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Recently someone at my church around my age captured my attention, and I figured I should probably call her and ask her out. I spoke with her briefly a few times prior to this, probably about 20 minutes total. So I called her a few times and got a machine, and left a message. I didn't think it was a terrible one, just said I'd like to get to know her better and asked her to dinner.
Anyway, I got an email reply back politely declining, where she stated she was moving soon (which is true) and had to make decisions about her personal and social life. I replied and wished her well, and haven't spoken to her since.
So, my question is, what did I do wrong here? I'm guessing there is some comfort level issue at work because the response was via email? I'm not saying she was being dishonest in her reply, I really don't know, it's just that the method struck me as odd.
For a historical perspective, last date prior to that was about 8 months previous. Had dinner and watched movies a few times and hung out, but then I sent her an email about movies where I copy and pasted some showtimes in, which led to further conversation, me attemping to be funny, and her telling me I didn't need to impress her. I'm guessing this was a case of me not expressly communicating romantic interest up front and getting regarded as a friend instead. I told her to call me if she wanted to do something and she never did after that, so I figured that was that.
I really dislike being single, but I just have pretty bad luck in the dating game, with the common factor being me. I think I've got a lot better at socializing recently, but one other factor I think that might play into it is that I'm overweight; 6'3" 225, I think the max for normal for my height is 200.
Anyway, part of experience is learning from it, and I'm not sure I have fully done so yet, so if anyone feels like weighing in I'd appreciate hearing some other perspectives.
Thanks.
Anyway, I got an email reply back politely declining, where she stated she was moving soon (which is true) and had to make decisions about her personal and social life. I replied and wished her well, and haven't spoken to her since.
So, my question is, what did I do wrong here? I'm guessing there is some comfort level issue at work because the response was via email? I'm not saying she was being dishonest in her reply, I really don't know, it's just that the method struck me as odd.
For a historical perspective, last date prior to that was about 8 months previous. Had dinner and watched movies a few times and hung out, but then I sent her an email about movies where I copy and pasted some showtimes in, which led to further conversation, me attemping to be funny, and her telling me I didn't need to impress her. I'm guessing this was a case of me not expressly communicating romantic interest up front and getting regarded as a friend instead. I told her to call me if she wanted to do something and she never did after that, so I figured that was that.
I really dislike being single, but I just have pretty bad luck in the dating game, with the common factor being me. I think I've got a lot better at socializing recently, but one other factor I think that might play into it is that I'm overweight; 6'3" 225, I think the max for normal for my height is 200.
Anyway, part of experience is learning from it, and I'm not sure I have fully done so yet, so if anyone feels like weighing in I'd appreciate hearing some other perspectives.
Thanks.