A question not about the opposite sex (Warning: May be tempting for those who SI)

[tubaboy963]

I have been cutting for a month. What's the big deal? Why do people consider it bad? It works for relieving stress. What's the big deal?

 

[RED that's ME]

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[Loopi]

As a self harmer, who has currently been self harm free for 5days, i can see where your coming from. But i also know why i have chosen to fight this. Self harm does help relieve stress, and other feelings, and i wont deny that, because its the reason ive been addicted to it for nearly four years.
The big deal,and the reason its bad, is cus your hurting your body, the temple god has given you for your spirit. Christ took all the pain so tat you wouldnt punish your body like this. Enough blood was shed for your stress, your bad feelings, when jesus was crucified, and it hurts him alot to see you shed blood when you dont need to
There are other ways to cope, i know it can often seem like self harm is the only way, but there are other, much less destructive, and just as effective, if not more so, then self harm.
Feel free to pm me if you wanna chat.
xxxxxx

 

[beetlequeendiva]

Hey Tuba - I think the big deal is that it's not the best way to deal with things. It relieves stress for most people but not for very long - it doesn't tend to take away the underlying problems due to the fact that you're only dealing with it on the surface. If you are going to SI please be careful because you might injure yourself more badly that what you intend to. If you have any questions about SI I would be happy to answer them - I have been self injuring for about 17 months now!!!

 

[Cerulean_Butterfly]

Hun, cutting is a HUGE deal. It's dangerous. And when I first started, there was ALWAYS a reason as to why I was doing it. Whether it be parents, school, friends, or just stress in general. But after awhile, there STOPPED being a reason. There wasn't always a reason why I was cutting. I was just doing to feel good. It had a hold on me. And the cuts get deeper. The small ones you used to do, stop being good enough. It gets harder to control. Maybe JUST cutting is good stress relief now, but soon, it wont be enough. Just trust me on this ok? Stop now while you still can. Stop now before it grabs ahold of you. Stop now before it gets out of control. Please. I don't want you to end up like me... Please.

You'll be in my prayers.

-Jo.

 

[WhereareyouGod?]

I have to agree with everything else that has been said, SI is a very very tempory solution, the high lasts about an hour if that and then you realise what you have done and it just adds to the stress or pain or whatever you were or werent feeling before. Please like Jo said get out of it while you still can, it will get harder and harder as the months go on.

Love n Hugs

Lizzie

 

[20misti05]

As a cutter...I have to agree w/ what's been said already--as hard as it is to admit that. Cutting-or any form of SI- is only temporary. Think about it--if it really worked, we'd only have to do it once. Why then must we continue to do it? B/c it's only temporary.
Jesus is the permanent thing...
Misti

 

[DAlex]

Self injury can kill you. I posted earlier but I guess it got kicked out. But SI is also dangerous. I can't give a warning of danger without my message getting banned so I'll leave it at that.

 

[tubaboy963]

I have all the head knowledge about SI. I know what it can and will do eventually if I continue. It's something that really interested me last year from a research perspective. I've talked with people about it and why they do it. I found out very few people have the same reasons for doing this very common activity. So I know all the arguments that you are giving me. I know cutting is temporary, but right before I started it felt like God left me. Not me leaving Him, but Him leaving me. How can I pray, when I don't know if he will hear or if He does...I don't know. It's very easy for me to just say "I give up!"

 

[sparrow]

You need to try to rely on facts not feelings. It may have felt like God has left you, but the fact is - he didn't. He's still there. And he will never leave you or forsake you, it says that in the Bible.

God does hear your prayers and he is right there with you, right now. Just because you can't feel him, doesn't mean he has gone. He loves you, and would never leave you. You are his precious child.

 

[Godsgirl481]

I have been cutting for a month. What's the big deal? Why do people consider it bad? It works for relieving stress. What's the big deal?

God gave us ways of coping with stress, anger, fear, depression....crying, screaming...whatever. Cutting has replaced that and is now acting as your emotional release. THAT IS TERRIBLY DANGEROUS. I have been a cutter for about 6 years...but I have been hurting myself in other ways since I was 7 years old. That is 17 years...almost. It become my main way of letting out emotions. I can't even cry like I was created to do. It causes hard to the temple of God...and it can eventually kill you!!. SI does not go away or get better. It gets worse. Much like a drug habit. Eventually, small cuts no longer do the trick you have to cut deeper and more. Then eventually, that no longer helps...so you have to go deeper. There are people I know that was cutting limbs off...it does not get better...it gets worse.

 

[Godlovesusall]

I see where you are coming from, the question "Why is it so bad?", I have asked myself that before. It is not so good because of what we are doing to our bodies. We are ruining the flesh. We aren't dealing with our real emotions, and we are hiding behind a quick drug. Trust me, it takes time to realize this, but eventually, you need to realize it if you want to get better. I am definately not saying it is easy, or that it will stop overnight, I cut myself again last week after about eight months of not doing it, but, it isn't the best thing to do. You have only been at it for a week, (it is a long time), but you can stop now, before it gets to late and you become dependant on it. IM me if you have any questions. God Bless, good luck!

