Hello All,
I just wanted to write about some issues that are effecting my heart. Well just to give a quick history. I was raising my 16 year old brother who is now going to be 19 years old b/c my grandmother who is very elderly was raising him but ended up in a nursing home. After much prayer and support, my grandmother received her healing. Then the table turned and I ended up in the ICU and allowed her to stay in my home , just for a week. When I got home DISASTER HIT! She had gotten an apartment, took all the money out of our joint bank account, brought people over to my home to remove my brother without notice. My brother and I no longer speak, it was about a week before his 18th birthday, and I had legal custody of him. Anyways, I was extremely sick with an infection that had spread to all my organs including my heart and brain. My problem with her is that :
-she is very evil towards me. She cussed me out the first time that I was in the ICU fighting for my life. She never came to visit me, but just brought up nonsense and tried to start fights at the hospital.
-this second time, she left me sick and financially with nothing.
-After I spoke my mind, she did pay me back in her own timing $1,000.00 of the money, but it wasn't about the money it was about how she treated me.
-She also does not want me to have a relationship with my brother and has torn us apart.
I still stop by and see her every blue moon, maybe like 3-4x a year. She is now back in a nursing home and want my support, but I don't know how to feel. I DONT attend any HOLIDAY or Family events. I just visit sporadically like 3x a year if I feel like it.
My only FEAR is that something will happen to her and that I will feel GUILTY. Do you think that I should cut off all contact? Or do you think that what I am doing is right? I have forgiven her, but I am still very hurt by how I was treated. Every time I am around her, her attitude, and demeanor really upsets me. I can only stay like 15-20 minutes before she starts on a rampage. I need advice please on what to do.
* quick side note: my grandmother is like my mom because she raised my brother and I. There is a huge age gap between my brother and I.
I just wanted to write about some issues that are effecting my heart. Well just to give a quick history. I was raising my 16 year old brother who is now going to be 19 years old b/c my grandmother who is very elderly was raising him but ended up in a nursing home. After much prayer and support, my grandmother received her healing. Then the table turned and I ended up in the ICU and allowed her to stay in my home , just for a week. When I got home DISASTER HIT! She had gotten an apartment, took all the money out of our joint bank account, brought people over to my home to remove my brother without notice. My brother and I no longer speak, it was about a week before his 18th birthday, and I had legal custody of him. Anyways, I was extremely sick with an infection that had spread to all my organs including my heart and brain. My problem with her is that :
-she is very evil towards me. She cussed me out the first time that I was in the ICU fighting for my life. She never came to visit me, but just brought up nonsense and tried to start fights at the hospital.
-this second time, she left me sick and financially with nothing.
-After I spoke my mind, she did pay me back in her own timing $1,000.00 of the money, but it wasn't about the money it was about how she treated me.
-She also does not want me to have a relationship with my brother and has torn us apart.
I still stop by and see her every blue moon, maybe like 3-4x a year. She is now back in a nursing home and want my support, but I don't know how to feel. I DONT attend any HOLIDAY or Family events. I just visit sporadically like 3x a year if I feel like it.
My only FEAR is that something will happen to her and that I will feel GUILTY. Do you think that I should cut off all contact? Or do you think that what I am doing is right? I have forgiven her, but I am still very hurt by how I was treated. Every time I am around her, her attitude, and demeanor really upsets me. I can only stay like 15-20 minutes before she starts on a rampage. I need advice please on what to do.
* quick side note: my grandmother is like my mom because she raised my brother and I. There is a huge age gap between my brother and I.
