What should I do about my situations (if anything )?

PoseyLynn1

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Hi, I'm new here.
I need some advice and prayer about some trying situations in my life.

First, i still have feelings for my ex. From what I know, he isn't saved, but while we were dating, he started to take interest in God and Jesus. He even asked me where a few Bible verses were! Anyway, I've been having a really hard time dealing with our breakup, and I need some peace and guidance from God on what to do. This guy makes me happy, and where he is strong, I am not, vise versa. The reason why I am talking about him in present tense is because we are still friends and never really stopped talking. I've been praying for his salvation.


My best friend recently came out of the closet and is dating another female. My parents really wanted me to leave her and tell her she is in sin but I didn't. They told me that I was accepting her sin and I would be turned gay too if I wasn't careful. They are not letting me hang out or talk to her any more (unless other straight people are there). I feel conflicted because I think Jesus wants us to show those who are wrong love, but I also don't want to go to hell.

I've recently noticed that my dad has been saying some pretty rude things to me. Yesterday, he said I would be worthless once I start hanging out with my ex again because I wasn't raking dirt fast enough. He always calls me lazy and says that I do everything halfway. He told me I wasn't dependable when I fell asleep instead of doing his laundry a few minutes ago. He threw my phone across the room.

I'm also in college, and my grades haven't been the best. I really want to be a doctor, so I'm going to really kick the next chemistry class out of the water.

I'm afraid I'm testing the waters too much by still liking this guy. I also feel like I've been burdening others with these problems. I feel like I've been in a dark place ever since the breakup. Its helped me learn more about God's love for us, but it just seems like, ever since then, bad things have been happening. I need some prayer for patience and peace. Any advice would be welcome too. I've never been through something like this and I need some help... and a hug. I feel like God may have turned his back on me, or that I'm hoping for the wrong things, or something.

Thank you.
 

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If you want to be a doctor, you don't have time to focus on anything else but school. Or it is just going to be just a dream you had wish you did. Rely on God to bring you to the right person. Do not try to make things happen. You don't have time anyway. And some day you will miss your dad.
 
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PoseyLynn1:
Since you're in college and studying to be a
doctor, I'd say focus on that-- medical studies
are going to require a lot of your attention.
Medical school isn't easy and in the time I
was in college taking different medical courses,
I didn't have time for other interests such as
having a boyfriend or trying to work out complex
relationship matters.
My life was church, work and school...when I did
have time off, I spent it relaxing and enjoying time
with family or treating myself to a micro-vacation.

If your ex is serious about seeking the Lord he
will make the effort to connect with a church or
with a minister who can help him.

After I was away from church for several years...
I found my way to a church one Sunday morning
and continued going whenever there was a church
service. I talked to the minister and to another elder
about things I'd been through and before too long
I was a regular member of that congregation while
I lived in North Carolina.
 
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Hi, I'm new here.
I need some advice and prayer about some trying situations in my life...

Hey Posey,

How is your prayer life? The things you mention are quite complicated and require great prudence. Be sure you are staying close to the Lord in prayer and let Him guide you through each step. Are you familiar with John Henry Newman's poem, Lead, Kindly Light? You will be in my prayers.

God bless,
-zip
 
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It sounds like a lot of dramas going on affecting you.
You need to focus on what God wants you to do with your life, not everyone elses right now.

Those friends, boy and girl, dramas are not good for you, and you prolly not their only friend.
Prayer would be to be close to Jesus and only let people into your life that he would be friends with too. Some ppl,want to skirt round the edge and play with temptation. You just keep close to Jesus.

What you can do is lift those up to prayer and also allow stronger christians to pray for them. Remember those folks also have parents too that worry or care about them, you dont need to be their mom.
 
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Fearlessness and honesty go together if communication between partners become a relationship journey before reaching the finish line that is marriage, and life after marriage is having kids if enough income is provided and also with government income assistance if needed:.
Fearful personal thoughts or questions can keep communication on a lock and unlock list basis, just like your mobile phone if protecting your favorite music files for example, from audio files where you might have recorded your voice to remember something important at the time when you had no pen and paper to jot it down - so that if you "delete all" then all unimportant audio messages will be removed except your favorite music files:.
As for open and fearless communication where secret questions and thoughts have been locked away, it would definitely require maturity, especially while Christ's maturity and wisdom are with you spiritual-wise, so that it is important to listen without ridicule, then smile politely and giggle if and when at the right moment to ease your partner's tension if he or yourself were to unlock any of those secret questions or thoughts -
One classic example: ''I'm afraid your parents might reject me''.;'*';.
 
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I'm afraid I'm testing the waters too much by still liking this guy. I also feel like I've been burdening others with these problems. I feel like I've been in a dark place ever since the breakup. Its helped me learn more about God's love for us, but it just seems like, ever since then, bad things have been happening. I need some prayer for patience and peace. Any advice would be welcome too. I've never been through something like this and I need some help... and a hug. I feel like God may have turned his back on me, or that I'm hoping for the wrong things, or something.
Thank you.

God has not turned His back on you, It can be hard to hear Him sometimes when you have a lot turmoil going on. I think you're trying to figure out how you can have everything you want your way but what does God say? Seems like you already know the guy you have feelings for is not good for you and he's not a Born Again Christian. You can't take fire to your bosom and not get burned. Focus on your studies and if your friend is serious about Christ, he'll find Him. God has all kinds of ways of saving people and He's never failed yet.

Maybe your dad is stressed out because he keeps seeing you having relationships with people he doesn't consider good for you. Not to mention your growing up so he has less control. When was the last time you and your dad spent some quality time together? Maybe you could take him out, just the two of you and spend some time together.

As for your lesbian friend, how did your parents find out she came out? I think all you can do is reassure them that regardless of your friend who came out, you're still the same person. You're friend's coming out has nothing to do with you and they don't have anything to worry about. Being gay isn't contagious and bad behavior can be had just about anywhere but if they want other straight people around, is that such a big deal right now since you are still living in their home?

Lastly pray for everyone involved including yourself. God sees the end from the beginning and He knows what's best.
 
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