Can you live without sex?

[memoriesbymichelle]

Can you live without sex?

What if something were to happen to you today that would prevent you from ever having sex again? Would you survive?
What if you get married and then something happens to your spouse and they can no longer have sex? Would you leave them over it? Cheat on them because of it?

I am living proof that some of us do not NEED sex to survive and yet countless times on this forum I hear people comment how they just cannot live without it. So it caused me to ponder what would happen if...........now for me, it is not as important as it is to some of you, but I just choose to not do it out of wedlock. Truth is, there might be something that prevents it from happening in the future even if I were to get married. I'm OK with it. What about you?

 

[Theofane]

Can you live without sex?

I may not a choice in the matter. I've been gifted with celibacy, you see.

 

[Bridgit]

Can you live without sex?

What if something were to happen to you today that would prevent you from ever having sex again? Would you survive?
What if you get married and then something happens to your spouse and they can no longer have sex? Would you leave them over it? Cheat on them because of it?

Yes, I can live without it, but I miss it and some days much more than other days (maybe that's the hormones acting up!?). This is one of the reason I want to get married but it is definitely not the main reason. Having a husband who loves me close to the way Christ loves the Church, is far more important to me.

 

[exitstageright]

Can you live without sex?

What if something were to happen to you today that would prevent you from ever having sex again? Would you survive?
What if you get married and then something happens to your spouse and they can no longer have sex? Would you leave them over it? Cheat on them because of it?

I am living proof that some of us do not NEED sex to survive and yet countless times on this forum I hear people comment how they just cannot live without it. So it caused me to ponder what would happen if...........now for me, it is not as important as it is to some of you, but I just choose to not do it out of wedlock. Truth is, there might be something that prevents it from happening in the future even if I were to get married. I'm OK with it. What about you?

In GENERAL,it is easier for a woman to go without sex than it is for a man.I have found,in my experiences,that sexually, women make BETTER christains than men. More women attend church than men. More women are involved in church than men.

Jesus,when he walked this earth,was a very kind,sensitive,caring,and a compasionate man. He cried when he heard of Lazarus'death. Today,in our society,if a man showed his sensitive side in public, he would be called a sissy. I have read that some people feel that Christianity sissifies men. I do not agree. I am christain,and I am no sissy. In my high school,people knew that I was a christian,however,NO ONE ever picked on me becuase I was also the Co-Captain of the Varsity Football team. Off the field,while going to classes,I was Clark Kent. On the field,I was Superman.

Oh,back to the subject. For me,sex is a misdermeanor. The more I miss,the meaner I get. (joke)

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

In GENERAL,it is easier for a woman to go without sex than it is for a man.I have found,in my experiences,that sexually, women make BETTER christains than men. More women attend church than men. More women are involved in church than men.

Jesus,when he walked this earth,was a very kind,sensitive,caring,and a compasionate man. He cried when he heard of Lazarus'death. Today,in our society,if a man showed his sensitive side in public, he would be called a sissy. I have read that some people feel that Christianity sissifies men. I do not agree. I am christain,and I am no sissy. In my high school,people knew that I was a christian,however,NO ONE ever picked on me becuase I was also the Co-Captain of the Varsity Football team. Off the field,while going to classes,I was Clark Kent. On the field,I was Superman.

Oh,back to the subject. For me,sex is a misdermeanor. The more I miss,the meaner I get. (joke)

To the BBM part, you would know this how?
I do have to give you credit because you of all people I expected a resounding NO as an answer. But I don't think you know what you are talking about as far as women being "better" christians or it being "easier" for them. Says who? YOU?

 

[exitstageright]

To the BBM part, you would know this how?
I do have to give you credit because you of all people I expected a resounding NO as an answer. But I don't think you know what you are talking about as far as women being "better" christians or it being "easier" for them. Says who? YOU?

How many times do I have to write this? Testosterone is the hormone that is responsible for the human sex drive,or the"lust of the flesh",if you will.

This is a biological FACT! The AVERAGE man has about TEN TIMES the testosterone as the AVEARGE woman. Some women have more,some men have less. I am a biology major. I get paid over $100,000 per year to KNOW this stuff!

