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Thank you very much for all of the effort that you put into this. I will remember you in my prayers.

I had my concerns about another man in the beginnig. Faithful is drawing that from my previous threads and other conversations. As of right now I do not think that another man is an issue. I am taking all of the advice under consideration. Faithful thank you for your scripture based...

From the time that I told her that she had a budget and she was going to stick to it has been about 2 weeks. She stuck to it pretty close. It may have been because I removed all the extra money. She is very honest when she wants to talk about these things. I don't think that she is doing...

I agree 100%

Yes I know that she can do that but A legal separation agreement can help limit your liability for any debts that your spouse may rack up during your separation, assuming you live in a separate property state.( We do not) Spouses who live in community property states do not get this...

I have started putting money on to a cash card that only I have access to. The problem is that they are our accounts. So she overdraws them I still take the hit on it. I need her to open her own account. I told her today that she has to get a job this month. So I am setting myself up to...

EBL (eatenbylocousts) I have been accused of being impulsive. So everytime that I get mad and want to make a quick decision I usually go talk to my Chaplin and take some time to calm down. We don't have a church home. When I went home on leave we went to church and she has gone a couple of...

It seems that we all have something in common. The wishy-washyness is frustratiing. At some point I decided that I was going to keep being her husband untill she provides the paper work. Its part of beinge the example to follow. Once she asked me "Do my bad decisions that I am making now...

I agree. I have told her that I am not going to convince her to stay with me. If she wants to stay then it is because she wants to. I am just going to keep doing what I am doing. If that involves writing letters and emails and calling to see how she is doing then so be it. That is me that...

So I'm deployed to Iraq since June 08. In August I get the Dear John (Phone Conversation). In short she says "I don't know if I am going to be with you when you get home" *Key YO-YO to go down*(the YO-YO is mental, and emotional representation) My heart is destroyed and I spend about four...

Thanks Jen. All of that does make a lot of sense. I do feel that this friend is in the danger zone. I just can't do anything about it. Up untill now she did feel that my job was more important. She probably does still feel that way because I can not show her any change in me untill I come...

A quick question abouts Jens secret about "Just A Friend." My wife has just a friend that she swears to me is just that. In the past this would not a have been a problem for me. But I am on my second deployment to Iraq and come to find out our marriage was not as good as I thought it was...

I have been reading the posts for awhile and I agree with Arhoab. If I could suggest a book for you to read it would be "Captivating." It may help you find yourself again. To me it sounds like you have lost yourself. Just because you leave your husband or not does not mean that you are going...

The reason that I hit the nail on the head is because I have been that way with my wife. With the "I'm a man part" I never vocalized it just believed it. Like I said before I needed an eye opener. It sounds like you may have already made up your mind as to what you are going to do. It is...

There are more things going on here than just sex. Yes sex is a vital part of a healthy marriage. But this does not sound like a healthy marriage. Does it? To be honest my wife tried to tell me before I deployed that she would leave me if I continued to act the way that I did. At that time I...

I am not trying to give advise but maybe some insight to what he may be feeling. That in turn may be able to help you understand what it is that you need. First off I am deployed to Iraq right now. I am also going through a very rough time in my marriage. I thought that I had a very good...

Well I am still here. I wouldn't say that in the past couple of months anything has gotten any better. She still does not tell me she loves me and I found out that she is calling her "Just a Friend" and talking for an hour or more after midnight. With encouragement from the Chaplin I have...

The fire is here and it's burning everything.

You dont know how much that just helped me. God bless you.

I feel out of sight out of mind. In your experiances do these sort of situation resolve themselves after the families are reunited? I dont feel like she cares what she is doing to herself or our family. I asked her if she thought it would be this bad if I was there and she said probably not...