My husband and I are separated - this is continued from the post "anyone worked through domestic violence?" in marriage ministry / married couples only. I finally got around to looking at other subforums and realized that marriage restoration is an appropriate place for the question.
Do you think it's possible to reconcile after violence?
See the previous post for a detailed explanation of the situation. The problem with reconciliation is that he thinks it's okay to throw me around, strangle me, slap me until I'm bruised. He won't listen to the court if they tell him that he was wrong (we go Monday about the restraining order I took out on him), he won't listen to the couple's counselor we've been seeing...but he might listen to one particular priest. I want to offer Monday to drop the restraining order, but continue living with my parents, if he will go to that particular Mass with me, speak with that particular priest about the situation, and go to counseling with me (there's a Catholic organization out of town that does marriage counseling, he might take them seriously). I've also looked into Retrouvaille, and there's a program in February.
I know that this won't work unless he wants to address the situation honestly, and unless he'll accept being told that what he's done is wrong. The priest might convince him. I don't know.
Do you think it's possible to reconcile after violence?
See the previous post for a detailed explanation of the situation. The problem with reconciliation is that he thinks it's okay to throw me around, strangle me, slap me until I'm bruised. He won't listen to the court if they tell him that he was wrong (we go Monday about the restraining order I took out on him), he won't listen to the couple's counselor we've been seeing...but he might listen to one particular priest. I want to offer Monday to drop the restraining order, but continue living with my parents, if he will go to that particular Mass with me, speak with that particular priest about the situation, and go to counseling with me (there's a Catholic organization out of town that does marriage counseling, he might take them seriously). I've also looked into Retrouvaille, and there's a program in February.
I know that this won't work unless he wants to address the situation honestly, and unless he'll accept being told that what he's done is wrong. The priest might convince him. I don't know.