Now,you have your demons,you have your desires,and I have a few of my own. Imagine that those horny feelings of yours(if you still have any),were TEN TIMES as strong as they are now. Then,lets see how holy could you be .

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

never said I was holy mr. know it all. But still, the FACT is that you ARE able to control yourself, you just don't want to.

 

[dayhiker]

I hate it when sex is put in the context if can one service with out it. I can. I have for a couple months at a time. But it really takes the fun out of life for me. And I enjoy a whole lot of things about living on this planet. Sex is the icing on the cake. Sex is the perfect end of an evening with a nice lady. Or the perfect start! lol

Some have asked me, do you know the difference between love and sex? Well, Yes, I do. But I get the impression that they think if I knew what love was, I'd be content with out sex. So how about we look at it from an other prespective. If a woman wanted to express her love for me what would be the best way for her to do that? Yup, take my hand a lead me upstairs or where ever. A meal is nice, candles even nice. Running her hands thru my hair is pretty good ... but after a few minutes its boring. Making love is where the real expression of love is for me. I know the book the 5 love languages suggested that if a guy gets come caring loving touch, the sex wouldn't me so important. Sorry, that makes just a little bit of sense to me.

Now I've done a lot of love making that as careering and light kisses ... etc. I really like that that as well. But it would be nice if a women learned to once in a while say lets do this the way you love. Right to the good bits!

OK, there it is .. laid right out there!

 

[exitstageright]

never said I was holy mr. know it all. But still, the FACT is that you ARE able to control yourself, you just don't want to.

I am not a know it all. If I DID knew everything,I would know how to attract someone whom I find attractive.

If you had a degree in one of the biological sciences,you would have gotten the point,when I said that it is harder for men,because men usually have HIGHER levels of testosterone than women.

NOW,do you see WHY I would want to date a woman who has a degree?
If you were a scientist,as myself,we would not have trouble communicating.
By the way,isn't that better than me being a CONTROL FREAK
Yes,Michelle,there ARE more simple pleasures in lifethan sex. However,I can NEVER have strawberry ice cream,which was my favorite ice cream. I can NEVR have chocolate cake for my birthday,or ANY cake.I can never have my favorite drink,a VIRGIN Strawberry Dacqueri anymore. Why?.....because I am a diabetic. Sex,for me,is the ICING on the cake.Since I am a diabetic,sex is the only ICING that I can have.
Therefore,I need a wife.....so I can leagally(Biblically wise) have sex. I just want to play by the rules.
Now....WHO is willing to help me play by the rules?

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I hate it when sex is put in the context if can one service with out it. I can. I have for a couple months at a time. But it really takes the fun out of life for me. And I enjoy a whole lot of things about living on this planet. Sex is the icing on the cake. Sex is the perfect end of an evening with a nice lady. Or the perfect start! lol

Some have asked me, do you know the difference between love and sex? Well, Yes, I do. But I get the impression that they think if I knew what love was, I'd be content with out sex. So how about we look at it from an other prespective. If a woman wanted to express her love for me what would be the best way for her to do that? Yup, take my hand a lead me upstairs or where ever. A meal is nice, candles even nice. Running her hands thru my hair is pretty good ... but after a few minutes its boring. Making love is where the real expression of love is for me. I know the book the 5 love languages suggested that if a guy gets come caring loving touch, the sex wouldn't me so important. Sorry, that makes just a little bit of sense to me.

Now I've done a lot of love making that as careering and light kisses ... etc. I really like that that as well. But it would be nice if a women learned to once in a while say lets do this the way you love. Right to the good bits!

OK, there it is .. laid right out there!

I get where you are coming from, really I do, but what IF you got with someone and maybe the sex was great for awhile but something happens (like disease) that she can no longer have sex? Do you then toss her aside because you NEED it? I'm not saying you are insensitive, but it's a real question for more mature folk. I mean my husband has been gone for 7 years, but he also was not able to have sex the last year and a half of his life even though he once enjoyed it immensely like you. So what do you do if you find yourself in this situation?

