are supposed to just walk around with a big ol' mark on their foreheads so you can tell them apart from the good ones, right? ..Then maybe you start to moan about her being "deceptive" because she showed interest in you without first revealing the most embarrassing and regretful moments of her life's history. How dare she act so Christ-like and not be a virgin!?
^ This is the impression I get from a lot of Christian guys. I thought that of all people Christians would be more forgiving and more able to let go of the past, seeing as how their own pasts have been let go of, but now I don't know what to expect anymore. It's a disappointment really, and it's because of this warped thinking that a lot of people are staying away from the church.
I have one last thing to say to the "virgin-onlies" in this post. Remember the story about the servant whose debt was forgiven by his master, and then that same servant had a fellow servant punished for not paying his debt? I challenge you to think about how that might apply to this kind of a situation.
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