This new "friend" of mine

oh gee that's annoying.
well first I would pray for that person. Jesus loved us while we were still sinners.
I think Peter tended to put his foot in his mouth all the time. Then.. ask God for wisdom and grace in interacting with this person.

If its' just hanging out after church ok but be careful to not always spend time with just one person. Also, it could mean hanging out together with other people.

Faithfulandtrue said:

So I wanted to get some godly advice on a situation about a new friend I made at church. This person apparently said they had issues with keeping old friends and some people in the church keep asking me to be friends with this person. I'm like ok, but to be completely honest I sometimes feel like they are dumping this person on me and forcing me to be bffs. Now normally I never am mean or turn down friendships but this particular person really pushes my button. My biggest pet peeve is people who talk ALOT and don't let you talk at all. Like when your about to say something they interrupt you mid sentence and you just have to deal with it. I feel bad because I do want to be friendly to this person but I absolutely can't stand ALWAYS being the listener and never being able to say what I need to say. So what do you guys think I should do?

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Well, I understand that the situation may be trying to your patience. Although, I do see Gods influence in the situation. Often times when God wishes for us to become better he puts us through a trial and teaches us whatever it is he wishes to teach us. For example, job was taught to never doubt Gods decisions through his trials. I see this being a trial to you, considering that God may be teaching you that sometimes it's better to listen than to speak. Proverbs 17:27 whatever version you have, it's basically saying that a wise person speaks rarely. Now, moving from the personal cross that you are bearing and the potential reasons you are bearing it. Let's talk about the potential light of God that you can be in this persons life. It would seem that this person is looking for someone to talk to and also that they trust you. God has put you in a situation where you can be a really good influence on this person, or a terrible one. Consider who this person is and let God guide you in what to say and do. This means prayer for His will and direction and not what you want. Remember that God has put us here to glorify Him, not to live for ourselves. Those who seek to gain their life will lose it and those who seek to lose their life will gain it. Matthew 16:25

Faithfulandtrue said:

So I wanted to get some godly advice on a situation about a new friend I made at church. This person apparently said they had issues with keeping old friends and some people in the church keep asking me to be friends with this person.

*It's not up to you alone to be friends with her, this
is something others are to do also...that is, to show
her the agape of the Lord.
While you maybe suitable to the task, don't
allow others to force you to be the only one to reach
out to her in agape.


I'm like ok, but to be completely honest I sometimes feel like they are dumping this person on me and forcing me to be bffs.

*Let those who are trying to pressure you know
how you feel about their tactics.

Now normally I never am mean or turn down friendships but this particular person really pushes my button. My biggest pet peeve is people who talk ALOT and don't let you talk at all. Like when your about to say something they interrupt you mid sentence and you just have to deal with it. I feel bad because I do want to be friendly to this person but I absolutely can't stand ALWAYS being the listener and never being able to say what I need to say. So what do you guys think I should do?

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*Do be friendly to her but don't take on more than
you are able to handle.

Personally, I believe you should speak with the other
ladies about accepting an equal share of showing
agape to the "talkative lady."
That way you aren't feeling stressed/and or pressured to be her best friend forever while
others can go on their merry way and avoid
being friendly to the talkative lady.

You don't have to be friends with the person just be nice.
I hated it when I was told be nice to x person at church they are new.
Yeah you totally don't have to do that.

Goals, pursuits, achievements - are very common positive and negative experiences, especially on the subject of food health and exercise, study or work. Since we as Christians live in a global multicultural society, cultural and racial differences can cause limitations on certain subjects or issues, and I always wonder why there are different cultures and racial differences when Adam and Eve had sinned, and that our Father God Jehovah knew that they were heading on a path towards multiculturalism where sin brought up these racial differences and cultures, along with the rest of the crises such as hunger, poverty, terrorism and corruption:.
When Jesus returns in his Second Coming and transforms us with genius-intelligent minds and measure-perfect bodies of Christ, I strongly believe that we will communicate on a spiritual level, like Jesus himself, since he exists spiritually in every Christian heart, and it is this unique spiritual evidence of communication between Jesus and ourselves, that we too will experience spiritual or supernatural communication by visiting one's heart -
specifically, the mind - almost like our new future-coming minds of Christ have inbuilt mobile phones with all the memory technology to remember every conversation spoken from day one of our new minds of Christ:.
Definitely very exciting future with our victorious and resurrected perfect Jesus Christ who will soon rule and moderate the world when it comes to a lifetime of business (work/employment) and recreation (hobbies, sports, athletic challenges) activities when we live together inside the most advanced construction-safe and free-for-all home accommodation: the kingdom of God on a new disaster-free paradise Earth.;'*';.