I am not a know it all. If I DID knew everything,I would know how to attract someone whom I find attractive.

If you had a degree in one of the biological sciences,you would have gotten the point,when I said that it is harder for men,because men usually have HIGHER levels of testosterone than women.

NOW,do you see WHY I would want to date a woman who has a degree?
If you were a scientist,as myself,we would not have trouble communicating.
By the way,isn't that better than me being a CONTROL FREAK
Yes,Michelle,there ARE more simple pleasures in lifethan sex. However,I can NEVER have strawberry ice cream,which was my favorite ice cream. I can NEVR have chocolate cake for my birthday,or ANY cake.I can never have my favorite drink,a VIRGIN Strawberry Dacqueri anymore. Why?.....because I am a diabetic. Sex,for me,is the ICING on the cake.Since I am a diabetic,sex is the only ICING that I can have.
Therefore,I need a wife.....so I can leagally(Biblically wise) have sex. I just want to play by the rules.
Now....WHO is willing to help me play by the rules?

The way you post makes you come across as Mr. Know it all. Degrees mean nothing IMO. And just because you like to flaunt the fact that you have one, hey good for you but that does NOT make me an idiot. So what! that I am not a scientist like YOU and BTW I do NOT have trouble communicating. I'd say that you do, though. Maybe it's because you talk down to people that don't have the degree you have or aren't a scientist like you. If you are like this IRL that's one of your issues. Big WOOP!
So I ask you, (ever so humbly as I am not as smart as YOU) what would you do, if you find that love of your life and then you suddenly cannot perform anymore? Or worse yet? What if SHE can't? Do you toss her aside because of it?

 

[dayhiker]

Nope, I don't toss people aside because of the quality of lack of sex. Besides there are personal ways of getting some of that enjoyment. So when a mate can't preform its OK.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Nope, I don't toss people aside because of the quality of lack of sex. Besides there are personal ways of getting some of that enjoyment. So when a mate can't preform its OK.

Well bravo for you. I knew you were a good guy . Sometimes I just get sick of hearing "oh I can't live without sex I have to find a mate...blah blah blah!" ya know? And I'm not talking about you dayhiker so don't get your panties all in a bunch . I'm just talking in general. There have been a few people on here at different times and I know they are serious and so it just made me wonder, what if? Sometimes what we think we can't live without, we really can...it's just we don't WANT to, and I totally get that.

 

[dayhiker]

Panties ... I must have been more asleep than I thought when I got dressed this morning! LOL Don't you just love how I take things literally!

Well, some quote seek God and He will give you the desires of your heart. I say I like that, the desire of my heart is more intimacy, making love and sex. OH wait, God didn't mean sex when He said that in His word! It really throws a lot of Christians when I say something like that. I guess they think sex is some special class of conduct that has special rules, most of them starting with NO.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

But He can give you the desires of your heart. Sometimes what we think is super important becomes less important over time. Have you ever read that verse putting emphasis on different parts?

He gives you the desires of your heart

He gives you the desires of your heart

He gives you the desires of your heart

He gives you the desires of your heart

Point being is that He can give you the actual desires (that you don't know you have right now) as well as giving you the desires you are aware of already. Did I communicate that OK? Some people think I have a problem communicating because I'm not a Biblical Scholar or an Astronaut

 

[exitstageright]

I get where you are coming from, really I do, but what IF you got with someone and maybe the sex was great for awhile but something happens (like disease) that she can no longer have sex? Do you then toss her aside because you NEED it? I'm not saying you are insensitive, but it's a real question for more mature folk. I mean my husband has been gone for 7 years, but he also was not able to have sex the last year and a half of his life even though he once enjoyed it immensely like you. So what do you do if you find yourself in this situation?



The way you post makes you come across as Mr. Know it all. Degrees mean nothing IMO. And just because you like to flaunt the fact that you have one, hey good for you but that does NOT make me an idiot. So what! that I am not a scientist like YOU and BTW I do NOT have trouble communicating. I'd say that you do, though. Maybe it's because you talk down to people that don't have the degree you have or aren't a scientist like you. If you are like this IRL that's one of your issues. Big WOOP!
So I ask you, (ever so humbly as I am not as smart as YOU) what would you do, if you find that love of your life and then you suddenly cannot perform anymore? Or worse yet? What if SHE can't? Do you toss her aside because of it?

