Porn [moved]

[Gash]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

 

[JellyQuest]

my demons

--you still own the sin .you love the sin .when you love the lord Jesus more you won't do it .
He forgives you now ,(his mercy is new every morning) and he set you free by his blood shed on the cross and his life laid down and his victorious resurrection .Now you are free in him .
Every new day you are free in him and you will serve the master you love the most . You ,like me ,were never taught what repentance is .probably you were led in a "sinners prayer" and so never repented of sin . it's Stopping from going your own way and then following the one you love the most . so many people will lie to you now . and make you feel ok . but the answer is YES you CAN STOP . But you like it and so keep doing it .you love it . but it's ok you don't have to any more .forsake it and follow Jesus and he accepts you . but you can't follow two masters, it will tear you apart . you must repent -it means to change your mind and follow jesus and have faith he can do what he has promised to do . save you FROM IT ,not leave you in it .

 

[Radrook]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

Perhaps getting married would help? The apostle Paul recommended it for those who burn with passion. Burning with passion is common with very young persons because they are hardwired to burn with passion at that stage of life in order to assure the survival of the human species via procreation. It is a very powerful and extremely difficult thing to resist. That's why Paul recommended marriage.

 

[tienkhoanguyen]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

I once was a porn addict. I would go into my room and lock the door every night for years and do the bad stuffs while watching. Then I prayed too. And slowly but surely I changed. It has been 2 to 3 years since I ever watched anymore junk and counting. Everyday is a battle. But you feel good and clean so keep trying. It took me thousands of times before I got it right. First it was I didn't do it for a day. Then it was 2 days. Then it became longer and longer.

 

[thecolorsblend]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

I have my own favorite sins. What I've done is attend Mass daily when possible and recite a series of four prayers each day. Those things keep me centered.

 

[stuart lawrence]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

I grew up feeling wretched, guilty, and dirty through masturbating. The more wrong i knew it was, the greater the desire to touch. The more impure the thought, the greater the desire to dwell on it and act it out.
When I was nineteen someone asked me to read a book. I read that my righteousness before God was faith in Christ, not observing the law/ being good enough. I was stunned, I had never heard That preached before.
I recommitted my life to Christ. But what of the masturbation? I didn't want it in my life. I left it in Gods hands, I asked him to deal with it and stood for the first Time in my life under a righteousness of faith in Christ.
For the next three days I continued masturbating, but kept firmly looking to Christ. He was my righteousness/ justification before God, not my personal goodness. A voice in my head told me i was a hypocrite to believe I could be a christian and do what I was doing, but I didn't give into that voice, I kept trusting Jesus was my right standing before God. On the fourth day, the masturbation I had been a slave to for six years stopped.
Paul wrote:

For sin shall no longer be your master for you are not under law but under grace rom6:14

God bless

 

[Anguspure]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

The best advice I've had for this sort of fight is that when we focus on the wrong thing that we are doing, we are not focusing on the right thing.

The fact that you are fighting and resisting is good but you shouldn't let it consume you. The addiction you are fighting is one of the strongest, if not the strongest addiction known to man, work at it in the grace of Christ but don't let it kill you, thats what He died for.

If the grace Christ has set us free from the guilt, condemnation and shame of the sin (which I can assure you He did on the cross) then we have a major advantage.

I can also see that you recognise the value of trading the crap for something better and in the dark hours I really feel for you!
I have spent 28 years at sea and I can tell you that porn (which is endemic aboard a ship full of men), and all that goes with it, is often the nicest thing I will see in a day, so I know what you mean about not knowing what to trade it with.
So I really hope, and pray that you will find something beautiful that will take your mind right away from this stuff.

But most of all, my brother, rest in Him.
The Lord bless you and keep you...and set everything alright.

 

[tienkhoanguyen]

I don't have the answer. The Holy Bible says it's an evil world and those who are bless are taken from this world at an early age. Look at all the tragedies: hungry... etc. Satan is the ruler of this world. There are only 144000 that gets to be in Heaven that are considered the chosen ones while the other billions are left on earth. I don't see myself being perfect anytime soon although I'm a supposedly baptized non-denominational Christian!