 

[Lexi/is/a/JesusFreak]

cutting is a big deal. it may relieve stress but it can make u feel stupid, guilty, and ugly. and thats just for starters. its also very dangerous. you can hit a vain and bleed to death. plus God said not to harm ur body. its his temple. i cut for over a year. i have been SI free for 4 months. i could not be happier. God Bless and Good luck. I will pray for u.

 

[Godsgirl481]

Cutting is like a drug. It is a easy escape for an internal pain. It numbs the surface so that you not have to face the pain...and feel the pain. It allows you to punish yourself for something God has already paid the price for. It sheds blood when Christ has already did this. It devours and takes over your entire world. Nothing seems to be okay until you have cut or hurt yourself in some way. It tells God that you do not need Him...you can do it all alone. It is the exact same thing as doing drugs, having sex, not eatting, binging and purging. They are all simular. They are quick fixes for a hard problem. In the end...it never solves anything. The pain always comes back and it comes back even more. The pain never stops growing...thus the need to cut more and deeper. It is like looking for that "high" and good feeling it gives. It will ultimatley lead to my death if I do not get help.......

 

[tubaboy963]

I am now to a point where I'm doubting if God even exists or if he does if he's as compassionate and caring as I have been taught. I do not think that my life is significant anymore. I'm interchangable with other people on the planet. I don't even know why I'm giving you an update, because I think it's a waste of your time to read/worry/care/etc. about me. That just makes me even more upset.

 

[Bevlina]

We've all been there tuba, and, we all walk through the valley and come out unscathed and filled with faith. It's amazing just what quiet time with God does. That simple solitude where you can almost reach out and touch Him.
I think that's why David spent alot of time in solitude, he went through various phases if you study the psalms deeply.

 

[Godlovesusall]

You are not wasting our time tubaboy. We have walked that dark road before. We are here to listen, and to help. We will be here till you are better. Talk to someone in person...someone you trust completely, make a buddy system type deal, where you can call your friend anytime if you need to talk. You will get through it. God is there, I have questioned His existence before too, I have been through all of it, but God is real, I can't explain it, but you will know it for a fact soon enough. Good luck, God Bless. Take care.

 

[tubaboy963]

You are not wasting our time tubaboy. We have walked that dark road before. We are here to listen, and to help. We will be here till you are better. Talk to someone in person...someone you trust completely, make a buddy system type deal, where you can call your friend anytime if you need to talk. You will get through it. God is there, I have questioned His existence before too, I have been through all of it, but God is real, I can't explain it, but you will know it for a fact soon enough. Good luck, God Bless. Take care.

To actually talk to someone in person is a big step for me. I tried once, and the guy really didn't care. All he said was that he couldn't relate. I've talked to a few other people through IM, but when I see them, we both pretend it doesn't exist.

 

[Godsgirl481]

I am now to a point where I'm doubting if God even exists or if he does if he's as compassionate and caring as I have been taught. I do not think that my life is significant anymore. I'm interchangable with other people on the planet. I don't even know why I'm giving you an update, because I think it's a waste of your time to read/worry/care/etc. about me. That just makes me even more upset.

first...you are never a 'waste of our time'. This is what this forum is all about...venting about your desires to cut and why you want to...so talking about it will help you fight that urge. I have never doubted God's existance. I couldn't even make myself not believe because I grew up with a Satanist mother and saw evil and good fighting...I just know that there is a God and a devil. However, I have been soooo mad at God for what He allowed me to go through...I threw Him and His 'bible' out the window. I didn't want to have have anything to do with Him. You know what God has shown me? I, like you, do matter on this planet. God has allowed me to be hurt and go through such awful things because 1) He can't stop free will from happening but also 2) It has allowed me to build up such strength within myself. I can related to the abused, I have a humble and compassionate heart...I love people who don't love themselves. And what a tremendous testimony I have...what a walking, breathing, living example God has made me on how trials in life can make one a stronger and better person. If I grew up rich with perfect loving parents...who knows what I would have been. A rich, cold hearted brat maybe. I don't know.

God has not left you...and if you allow yourself to peak through the window of the wall you have built...you will see Him there waiting for you. I never knew how to pray. I grew up in a Satanist home. I was tought how to have a close intimate relationship with the devil. I learned how to pray by simply talking to the stars at night. I would pick a star...and then talk to it like it was my friend. God heard me...and He's there. When I was 8...I wanted to die. I looked at the stars and asked Him to take my life...take me home with Him. I didn't really know what Heaven was..but it was where God lived...and I wanted to live there too. That night...He filled me with such love...and gave me dreams of Heaven. I don't know if it was really Heaven I was dreaming about...but it was a great place. God hears you...even if you talk to yourself in your head. He hears you and is always listening.

 

[Godlovesusall]

I so understand that, I told my counsellor when I started doing it and he made all these weird faces, and looked shocked and asked me how it felt, so, needless to say it wasn't easy, but you can't give up. God loves you. One person you can talk to, who will understand, and be very caring, and non-judgmental, is a youth pastor, or even your regular church pastor. He/she is Christian, and will be able to help you through the Faith. God understands what you are going through. He also paid the price for us, so whatever you are hurting for, don't solve the pain in an instant, for an instant. Talk it out with someone you really trust. Take care. God Bless.