What should I do with this monster in law?

Thank you guys so much each one of you gave me much to think about. However I don't think I mentioned that moving out is not an option at the moment. It's going to take us a little while longer. And his mom sees that we are looking at houses bigger than hers in an area she used to live in that she liked, plus she wants to keep control of our new household, thinking she will have authority over what happens solely because she's my husband's mom. Things are getting worse. I ignore her, I disengage. I show her where certain things are in the bible because she claims to love God so much. I've talked to my husband about it. He went through this with his ex. She got treated the same way as me and my bf stood up for her and caused his mom to cry. Now he doesn't want to do that because he feels if he does it's going to be worse this time & he's going to stop talking to his parents all together. I've been praying God will open his eyes and slowly he has been seeing.But he's still slow to male a firm decision to move. I am not scared of instability , I trust God will always make a way. I am scared though that this will ruin my marriage that I prayed for since I knew what marriage was or cause a rift between my hubby and his parents.

akmom said:

Yeah, you've got to "leave and cleave." There's a reason for that biblical advice. Living with parents sounds convenient on paper, but it comes with so many unwritten inconveniences that it's not worth it. Set aside money for a rental deposit and get a small apartment. You won't regret it!

So many people say they are "saving up money" by living with parents, but when you factor in rent and sharing everything you buy, I bet you're not saving much of anything. I tried this for two weeks. I'd rather live in a tent!

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You are so right! I'd rather live in a tent too. And we don't get much saved, after factoring rent we pay them and all the living costs and extra helping out we end up doing to keep the peace we could be paying rent at some small place. A one bedroom or even studio is good enough for now as we don't have children yet. And as much as I want them thank God we don't have kids yet because this would be so much harder.