I was fortunate that I was able to move first and then deal with cleaning out the old house. I have to get the old house sold, though, because I can't financially afford to maintain 2 houses. I know that I made the right move. My new home does not have memories weighing down on me. My kids and I have new memories to make.
It's hard letting go of the old house, though. We lived there 28 years and my husband had done a good bit of work over the years. It's hard, also, because my husband died in that house. Three of my kids understand and even though it is hard to let go of their childhood home, they know I'm in a better position where I am now. I pay the monthly fee and the grass is cut, snow removed, leaves raked.
My oldest daughter is upset about the house being sold and I'm trying to help her with that. My husband's family is most upset about the house being sold. There's a lot of baggage there--lots of control issues. My moving meant that I do not live under their noses anymore and they can't keep track of my movements.
My prayer now is that the house sells quickly. I really can't afford 2 houses.