So many books I read warn against premarital sex, cos 'when you get married, you'll forever be comparing your husband/wife with your last partner'... Of course there are many other Christian reasons these books give for waiting, but this one always comes up.
I see so many younger Christians say that they couldn't cope with marrying a non-virgin because 'they'd compare me to the ex'.
As married couples, could you please be honest and tell me if that REALLY happens? Just, I've wiped pretty much every memory I have of my past sexual relationship (and get quite agro if someone tries to bring it up), so wonder if it has REALLY happened to married couples who didn't wait...
My thoughts have been that if you're ready to marry someone, you should have all ready dealt with your past sins on your own, so that shouldn't be as much of an issue (comparisons) as some people I see make of it.
Would appreciate some real life experiences of this, and whether you did find yourself comparing it. I understand this could be too hard for some people to share openly, so if you wish to PM me with your answer, feel free!
Sasch
I see so many younger Christians say that they couldn't cope with marrying a non-virgin because 'they'd compare me to the ex'.
As married couples, could you please be honest and tell me if that REALLY happens? Just, I've wiped pretty much every memory I have of my past sexual relationship (and get quite agro if someone tries to bring it up), so wonder if it has REALLY happened to married couples who didn't wait...
My thoughts have been that if you're ready to marry someone, you should have all ready dealt with your past sins on your own, so that shouldn't be as much of an issue (comparisons) as some people I see make of it.
Would appreciate some real life experiences of this, and whether you did find yourself comparing it. I understand this could be too hard for some people to share openly, so if you wish to PM me with your answer, feel free!
Sasch