Deep Questions..

[auzz_with_style07]

Do you feel in today's society, youth are sticking to Living a "Pure" life for Christ? Waiting till Marriage? Do you agree that many of today's youth tend to take on the mindset of " Everyone around me is doing it, why can't I"? In the Bible it clearly states the consequences and such of not waiting, I guess my main question in all this is :

" Is "Purity" still a major thing amoung our Youth? "

 

[kiwichristian]

Hmm thats a good question.

I think its true, to some degree. A lot of youth are being sucked into the media's and society's message that sex is ok and that you can practice it safely and stuff. They always seem to be going on about it and saying how wonderful it is and that if the person loves the other person they should do it and all that rubbish.
I dont agree with this, of course. God wants us to use His gift wisely and to use it within the bonds of marriage, not outside them.

But I also want to point out that there are many youth who are standing up for purity and abstinence and that there are ministries going around schools (especially in the States) teaching kids about abstinence and purity.
Look at people like Rebecca St James, promoting purity. What a wonderful woman of God she is. She even wrote a book on this subject.
Anyway, may God be with these people as they spread the correct and true message of purity and abstinence

 

[luvsGod19]

I totally agree with Kiwichristian....in today's world it is so difficult to stay pure physically and mentally. We are surrounded by movies...music...and other media that promote sex and that make it seem like a "natural" thing to do...but I truly beleive that sex out of marriage is just that...and God doesn't want that for us...he created sex to be great and special...but he created it to be enjoyed only with your husband or wife. I think it's definately worth waiting for....and I will continue to honor my husband (even though I may not know who he is) by working on staying pure in my mind and heart.

On a second note...I applaud those of you who have made the mistake of sex b4 marriage....but have learned and changed your ways..and have decided to stand and be pure until marriage....that is an awesome thing to do!!

 

[wackyjo]

It's Not a major thing..but it should be!!!!

 

[angeleyes21]

I believe that purity once was a major thing among youth but as time goes by, it is becoming less and less important to them. But something that should be said is that it is important to several youth today. There are some youth that are still holding out til marriage and being pure for Christ. I think that it is very very respectable for a young person today to live a pure life. They need to set examples for the other young people. They will definitely be blessed for waiting.

 

[FaithAlone]

I know that most youth are not very concerned with purity. I'm a youth pastor's wife and the youth girls and I recently went through The Bride Wore White by Dannah Gresh. I think it's a great book but I was pretty doubtful that it would make a difference, but the girls have really responded well from it. I think that so many young women don't understand that they are a priceless child of God and that they need to keep their bodies pure. I think they also learned things like what a guy has no right to say around you, what things to say if things move too fast, what things to talk about on dates and what not to talk about, that they should stay vertical and public with any relationship, and that what they wear can affect the kind of guys that will want to date them, don't date a guy unless he's a growing Christian, and more. It's been really good for them. The fact that older women took the time to focus on them and to be honest with them meant a lot. The guys in the youth group went over an awesome book called Wild at Heart that talks about what a real man is in God's eyes and how they need to step up and be leaders spiritually and in all other aspects.

 

[kiwichristian]

Wow thats awesome, FaithAlone Praise God that there are people making a difference out there. Its not all doom and gloom in this world

 

[DAllen]

I haven't read it yet but I have heard enough good things from enough reliable sources that Wild at Heart is a good book for guys. In other words I recommend the book as well.

-DAllen

 

[twoxyearsxgone]

Wild at Heart was amazing...God deff. spoke to me alot through that book. It really hit home. We are planning to do a reading, with our sr. high youth, of that book. I think saving yourself is becoming more important to youth today, kiwi as you mentioned we have some awesome people traveling and letting people know its cool to be a virgin, and i think alot of youth are catching on to the "trend" .

