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There's an argument made here reasonably often that porn usage escalates over time - in the type of porn being viewed. By that I mean - that someone may start out viewing something within the realm of "normal" - but over time that becomes insufficient to achieve it's goal - so they start looking for more and more hardcore (depraved) stuff. In a sense it's kind of like the arguments people have made in the past about drugs...like "eventually pot won't be enough, so you'll move on to coke...which will eventually not be enough...and soon enough you'll find yourself shooting up heroin in a back alley"
Mostly to the guys, is that really your experience? That what started out as just a normal interest and curiosity in sex eventually led you to someplace where you were watching obese midgets perform bestiality? lol
I ask because it's so foreign to my experience. I'm 47 years old - and for the majority of my life I had very little moral qualms about porn. It was simply something there. It achieved an end. My first exposure to it was finding a magazine when I was a little kid (and incidentally bringing it home to show my mom - hahaha - "what's this??"). From there I got a little older, began puberty, and took an interest in whatever magazines I could come across.
I remember SelecTV and it's scrambled stations - and spending late nights on Fri/Sat trying to fine-tune the UHF dial to find the sweet spot where I could eventually see an unscrambled boob. I remember when I moved out of the house and was old enough to buy a magazine myself. I remember my first g/f finding my stash of magazines. I remember when there were BBSes where you could spend a half hour downloading a single GIF. I remember when speeds increased and you could get stuff more easily.
Years and years of evolvement...and ya know...there wasn't a marked difference between what I wanted/hoped to see while trying to fine tune the UHF dial and what eventually became easily accessible. I found that I had fairly specific tastes in women, things that appealed to me, etc...all of which fell within the realm of what 99.9% of society would consider to be normal heterosexual relations. There really is no marked difference, and over a span of nearly 36-37 years, I can't say I've ever had the slightest interest in any depraved stuff.
So this whole "you become desensitized and need something crazier to get your fix" argument just seems foreign to me. It doesn't ring true.
I suppose this is mostly to the guys - but simply put - has your experience been different? Did your interests start out as normal - but turn into something that made you ashamed to look at yourself in the mirror over time?
Mostly to the guys, is that really your experience? That what started out as just a normal interest and curiosity in sex eventually led you to someplace where you were watching obese midgets perform bestiality? lol
I ask because it's so foreign to my experience. I'm 47 years old - and for the majority of my life I had very little moral qualms about porn. It was simply something there. It achieved an end. My first exposure to it was finding a magazine when I was a little kid (and incidentally bringing it home to show my mom - hahaha - "what's this??"). From there I got a little older, began puberty, and took an interest in whatever magazines I could come across.
I remember SelecTV and it's scrambled stations - and spending late nights on Fri/Sat trying to fine-tune the UHF dial to find the sweet spot where I could eventually see an unscrambled boob. I remember when I moved out of the house and was old enough to buy a magazine myself. I remember my first g/f finding my stash of magazines. I remember when there were BBSes where you could spend a half hour downloading a single GIF. I remember when speeds increased and you could get stuff more easily.
Years and years of evolvement...and ya know...there wasn't a marked difference between what I wanted/hoped to see while trying to fine tune the UHF dial and what eventually became easily accessible. I found that I had fairly specific tastes in women, things that appealed to me, etc...all of which fell within the realm of what 99.9% of society would consider to be normal heterosexual relations. There really is no marked difference, and over a span of nearly 36-37 years, I can't say I've ever had the slightest interest in any depraved stuff.
So this whole "you become desensitized and need something crazier to get your fix" argument just seems foreign to me. It doesn't ring true.
I suppose this is mostly to the guys - but simply put - has your experience been different? Did your interests start out as normal - but turn into something that made you ashamed to look at yourself in the mirror over time?