toxic inviduals

My uncle wife is a b*****. She ignores me. She treats her children like trash. She doesnt move well with people. She is very cold, her negative attitude makes me uncomfortable. What hurts me the most is the way she treats her kids. Really adorable kids, very smart and innoncent. Her mother treats like [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. You can see changes in behavior with the children, they are angry and grumpy. I feel like i want to teach the mother a lesson, but what good can i do with my resentment. All it makes me, take that anger at school. Whenever i see girls like her at school, it frustrates me and makes me want to lash out. I feel nostalgic around these people. I feel like i sort of lost it, even around the next girl i see walking pass me, who gives me this cold look. I realise the kind of resentment made me miserable. I need deliverance from people that disturbed me.

Well, seek christ to help free me from these people. They affect me psychologically. I feel like part of me was lost by the resentment and frustration. I am willing to forgive, but it comes back and there is that resentment I feel the same way again. I have to overcome it or else i will in a prison.

blackribbon said:

Why does this woman affect you so much? You don't have daily interaction with your aunt, do you? You aren't in a position to change her either. Your uncle is married to her, not you.

My experience is that when I ask God to intercede with certain personality types, He actually puts more my way because He wants ME to change and become more Christlike in my behavior. To become "free" of this anger, you are going to have to learn to let go of it and not let it affect you so much. That means facing it and not avoiding it. And you are projecting your expectations on people that may or may not be realistic. That girl giving yo you a "cold" look, may actually not be looking at you but is in deep thought about something non-related. How can you know what girls are "just like her" by looking at them?

Again, why does this woman have so much control over your psychological life? She is only your aunt.

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I think i have this expectation she should be like the people around her more sociable, warm and friendly. When you see that she doesnt talk with anybody, her arm crossed, pretty much ignoring people around her. How could i not notice? Everyone is talking, laughing, it makes me curious why? Why are they like that? There was a girl in my school who was like that, she dropped out of school, addicted to drugs, always see her on the corner all by herself. I just don't want people to end up in the corner like that, be miserable for the rest of their life. It hurts to see that. I know i can't change anything about them. I think thats why it disturbs me. When I see people fall, I think its the hopelessness of not able to help them.

Also i can move on. which I do. Right now, each time I'm prompted to see them, through my family. I don' go. I get this bad feeling each time i think about going. Bad things had happen to people, whenever i have these feelings about them. Sometimes I have this feeling, then it goes away, and i see them everything is fine. When its still there, it goes away when something bad happens to them. My friend committed suicide, I don't think about him anymore after he took his own live. I don't think about the girl in college who I had a crush after she had a car accident, after a late night party, warning her to be careful and focus in school . She never got along with me. My mind pondered upon it. I knew something inevitable is about to happen to her, when it did i never thought about her again. My guts is 100% accurate. I follow it after all the things that happen in my life. I'm very close to Christ, I always pray for my enemies and those who hurt me. those who i avoid because i don't want bad things happening to them. There was this mother, family friend, who i admired, i resented her son, because he was a jerk. He would insult people close to her, one day he insulted someone close to me, a family member, I was angry at him. I looked at the mother, I couldn't do anything, cause she was right there, distraught afraid, what was i going to do to her son. I have been thinking about that mother for eight years, cause she wanted to see me several times, and I avoided her. Each time I was prompted to see her, i had a bad feeling and I was angry because her son would be there. I was angry for a very long time. I would pray everyday to Christ, to strengthen and help me forgive such people. Help me move on. The thoughts were less, but it was still there, about the mother and son. That mother had daughter it was her wedding, my family notified me. Although, I didn't go, I never thought about the mother and son after that ever again. I saw them. The mother seemed fine. Son is different, not jerk so much anymore. All that anger and resentment dissipated. Its almost like as if something is protecting me. Now i know its Christ. I am not worried about such people anymore, cause if i'm worried its for good reason.