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I think I should preface this by saying the following post might sound kind of selfish. I'm not intending it that way, I'm just personally convinced that this brand of Christianity is how I feel most faithful to Christ.

So with that said...

I've been having a really hard time figuring out what church I'm most comfortable at. By comfortable, I don't mean complacent, but rather not feeling constantly on guard that a teacher or lay person would slip an unorthodox teaching by me.

I know that realistically that's kind of an impossible standard, but I've been at churches in the past where I felt like "I was in good hands" (my college pastor is kind of my ideal, he was intellectual, equanimous and our group was very equally balanced between critical scholarship and serving others).

If you want my theological orientation, I'm probably closest to Rob Bell's line of thinking. I originally read Velvet Elvis almost 10 years ago, that and Jesus Wants To Save Christians were both instrumental in the re-development of my faith.

I find churches that are mindful of history and reflect the context (cultural, religious, historical, political, etc) of scripture in their theologies, and who are kind of "globally conscious" in serving others to be the most compelling.

Does that sound like a specific denomination to anybody?

I've gone to everything from Eastern Orthodox and Roman Catholic to Anglican and Presbyterian, plus a variety of nondenominational churches. I'm usually not too fond of Baptist churches, I'm trying to get away from the basic and contemporary forms of worship.
 

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When I think about serving others, here are some thoughts that come to mind (though whether these actually constitute serving others is another topic). Which of the following, if any, is at the forefront of your mind:

1. Activism (e.g. for rent control of better wages or homeless rights)
2. Soup kitchen, shelter
3. A green, local, and/or fair trade business
4. Visiting and helping those in hospital, hospice and prison
5. Standing between enemies in a warzone
6. Adopting a kid who's nearby
7. Adopting a kid who's far away
8. Missionary work nearby
9. Missionary work far away
10. Working harder to be able to spend a significant portion of income funding others doing any of the
above

Or some other?

These are just some thoughts. You might say "all of the above!" but, instead, consider which is at the forefront of your concept of service. Then, ask yourself, in as honest a manner as possible, why that one is at the forefront of your concept. If you are a fallen human, you might discover that the why is rather shocking. Well, at least I always seem to when I ask myself questions like that.
 
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Dear Elwood. You love Christ, why not follow His Commandments, and show your love for Jesus?
In Matthew 22: 35-40: Jesus tells us: " The first and great Commandment is: Love God with all thy heart, with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. The second is like it: love thy neighbour as thyself." In verse 40: Jesus tells us: " on these two Commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets." God is Love, and God wants loving sons and daughters.
In Matthew 7: 7-10: we are told: " ask and you shall receive," here we ask for Love and Joe, then thank God and share all love and joy with our neighbour. We keep asking for Love and Joy, then thank God and share all love and joy
with our neighbour. ( all we know and all we meet, friends and not friends) God will see our loving efforts, and God will approve and bless us.
The Bible tells us: " Repent and be Born Again," change our selfish and unloving nature into loving and caring for our neighbour. The Holy Spirit will help and guide us, and Jesus our Saviour will lead us all the way: JESUS IS THE WAY.
We might stumble and forget at times, but then we ask God to forgive us, and carry on loving and caring.
To love is a Christian`s strong weapon, with love we can overcome all anger and wrong behaviour, and love is very catching. We will find that people will treat us the same as we treat people, simply treat all we meet as we would love to be treated. That is easy to remember, and soon we will be as loving and caring as God our Heavenly Father wants us to be. I say this with love, Elwood. Greetings from Emmy, your sister in Christ.
 
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I suggest you also post this in Looking for a Church forum, they may be able to direct you there as well.

You say you are trying to get away from contemporary style worship - my advice would be to fit into the denomination first, and then find a church that offers the worship style. A lot of churches offer two worship styles, or one of the churches down the street will seem to have a different worship style than the one that's twenty minutes away.
 
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I think I should preface this by saying the following post might sound kind of selfish. I'm not intending it that way, I'm just personally convinced that this brand of Christianity is how I feel most faithful to Christ.

So with that said...

I've been having a really hard time figuring out what church I'm most comfortable at. By comfortable, I don't mean complacent, but rather not feeling constantly on guard that a teacher or lay person would slip an unorthodox teaching by me.

I know that realistically that's kind of an impossible standard, but I've been at churches in the past where I felt like "I was in good hands" (my college pastor is kind of my ideal, he was intellectual, equanimous and our group was very equally balanced between critical scholarship and serving others).

If you want my theological orientation, I'm probably closest to Rob Bell's line of thinking. I originally read Velvet Elvis almost 10 years ago, that and Jesus Wants To Save Christians were both instrumental in the re-development of my faith.

I find churches that are mindful of history and reflect the context (cultural, religious, historical, political, etc) of scripture in their theologies, and who are kind of "globally conscious" in serving others to be the most compelling.

Does that sound like a specific denomination to anybody?

I've gone to everything from Eastern Orthodox and Roman Catholic to Anglican and Presbyterian, plus a variety of nondenominational churches. I'm usually not too fond of Baptist churches, I'm trying to get away from the basic and contemporary forms of worship.

Based on what you've said here, my inclination is to suggest a liturgical church in one of the mainline denominations.

The Evangelical Lutheran Church (ELCA)
The Episcopal Church
The United Methodist Church
Etc.

How traditional or liturgical the local congregations are will vary. I would say the Episcopal Church would be the most consistently liturgical, followed by the ELCA. I would say all mainline churches consider scholarship & context for Scripture to be very important.
 
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Based on what you've said here, my inclination is to suggest a liturgical church in one of the mainline denominations.


I have no objection to the churches listed, but really any of the mainline churches would meet your requirements. So would the more liberal community or non-denominational churches. After all, Bell is theoretically evangelical, and seems to have served in a non-denominational church, though his theology seems to be basically mainline.

That's a pretty large range of churches. But in practice there are significant difference among individual congregations within a given denomination (or non-denomination). So I'm afraid you're going to have to try a number of congregations. You can often get a feel for their orientation from their web sites, or maybe a phone call to their pastor.
 
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