Hi! I'm a 30-something mother of 4 and I've been married for 13 years. I came into this marriage with insecurities, low self esteem and a low level of self worth. No person is to blame and that is something I must work out within myself.
Early in our marriage, my husband had issues with inappropriate contentography and keeping it secret from me. He's had issues with staring at women in lustful ways. I voiced my concerns and pray about it constantly. From my knowledge he has not viewed that trash in several years. I continue to pray. However, the wandering eye has not ceased. I worry that a lustful seed will flourish into something more. Of course, my inner issues have not improved; rather opposite.
I lost 50lbs thinking that would satisfy my husbands desires. I don't deny him sexually. But I still feel unworthy, disgusting and undeserving. These feelings never go away. Sometimes these feelings become dark thoughts, but my kids are what keep me from acting on those thoughts.
Conversations with my husband about these issues usually end with the blame on me. I know I have issues to sort out, but I wish I had someone to support me through it all.
I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice or just someone to listen, but I needed to write because I have no one else.
Early in our marriage, my husband had issues with inappropriate contentography and keeping it secret from me. He's had issues with staring at women in lustful ways. I voiced my concerns and pray about it constantly. From my knowledge he has not viewed that trash in several years. I continue to pray. However, the wandering eye has not ceased. I worry that a lustful seed will flourish into something more. Of course, my inner issues have not improved; rather opposite.
I lost 50lbs thinking that would satisfy my husbands desires. I don't deny him sexually. But I still feel unworthy, disgusting and undeserving. These feelings never go away. Sometimes these feelings become dark thoughts, but my kids are what keep me from acting on those thoughts.
Conversations with my husband about these issues usually end with the blame on me. I know I have issues to sort out, but I wish I had someone to support me through it all.
I'm not sure if I'm asking for advice or just someone to listen, but I needed to write because I have no one else.