How do you mean?As to living 60 years single: do you not think that the Lord can give grace to help in time of need?
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How do you mean?As to living 60 years single: do you not think that the Lord can give grace to help in time of need?
I have a question that enters into the land of controversy, but I seek an answer from those with familiar belief and knowledge of this area. I've tried since my teen years to grasp this without discussing it because it's such a hot button. I don't know the answer to this so I wanted to get some feedback. My question is coming from the foundation divorce and remarriage, apart from adultery is a sin.
If a person has divorced and remarried in un-biblically, how does the church handle this? Also, if the person ever acknowledged this sin what should the person do? It seems as though there is a lot of situations where this can end terribly bad due to the sin.
Twin, i agree it should be forgiven. The problem is multifaceted. Is the church condoning of such divorces and remarriage by allowing them to stay in their church? Can their truly be repentance if they stay in the relationship when Scripture calls it adultery? Is the church to apply forgiveness to other relationships and let them remain as is, even if there are children in their family?
How so? Are you assuming she would remarry?
So the only grounds for me to divorce my wife is if she cheats? Good. Because that's my only condition! Anything else I think we can weather...with God's help of course.
You would think but the enemy hates marriage, it's harder than it looks. give it time you'll see. The trick is that there is no divorce, keep that in mind and that you love her, and lots of prayers.So the only grounds for me to divorce my wife is if she cheats? Good. Because that's my only condition! Anything else I think we can weather...with God's help of course.
I do not see your situation as permission to divorce. Every man will do as he wishes, but I believe it is God's deapest desire to restore the relationship between you and your wife. Other factors are to be considered as well. For example, if your wife expresses remorse/regret for her unfaithfulness, asks to be forgiven and wishes to remain married to you that places you in a very tough spot with God.
I've been through this very thing so I am not speaking out of ignorance.
As I said, in the end you will do as you wish, but I urge you as a brother in Christ to think long and hard before making that jump. I think there is reason to believe the day will come when you wish you hadn't divorcrd her.
On the other hand i'vr seen many take the other route and (seemingly) receive God's blessings, perhaps beyond what one would expect. Seemingly.
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My apologies, Cwitr, I did not pay close enough attention to your first post. I responded thinking you wanted out...that she had cheated. Senior moment.
You would think but the enemy hates marriage, it's harder than it looks. give it time you'll see. The trick is that there is no divorce, keep that in mind and that you love her, and lots of prayers.
Its the same with us we met online I moved 800 miles to be with my wife. we have been together 8 years 5 married. God blessed our marriage we had no money to do and we just could not wait it had been 3 years already so we were going to get married in my brother in laws back yard. We started to make plans and then, God worked we ended up getting married in a beautiful garden and had the reception at a restaurant, we paid for the photographer but everything else was paid for. Still with outside stress you can forget that. We never argue about anything in the marriage it is always out side forces. I am not telling you this as wishing it on you, just saying so you will be prepared it takes a lot of work. Better to be prepared then not to you know.If I ever get into the feeling of "can I do this for the rest of my life" I simply look at the proof-positive evidence of how not only God brought us together, but kept us together. There are so many things that are beyond coincidence for both of us that there is no question in either of our minds that God has ordained our union. Trust me, if it were just us, we NEVER would have made it to this point. He is the Sustainer.
Yes, I did read it. Thanks. I would not go so far as to say there is no out, because Scripture does give an out. But I do agree the intent in Scripture is to stay.Hi mike,
Well, I don't know if you read my post, but I'm not in agreement that God gives us an 'out' for adultery in any form. Either of the mind or of the body.
God bless you.
In Christ, Ted
Yes, I did read it. Thanks. I would not go so far as to say there is no out, because Scripture does give an out. But I do agree the intent in Scripture is to stay.
Matthew 19:8-9What 'out' does Scripture give us?
Matthew 19:8-9
He said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”
Hi mike,
Why do you think he excepted sexual immorality?
God bless you.
Ted
Divorce should be taught as never an option. There can be separation but not divorce. That is why it is so very important to be sure of who you marry. I always tell couple thinking of marrying that if there is anything, no matter how small, that you can't live with about the other to not marry. It will not change and it will become a matter of bitterness and contention. Marriage isn't about happiness it is about commitment.I appreciate the replies. I'm still attempting to wrap my head around this.
Twin, i agree it should be forgiven. The problem is multifaceted. Is the church condoning of such divorces and remarriage by allowing them to stay in their church? Can their truly be repentance if they stay in the relationship when Scripture calls it adultery? Is the church to apply forgiveness to other relationships and let them remain as is, even if there are children in their family?