DZoolander
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Ohhhh, ok, well that explains it! I can totally see why you're sticking with the guy!
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He's never touched me again...he just jacks up the house and throws things.
You know that this is still a form of abuse, right? He keeps you walking on eggshells, afraid, on edge. Please put him out on the doorstep and change your locks.
From what you have shared here there doesn't seem much hope for change...better to let him go, keep him away, and get on with your life.
[/FONT]I'm good with the way things are right now...happy in my PEACEFUL home with my critters and my friends...and the wonderful ability to watch stupid movies and geek TV
I did!!! We are separated. I have a new home that he is NOT permitted in until such time as he has completed the DV course and we have gone to marriage counseling. It will be at least a year before I consider a full reconciliation.
I'm good with the way things are right now...happy in my PEACEFUL home with my critters and my friends...and the wonderful ability to watch stupid movies and geek TV
I wish you all the best RedPonyDriver.I'm good with the way things are right now...happy in my PEACEFUL home with my critters and my friends...and the wonderful ability to watch stupid movies and geek TV
I'm good with the way things are right now...happy in my PEACEFUL home with my critters and my friends...and the wonderful ability to watch stupid movies and geek TV
Staying in a situation where someone may kill you so that you can go to heaven could be considered suicide. At any rate, nobody should suggest such a thing.I believe in you can move away and stay away from him. But I don't believe in divorce though. Some find it confusing but what can a man do to me that I have to fear? If I die it only move on to a better place. But thats just me and I know that view isn't liked by many.
I believe in you can move away and stay away from him. But I don't believe in divorce though. Some find it confusing but what can a man do to me that I have to fear? If I die it only move on to a better place. But thats just me and I know that view isn't liked by many.
I'm glad to see you are sane and gave a proper reply here.Obviously you've never been in a choke-hold with a knife being held against you.
Ya know, if that's your attitude, I hope you are never in a situation where you are truly in fear for your life. Are you suggesting that I should be a martyr to all the other abused wives? Really? I have way too much more life to live.
And you answered your own question.Obviously you've never been in a choke-hold with a knife being held against you.
Ya know, if that's your attitude, I hope you are never in a situation where you are truly in fear for your life. Are you suggesting that I should be a martyr to all the other abused wives? Really? I have way too much more life to live.
Murder and suicide are two different words.Staying in a situation where someone may kill you so that you can go to heaven could be considered suicide.
Well going by the rules of this forum we cannot suggest divorce so its why I never suggest or even hint at it. Do I think marriage for life is fair if your spouse becomes abusive? No. As humans are instinct is to run away from that stuff. But I fear God far more then I fear an abusive spouse. Like I said though I didn't say the TC has to do anything. Its her choice of course. Just was sharing my view. I think the situation she is in is horrible and I am praying for her.At any rate, nobody should suggest such a thing.
Personally I think it's abominable to tell a woman that she should stay married to a man who tried to kill her, because it continues to put her in danger to still have that tie to him. And to use biblical speak to tell her sorry, you made your bed so lie in it, and aren't I better off than you for having made a better choice. And then to say that murder and suicide are different words - as if one was an OK choice. There is absolutely no compassion in any of that, no matter how sorry you say you feel for her.
RedPonyDriver, I'm glad that you have physical distance now. I believe that God is a God of compassion, mercy, grace and forgiveness. Sometimes those points get missed when people are getting all legalistic.