A question for the ladies.

[JeffofGallifrey]

I just spent almost an hour trying to put a simple latch on my bedroom door. Six screws.

Ladies, does it matter if a guy is a handyman? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is that to you?

 

[folklore]

Considering that I live on a ranch, any potential boyfriends need to be handy, lol.

 

[Sketcher]

You can get better at that, you know.

 

[Goodbook]

Did you succeed?
You can learn the basics I think at community mens sheds. Or ask someone at church, retired folk may be able to teach you.

I think a man should be able to at least know one end of the hammer from another. I don't do scales, but I would say fairly important. If he doesn't want their house falling apart! If you going to live in the countryside, VERY important.

 

[MehGuy]

Lol, I'm not even close to being a handyman.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Maybe like, a 3? It's definitely a preference. Even if he's not experienced, but is good with his hands and is able to learn things from watching youtube vids.

Growing up, my stepfather was a retired general contractor who always had projects going around the house. I'm actually quite handy myself and have no issues installing doorknobs, dog/cat doors, repairing drywall, fencing, hammering nails, painting, installing carpet, doing a little bit of framing and hanging/texturing drywall, even a little electrical work like installing ceiling fans and lights. I did all of these things when I was a kid. He had me helping put shingles on the roof when I was all of 11 lol.

I hate the thought of having to pay somebody to do things that my partner and I could do ourselves.

 

[JeffofGallifrey]

Did you succeed?
You can learn the basics I think at community mens sheds. Or ask someone at church, retired folk may be able to teach you.

I think a man should be able to at least know one end of the hammer from another. I don't do scales, but I would say fairly important. If he doesn't want their house falling apart! If you going to live in the countryside, VERY important.

Of course I succeeded. Otherwise, I would still be in the hallway, trying.

 

[Goodbook]

well, sometimes it takes time to do things right. I wouldn't worry too much about it. You learn.

 

[High Fidelity]

You can get better at that, you know.

This. You carried on until you finished the job and I'd like to think that puts you in higher standing(as it can and does relate to so many different scenarios) than being able to put a door up in 5 minutes.

I think the fact you finished it and the fact you're even concerned about it speaks to a mentality of self-improvement and the commitment to see it(and other things where applicable) through.

 

[Travelers.Soul]

I agree with what Patrick said above.

Is a guy being a handyman a plus? Sure, but a lot of those skills can be learned and it certainly isn't a make or break quality. You stuck with it, you finished it, and that is the important bit.

 

[LadyOfMystery]

I just spent almost an hour trying to put a simple latch on my bedroom door. Six screws.

Ladies, does it matter if a guy is a handyman? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is that to you?

It doesn't matter, as long as he's willing to try or look on youtube for tutorials. Also as long as he's okay with me watching and laughing at him.

Just kidding on that last part. Kind of. Okay laughing a little bit...but not AT him, with him.

I don't expect him to know everything, sometimes it's good to get a professional to do some things. But yeah, around the house stuff like changing a light bulb, fixing a hinge, replacing something... handy is a good thing.

 

[Swan7]

I don't have a handy man in my life so I learned how to build my own computer Lol!

 

[ReesePiece23]

An hour? Wow, you made that last.

What were you struggling with, exactly? (I just can't picture it.)

 

[miss-a]

It doesn't even rate a 0. I want him to be a kind, Jesus-loving, considerate, fun, positive, good guy. While living happily ever after, we can endeavor together to figure out how to get the step ladder open. And if we can't get it open, we'll hire someone.

I'm not looking for a man slave. I'm looking for a best friend.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Even if a man is a handyman your house still doesn't get done. My boyfriend is a plasterer and also can do other building stuff I've been waiting 4 weeks to get my kitchen floor to be finished but oh if it was a customer you know the story.


Once I had a sink leaning on pieces of wood for 2 months while the kitchen was getting fixed took 4 months

 

[K9_Trainer]

Of course I succeeded. Otherwise, I would still be in the hallway, trying.

To me that's all that would really matter. You took on the project, you worked and you completed it. You learned, and there's a good chance you'll be able to do it again next time. That's really all handiwork is about. My boyfriend built an entire fence on his own. He's not professional, he'd never done it before. He researched, watched videos and then did it.

 

[sundewgrower]

I'm a good handy man since I helped build our family house, my business involves a lot of DIY,
and I'm able to take care of most stuff. However, I can't cook really, and have other issues.
In the end being willing to try, not making assumptions, and being motivated will make a guy stand out for DIY.
Pre-existing skills are good, but with some time they'll be learned, and be put to good use.

 

[stage five]

I just spent almost an hour trying to put a simple latch on my bedroom door. Six screws.

Ladies, does it matter if a guy is a handyman? On a scale of 1 to 10, how important is that to you?

Women need to know that you can go at something with determination until you are both satisfied - not giving up and watching tv or falling asleep.

 

[Sketcher]

Even if a man is a handyman your house still doesn't get done. My boyfriend is a plasterer and also can do other building stuff I've been waiting 4 weeks to get my kitchen floor to be finished but oh if it was a customer you know the story.


Once I had a sink leaning on pieces of wood for 2 months while the kitchen was getting fixed took 4 months

Well, you know what they say about personal assistants - they keep other people's lives organized all day, so theirs aren't organized at all.

 

[JeffofGallifrey]

An hour? Wow, you made that last.

What were you struggling with, exactly? (I just can't picture it.)

The screws wouldn't go into the wall.

It helped when I figured out how to set my drill to push screws in, not pull them out. And about 30 minutes in, I figured out how to lock what YouTube calls the "ratcheting chuck."