Age Appropriate Marriage?

[.Nevermore.]

At work today, a child (he couldn't be older than 10) asked me how old I was. I told him, and he asked if I was married. When I told him no, he got a very serious look on his face and said, "Guess ya better hurry up! You gotta be married before 23. No boy wants an old lady" I was like....uh....what?? I guess the point of this is the question, are children given the wrong idea of needing to be married at a younger age because being older is unattractive? firstly, I'm not even out of college, and live on campus. I'm not even old! Not sure why this bothered me so much, but oh well. Sorry for the rant.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Oh, wow, you mean the younger generation actually understands the values and idea of marriage in these times?

 

[.Nevermore.]

Oh, wow, you mean the younger generation actually understands the values and idea of marriage in these times?

I suppose some do. It just took me off guard..

 

[Amber.ly]

To a ten year old you are way old. Just like a young 20's views a 40 year old.

Its all about perspective.

 

[Socktastic]

At work today, a child (he couldn't be older than 10) asked me how old I was. I told him, and he asked if I was married. When I told him no, he got a very serious look on his face and said, "Guess ya better hurry up! You gotta be married before 23. No boy wants an old lady" I was like....uh....what?? I guess the point of this is the question, are children given the wrong idea of needing to be married at a younger age because being older is unattractive? firstly, I'm not even out of college, and live on campus. I'm not even old! Not sure why this bothered me so much, but oh well. Sorry for the rant.

You're old to a child .

Children think anyone over the age of 20 is old; i'm not even sure it's due to the wrong ideas being implanted, it's just an inability to grasp that at 10, 20 is old, but at 20, 30 is old. In the 20's you're supposed to be a 'grown up' so you're supposed to do grown up things, like get married and have babies. It's just their perspective.

I just put it down to them being children, the discussion that follows can be rather entertaining. Sometimes it's just because they can't fathom 23 as being young, sometimes it is because of family expectations. You don't know until you get the ball rolling.



Amber posted the same thing.
I'm such a copycat.

 

[broken_one]

LOL.

The thing is, there is a "self life". Just that it's (usually) relative.

 

[Toro]

Oh, wow, you mean the younger generation actually understands the values and idea of marriage in these times?

From the sounds of it his "values" of marriage are no more deep than that of Hollywood, "No boy wants an old lady" Marriage ist and shouldnt be about " I dont wanna be too old and single" it also shouldnt be about "because she is "young"", people you marry get older, unless you have a Hollywood meaningless marriage.

To a ten year old you are way old. Just like a young 20's views a 40 year old.

Its all about perspective.

I thought my sister was OLD and she is somewhere around 7 years different

 

[Sapphyre]

Haha, I'm going to echo the "you're just old to a child" sentiment.

When I was 13 I was a counselor at a daycamp. My kids were pre-kindergarten (about 4 years old). They ALL thought I was sooooo old.

 

[.Nevermore.]

I tend to over look the fact the 10 is insanely young. It's just strange for me to be called old. Lol

 

[Toro]

I tend to over look the fact the 10 is insanely young. It's just strange for me to be called old. Lol

Fear not, you were born within 10 years of the internets invention, you cant be mistaken as old just yet.

 

[Guy Incognito]

If older women were't attractive to men, there wouldn't be such a thing as cougars

 

[kittysbecute]

At work today, a child (he couldn't be older than 10) asked me how old I was. I told him, and he asked if I was married. When I told him no, he got a very serious look on his face and said, "Guess ya better hurry up! You gotta be married before 23. No boy wants an old lady" I was like....uh....what?? I guess the point of this is the question, are children given the wrong idea of needing to be married at a younger age because being older is unattractive? firstly, I'm not even out of college, and live on campus. I'm not even old! Not sure why this bothered me so much, but oh well. Sorry for the rant.

When I was 20 my cousins (8-14 years old) were surprised that I didn't have a boyfriend or wasn't engaged, they said that they thought most people would get married around my age. I don't know if they really believed it though.

 

[manillabar]

One summer, I was teaching VBS at the church and the first day I was with two boys who came early. I think they were like 8 and 10 or something. I was 20. They asked how old I was, and I said "how old do you think I am?" and I got everything from 27-45 . Another little girl in my sunday school class (she was 5) told me when I was 19 that I was getting taller and that meant that it was time for me to get married... kids are funny like that Meanwhile, in the past few years I've had friends getting married and engaged and I think, "but we're just baaabies" but I guess not really anymore haha

 

[K9_Trainer]

Well, it's probably because he is 10. You probably DO seem old to him.

There are instances where parents have filled their childrens' head with ridiculous nonsense like needing to be married by a certain age otherwise you're "too old" or "All the good ones are taken". But more than likely, he was just a kid looking at things from a kid's perspective.

 

[Megablue]

I actually find that to be one of those cute things kids say rather than anything I'd be alarmed about. Kids have no idea at that age how life works. They just figure when you are an adult you get married and have children because that's what they see the adults in their life have done. Don't worry about what children say about you being old. I can say pretty confidently that it's going to be quite likely that when he is your age, he won't be thinking it's time to hurry up and get married.

 

[twnsrkr]

Biblically, 20 is the minimum age for marrying. When to marry depends on many factors such as finances and the couples ability to maintain the covenant.

 

[Rory]

I know many beautiful women much older than 23 sooo yeah, just kids saying dumb things. I wonder if the kid had a max age for guys lol