I dont know where else to put this because the forums used to have a divorced section
But Awhile back I caught my Ex wife cheating. I told her we could go to counseling to work it out but she ran off with another guy assuming the grass would be greener. The divorce was pretty nasty also, which is why we will never be friends. from the slandering and mud slinging to did to me in and out of court , i cant even shake her hand (we have kids so theres some level of having to deal with her)
this was years ago.
Now my life is much more stable than before. I have a new woman in my life and we are planning to be married also. she's a fellow believer and very supporting, not to mention she loves my kids like her own.
now., the problem is, my ex wife wont leave me alone. what i mean by that is this-
1) she's suddenly best friends with my mom and sisters. she's finding ways to invite her self to my family events. when i find out she's even been invited i just dont go. I 've questioned why anyone would think i'd be ok with that and they tell me to grow up and get over it. pretty insensitive but i cant control others actions
2) shes attempted to add me on social media under a fake name. I found it was her because her profile picture had her and someone else in it in the preview page. I quickly blocked her
3 ) when she found out that i was in a relationship she yelled at my kids demanding to know why they didnt tell her about my relationship and wanted to know all about 'whats going on'. my kids told her that its not their place to talk about that, she left with her bf and she should be happy with him.
its just lately ive been finding her pop up more and more. for example, my birthday came and she messaged me happy birthday and sent a wrapped gift through our kids. I told her its not appropriate to do things like that and to stop it. by putting the boys names on it i cant tell her keep it because it would come off like i'm rejecting a gift from our kids - catch 22.
question is, what does she want and what should i do ?
But Awhile back I caught my Ex wife cheating. I told her we could go to counseling to work it out but she ran off with another guy assuming the grass would be greener. The divorce was pretty nasty also, which is why we will never be friends. from the slandering and mud slinging to did to me in and out of court , i cant even shake her hand (we have kids so theres some level of having to deal with her)
this was years ago.
Now my life is much more stable than before. I have a new woman in my life and we are planning to be married also. she's a fellow believer and very supporting, not to mention she loves my kids like her own.
now., the problem is, my ex wife wont leave me alone. what i mean by that is this-
1) she's suddenly best friends with my mom and sisters. she's finding ways to invite her self to my family events. when i find out she's even been invited i just dont go. I 've questioned why anyone would think i'd be ok with that and they tell me to grow up and get over it. pretty insensitive but i cant control others actions
2) shes attempted to add me on social media under a fake name. I found it was her because her profile picture had her and someone else in it in the preview page. I quickly blocked her
3 ) when she found out that i was in a relationship she yelled at my kids demanding to know why they didnt tell her about my relationship and wanted to know all about 'whats going on'. my kids told her that its not their place to talk about that, she left with her bf and she should be happy with him.
its just lately ive been finding her pop up more and more. for example, my birthday came and she messaged me happy birthday and sent a wrapped gift through our kids. I told her its not appropriate to do things like that and to stop it. by putting the boys names on it i cant tell her keep it because it would come off like i'm rejecting a gift from our kids - catch 22.
question is, what does she want and what should i do ?