No,I would not toss her aside. I would just consider it as a very mean trick that nature had played on me,since it is so hard for me to find someone.
When you questioned my knowledge on the subject of sex,that is when I felt that I had to give you PROOF,that I know what I am talking about.

You, telling me about bilology,makes as much since as me,who is not mechanically inclined,telling my auto mechanic friend,about how to put in a transmission. I am NOT saying that you are an idiot. Ignorance and stupitity are NOT the same.

Case in point. I do not know how to fly a 747 jumbo jet.I am ignorant when it comes to flying. Now,if I went to nearby SFO (San Francisco International Airport),climbed into a cockpit of a 747 jumbo jet,and try to fly it. That would be stupid of me!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

No,I would not toss her aside. I would just consider it as a very mean trick that nature had played on me,since it is so hard for me to find someone.
When you questioned my knowledge on the subject of sex,that is when I felt that I had to give you PROOF,that I know what I am talking about.

You, telling me about bilology,makes as much since as me,who is not mechanically inclined,telling my auto mechanic friend,about how to put in a transmission. I am NOT saying that you are an idiot. Ignorance and stupitity are NOT the same.

Case in point. I do not know how to fly a 747 jumbo jet.I am ignorant when it comes to flying. Now,if I went to nearby SFO (San Francisco International Airport),climbed into a cockpit of a 747 jumbo jet,and try to fly it. That would be stupid of me!

Oh I get, you're not calling me stupid, you're calling me ignorant. Gee I feel SO much better now. I never "questioned your knowledge" I merely was pointing out that you have not been in a woman's shoes so you cannot know what a woman feels. I could give a rats %^&&^ about biology or your knowledge of it because regardless of your FACTS it is also a FACT that SOME men ARE able to control themselves. NOT YOU, but some men can so whatever....oh last thought.....

Ignorance is bliss!

 

[exitstageright]

Oh I get, you're not calling me stupid, you're calling me ignorant. Gee I feel SO much better now. I never "questioned your knowledge" I merely was pointing out that you have not been in a woman's shoes so you cannot know what a woman feels. I could give a rats %^&&^ about biology or your knowledge of it because regardless of your FACTS it is also a FACT that SOME men ARE able to control themselves. NOT YOU, but some men can so whatever....oh last thought.....

Ignorance is bliss!

But... I can control myself in other important areas of life. I resisted peer pressure in high school and in the U.S. Navy by NOT smoking,by NOT drinking,and by NOT doing iileagal drugs. In THOSE areas of life,I have been perfect. I cannot be perfect in EVERYTHING. If I was,I would not be.........HUMAN!. Therefore,I have to do SOMETHING wrong,don't I? Or else women would think that I was TOO GOOD to be true.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

But... I can control myself in other important areas of life. I resisted peer pressure in high school and in the U.S. Navy by NOT smoking,by NOT drinking,and by NOT doing iileagal drugs. In THOSE areas of life,I have been perfect. I cannot be perfect in EVERYTHING. If I was,I would not be.........HUMAN!. Therefore,I have to do SOMETHING wrong,don't I? Or else women would think that I was TOO GOOD to be true.

I wouldn't know....I'm ignorant, remember?

 

[mjmcmillan]

I haven't been at all sure about wanting to respond here or not.

I've been living without for the last few years. In fact, I don't know if I had sex with my wife since before Christmas of '08, since by then even a blind man could see the handwriting on the wall.

I don't put out the very best performance in bed, to say the least, and seeking another chance to fail in bed just hasn't been one of my top priorities.

So, by choice I've been living without the very thing some here say they can't live without.

'Nuff said.

 

[Elgibbor]

I have a friend who is 41 and claims he has never had sex. He's not even a Christian. I'm not sure whether to believe him or not, but he's not the sort of person who makes up silly things like that.