Hello all,
My friend's step-daughter has been a real challenge for him and it all culminated in something pretty bad last night. She has been caught in the past sexting with other boys and she has gained the attention of some older boys because she is more developed for her age. In the past she has had her phone and internet privileges taken away from her.
Last night she was caught sexting again and when my friend went through her phone he found out earlier in the evening she had snuck an 18yr old HS senior into the house and had sex in the basement. He is contacting the boy's parents as well as taking away her internet and phone for good. They are also moving her bedroom to the room adjacent his and his wife's and removing the door to prevent anyone from being able to sneak around into the room.
All that is well and good but it doesn't help with the root of the problem which is she feels she can just do this sort of stuff and it's normal and there is no value to the acts she is performing.
He confided in me as I have a strong Christian background and really value sexuality as a gift you give to someone you truly love. I'm not sure how to help him with instilling such values to his step-daughter. They aren't a highly religious family so I'm not sure church and church group may work like it did for me.
What can I do and what advice can I give to help them in their time of need. I feel it is a key moment where if they don't progress down the right path that things will go from bad to worse and they may lose their daughter.
My friend's step-daughter has been a real challenge for him and it all culminated in something pretty bad last night. She has been caught in the past sexting with other boys and she has gained the attention of some older boys because she is more developed for her age. In the past she has had her phone and internet privileges taken away from her.
Last night she was caught sexting again and when my friend went through her phone he found out earlier in the evening she had snuck an 18yr old HS senior into the house and had sex in the basement. He is contacting the boy's parents as well as taking away her internet and phone for good. They are also moving her bedroom to the room adjacent his and his wife's and removing the door to prevent anyone from being able to sneak around into the room.
All that is well and good but it doesn't help with the root of the problem which is she feels she can just do this sort of stuff and it's normal and there is no value to the acts she is performing.
He confided in me as I have a strong Christian background and really value sexuality as a gift you give to someone you truly love. I'm not sure how to help him with instilling such values to his step-daughter. They aren't a highly religious family so I'm not sure church and church group may work like it did for me.
What can I do and what advice can I give to help them in their time of need. I feel it is a key moment where if they don't progress down the right path that things will go from bad to worse and they may lose their daughter.