I'm agnostic/non-theist. I'm going to be visiting relatives soon who are very religious.
When I was younger, I used to spend a lot of time with them and enjoy their company, but now it's just.... every car ride evolves into them asking me how I don't kill people. They say they are interested to hear my opinion, but they will repeat their questions and spend most the time passively smiling at what I say with no response. Every time I tag along to their bible study because I want to spend time with them instead of just waiting for them to get back.... it evolves into me being isolated by the conversation they have about the "non believers" (it is a youth/young adult group, and it's where their friends can vent) when I'm just sitting there, not saying anything. Every time I try and share my music, they won't listen to it for "no reason". Conversations where they include their explicit opinions, end as soon as I offer mine. Every time I went along with them to church, it would end with the speaker looking directly at me as if they had told him to, when they ask for anyone "ready to accept Jesus Christ to come forward"---I'd say it's a coincidence, but it's happened since I was really young.
When we get along, we get along really well. There are moments where we all say the right thing, and the conversation is filled with laughter and no sort of set-backs, but it's gotten very rare. No visit of the late has ended with me wanting to stay longer---when we were younger, I used to beg my parents to let me stay another day, another week. But now? I drove home at 3 in the morning because I didn't want to wait until 8 am. They've stopped talking to me almost altogether and I've made no attempt to speak to them. It's been half a year since I last saw them, and now I'm driving to a family reunion.... at their house. I'm ready to just burn the bridge, let them go, but I used to be so close with them and I know that I'll get hyped up just as much as I used to, and then feel let-down as soon as the repetitious interaction begins.
As I said, it's been a long time since I was really in good terms with any of them. I remember a specific time, at another reunion (of sorts) when I tried to just stay away from them and barely speak to them.... but I felt a compulsion to talk to them, thinking they would act different---and they always do at first! As if they're just as happy to see me as I am to see them (picture: I get out of my car and they run towards me, and I run towards them) but it wears off. And it makes me feel sad about it because it's clear to me that they can't get along with me because of their beliefs, and I can tell that they want to just as much as I do. Truthfully, when we got along, it was because I adopted a "christian" attitude or understanding and closed the door to my own non-theism (and anti-religiousness) and it was such a degrading feeling to do to myself. I stopped doing that, dulling myself, and they vanished. I'll let them stay away from me. But now I have to see them.
What am I doing?
When I was younger, I used to spend a lot of time with them and enjoy their company, but now it's just.... every car ride evolves into them asking me how I don't kill people. They say they are interested to hear my opinion, but they will repeat their questions and spend most the time passively smiling at what I say with no response. Every time I tag along to their bible study because I want to spend time with them instead of just waiting for them to get back.... it evolves into me being isolated by the conversation they have about the "non believers" (it is a youth/young adult group, and it's where their friends can vent) when I'm just sitting there, not saying anything. Every time I try and share my music, they won't listen to it for "no reason". Conversations where they include their explicit opinions, end as soon as I offer mine. Every time I went along with them to church, it would end with the speaker looking directly at me as if they had told him to, when they ask for anyone "ready to accept Jesus Christ to come forward"---I'd say it's a coincidence, but it's happened since I was really young.
When we get along, we get along really well. There are moments where we all say the right thing, and the conversation is filled with laughter and no sort of set-backs, but it's gotten very rare. No visit of the late has ended with me wanting to stay longer---when we were younger, I used to beg my parents to let me stay another day, another week. But now? I drove home at 3 in the morning because I didn't want to wait until 8 am. They've stopped talking to me almost altogether and I've made no attempt to speak to them. It's been half a year since I last saw them, and now I'm driving to a family reunion.... at their house. I'm ready to just burn the bridge, let them go, but I used to be so close with them and I know that I'll get hyped up just as much as I used to, and then feel let-down as soon as the repetitious interaction begins.
As I said, it's been a long time since I was really in good terms with any of them. I remember a specific time, at another reunion (of sorts) when I tried to just stay away from them and barely speak to them.... but I felt a compulsion to talk to them, thinking they would act different---and they always do at first! As if they're just as happy to see me as I am to see them (picture: I get out of my car and they run towards me, and I run towards them) but it wears off. And it makes me feel sad about it because it's clear to me that they can't get along with me because of their beliefs, and I can tell that they want to just as much as I do. Truthfully, when we got along, it was because I adopted a "christian" attitude or understanding and closed the door to my own non-theism (and anti-religiousness) and it was such a degrading feeling to do to myself. I stopped doing that, dulling myself, and they vanished. I'll let them stay away from me. But now I have to see them.
What am I doing?