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Ukrainia
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I think many of the people here, myself included, get too caught up in comparing themselves to others. I see downsides almost exclusively when I see this. People compare themselves to who they want to be like, and they never measure up. A lot of people here (again - I include myself in this) see people who are at the pinnacle of fitness, or handsomeness, or intelligence, or wealth, or sociability and one's first reaction is "wow, I kind of stink." And the natural response - for me at least - is to shut down and to try less to improve than you otherwise would in attempts become better at those traits. I'd argue comparisons aren't even healthy if you're at the other end of the spectrum - if you really are immensly talented at something. Then, instead of sulking, the natural reaction is that of a pharisee "I'm glad I'm not like those people."
Their is a better course of action. Instead of asking "why am I not like them?" ask yourself "how can I learn from them?"
I used to wonder why some older people could be such mean crabs, while some had such great wisdom. Wouldn't it make more sense for all older people to increase in wisdom as they age? I thought of all the lessons you could learn and put to use over time, so it was a riddle to me why so many people didn't increase in wisdom as they got older. I think the answer is simple. Every day of our lives we face situations and we can act in a multitued of ways. Many will meet with some success, but many are likely to result in failure as well. It's how we react to failure that defines how we grow as people. I love this quote by Winston Churchill: "success is the ability to go from one failure to the next with enthusiasm." It's a succinct way of describing how people should go through life. Not in a dour mood, constantly comparing our selves to others. Instead, our failures and flaws should be springboards to improvement. Everyone fails, but the success stories are those in which people people think of tommorow, as not merely a place and time, but as an opportunity.
Their is a better course of action. Instead of asking "why am I not like them?" ask yourself "how can I learn from them?"
I used to wonder why some older people could be such mean crabs, while some had such great wisdom. Wouldn't it make more sense for all older people to increase in wisdom as they age? I thought of all the lessons you could learn and put to use over time, so it was a riddle to me why so many people didn't increase in wisdom as they got older. I think the answer is simple. Every day of our lives we face situations and we can act in a multitued of ways. Many will meet with some success, but many are likely to result in failure as well. It's how we react to failure that defines how we grow as people. I love this quote by Winston Churchill: "success is the ability to go from one failure to the next with enthusiasm." It's a succinct way of describing how people should go through life. Not in a dour mood, constantly comparing our selves to others. Instead, our failures and flaws should be springboards to improvement. Everyone fails, but the success stories are those in which people people think of tommorow, as not merely a place and time, but as an opportunity.