I'll show by example what my kind of feminism is.
It is Women in Management, one of the student organizations when I was in Grad School, which provided many forums and presentations related to the special issues professional women would face once they graduated. Covering everything from lack of role models to the special problem of a 2 career families. INCLUDING families with children. Oh and to my potential benefit for there was a pretty good chance I would have ended up in such a marriage.
No hint of man hating. I would likely have ended up being an officer in the organization except they went for a 5 person staring committee. I was not comfortable with what would be in effect a shared top spot.
Oh and ladies willing to do the physical labor. But not stupid proud about it. I recall on in particular who was short and often carried in full cases of wine. Not super short, but short enough that trying to lift such to a counter space was exceptionally awkward. No problems asking me to do that last part.
Or a female camp director with the YMCA who was far from pleased that the administrator insisted that then needed a to have a male along on what should have been an all female trip. Good for me! She knew I understood chain of command and knew she was in charge (and she was good at it). Again a balance. First convenient stop (which meant first stop unless racing desert heat) she would have the girls put the back panel back in place. It was a struggle, took 3 or 4 girls several minutes to do a job one brute like me could do in seconds.
But once done she had no problems with using the brute she had on hand. The point was that the girls had to know they could do it, not that they had to refuse any male help.
BTW the girls were as good as any bunch of guys at most if not all camp tasks. What they lacked in physical strength the more than made up for by following directions.
I have no problems with the kind of feminism that basically just says "Don't think I can't just because I'm female". In fact say that and you have this brute to deal with and possible a brute in a very foul mood, for you would have just insulted all the women and girls I mentioned and also my mother (Phi Beta Kappa in Chemistry at UCLA).
You do not want to insult my mother, I am an atavistic brute in a few ways.