~in Him~
caruso

 

[LilRitt04]

Do you feel in today's society, youth are sticking to Living a "Pure" life for Christ? Waiting till Marriage? Do you agree that many of today's youth tend to take on the mindset of " Everyone around me is doing it, why can't I"? In the Bible it clearly states the consequences and such of not waiting, I guess my main question in all this is :

" Is "Purity" still a major thing amoung our Youth? "

Being a youth leader and being through that. I know I am only 17. But I did not wait until marriage. I think youth today are not. I think it isnt taught well enough i the school systems either. When I was in High School it was taught to the extensity that it needed to be taught. With our teenagers at my church are next lesson is actually called "Sex, is it right or wrong?" Its pretty blunt but its for youth and it has a bunch of verses in it surrounding sex. But I honestly being that I had sex before I was married dont think teenagers today care to be quite honest. They just do it because there boyfriend/girlfriend or whoever they are partying with does it.

 

[KagomeShuko]

I went the wrong way, too - when I was 19-21. . .b/c I thought I would marry the guy, so I did what he wanted - even two other guys to get what this guy wanted. .I shouldn't have been so blind!

However, I'm back to being the good girl I should be

Anyway, I have on good authority (and from skimming through the books myself) that "Every Young Woman's Battle" and "Every Young Man's Battle" are great books addressing this topic.

Stein Auf!
Bridget

 

[TheRickster]

As a youth pastor, and as I watch kids try to hold on to their purity I get the picture of someone holding onto a pole in one of Florida's huricanes... and their feet have flown out from under them, and all kinds of "debris" from this world is hitting them...
Some manage to hold on... some just don't have the will to make it...

Matt 7
24. "Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock:
25. "and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock.
26. "Now everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand:
27. "and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it fell. And great was its fall.''

... but... even if they do get carried away in the storm... Jesus is still the storm walker and if they cry out to Him with truly repentive hearts... He will lift them back up

Isn't our God Awesome!!!

Love ya more
Rick

 

[Jer]

I know quite a number of people who have got warped away from the truth of the bible through society. If you asked them a few years ago would they have sex before marriage then they would have said No, and they wouldn't have. Unfortunatly slowly over time they go away from God a bit, then a bit more etc. Most youth seem to go through a stage from about 14-17 or so when they start to go from God. Then they come back to Him about 17-19. During this time quite a lot can happen. For some reason I'm not really in this category, although I do have my own problems. For some reason just today someone asked me to have sex with them at a party! It was pretty shocking for me!

 

[dews]

In general, I do not think that most youth are reserving sex for marriage. Before we go jumping head first in fully blaming our overly sexualized society, we need to do our part in creating a safe open discussion with our youth about sex. Simply saying "God says it is bad, so don't do it" is not enough. We need to allow our youth to feel safe enough to discuss issues openly without fear of condemnation or ridicule. By doing this it will open the door for us to explain in a logical manner the ramifications of pre-marital sex and then connect it up with the very simple fact that God does not want bad stuff to happen to his children as a direct result of pre-marital sex. To often as Christians we have made our youth feel condemned for their natural tendancy to be attracted to the opposite sex - which incidentally, will often lead them to the very place that we are trying to keep them from.

 

[Trizm]

from earlier on in our lifes, like a little bit after puberty hits, we dont seem to have a firm stance on whether sex is okay or not, and as you already know one that doesnt stand for nothing will fall for anything. So its basically up to the partner or anyone else. So it can mostly be peer pressure. A lot of parents also dont talk about sex, and me being a male it wouldnt even be considered so bad if i did it (which isnt right). I just wish more parents would teach their children the importance of their virginity before its too late. Because we just go along with the crowd at first. Usually around 17 we know if we want to have sex or not so by then we know where we stand. but before 17 sex could be a fragile issue, and if they are good with women/men, we might go out and try it cause everybody else is doing it.

Please dont think anyone who has changed their ways as less of a person, chances are they didnt know what they were doing and hate themselves for it now.

 

[Pastor Glenn]

Being in teen ministry for over 20 years I'd say that the pressures to fit in are bigger than ever. Teens are bombarded by a society that says everything is permissive as long as you don't end up in jail. Teens today have little to no thought of consequences long or short term.
The thing I often say to them is " no one or no thing is worth risking your walk with God for or your eternity.