 

[EastCoastRemnant]

The Commandments of God are rooted in love... love for others and love for God. Watching pornography is harming to others and creates an idol in place of God. Men, but mostly woman "actors" in these productions are physically, emotionally and spiritually abused for your pleasure. If you can think upon the hurt that this evil causes to all who are involved and determine to seek God and His Righteousness (right doing), the Spirit will change your heart. It is not what we can do, but what we can do with Christ in us... one of the fruits of the spirit is compassion. Have compassion for the people involved and caught in this <staff edit>... pray for them as well as yourself... realize you are not alone.
There's a line from a song I think is applicable... "God will take away your hurt, if you'll only let it go." Those of us that still struggle with the lust of the eyes, are still in love with it more than we are with God and our fellow man... we are still selfish.

 

[Anguspure]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

I just quoted the following on another thread but think it might be of help for you to think about:

Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For in Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life has set you free from the law of sin and death. For what the Law was powerless to do in that it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful man, as an offering for sin. He thus condemned sin in the flesh, so that the righteous standard of the Law might be fulfilled in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

Those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh; but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. The mind of the flesh is death, but the mind of the Spirit is life and peace, because the mind of the flesh is hostile to God: It does not submit to God’s Law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the flesh cannot please God.

You, however, are controlled not by the flesh, but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. But if Christ is in you, your body is dead because of sin, yet the Spirit gives you life because of righteousness. And if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead lives in you, He who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit, who dwells within you.(Romans 8)

 

[Goatee]

I have my own favorite sins. What I've done is attend Mass daily when possible and recite a series of four prayers each day. Those things keep me centered.

Which prayers? Ta

 

[GoldenKingGaze]

Porn is the sin of fornication. It is dead and empty pleasure. What makes you happy shows your love according to 1 Cor 13. Salvation is God's promise to us. What are Christians who are not saved from sin?

In the fruit of the Spirit are the qualities like love, to love others too much more than to use them. To love yourself, self control...

In temptation there are lies like "in it you will find satisfaction." Like your eyes will be opened... Some of them are built in, some built ins from childhood. Maybe "The Battlefield of the Mind" By J Meyer will help?

The Truth will set you free. Who the Son sets free is free indeed. The anointing breaks the yoke of bondage. The blood of Jesus the Lamb of God takes away the sin, when applied in trust and received well. The fire of God refines. Again when received by faith.

You can also see a psychologist or Dr for help.

I like Elijah House ministries and SOZO, I heard of the latter. There is also ELLEL Ministries.

It is good if you are given words of knowledge, prophecies and hear testimonies from others who gained success, and holiness and there are authors I have gleaned.

 

[Goatee]

You have to think of Jesus everytime you get a lustful thought, an urge etc. Train your mind to place a pic of Our Lord in your mind. It won't be easy but God is helping you carry your cross.

 

[thecolorsblend]

Which prayers? Ta

Glory Be, Our Father, Hail Mary, Alma Redemptoris Mater. Sometimes I include the Nicene Creed too just to make a clean job of it.

 

[Goatee]

Glory Be, Our Father, Hail Mary, Alma Redemptoris Mater. Sometimes I include the Nicene Creed too just to make a clean job of it.

Thank you

 

[AlexDTX]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

I, too had a porn addiction that lasted 5 years. I learned that there are 3 aspects to male sexuality that porn draws upon.

1. Lust. Lust is not sexual drive, it is imagination. Viagra does not give erections, it increases blood flow. What stimulates erection is your imagination. Lust in the Bible is not confined to sex. You can lust after money, you can lust after power, you can lust after fame, material things, anything, really. Lust is a desire for something that is amplified by your imagination. So your first step is to not think about sex.

2Co 10:4 (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds
2Co 10:5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
2Co 10:6 And having in a readiness to revenge all disobedience, when your obedience is fulfilled.
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It is also noteworthy that God flooded the world because

Gen 6:5 ... every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually.​

We are also told to meditate on the good.

Php 4:8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is fair, whatever is pure, whatever is acceptable, whatever is commendable, if there is anything of excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy—keep thinking about these things.​

Controlling thoughts is the heart of our discipleship. As a man thinks in his heart so is he (Prov. 23:7).

2. Sensuality. God gave us the senses to move through creation and to take pleasure in the creation. A cool breeze on a hot day is delightful. The sounds of the birds chirping in the trees is soothing. There are thousands of nerve endings in a man's penis that make [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] immensely pleasurable. This is a gift from God for marital conjugal relations. When you are not married, however, it is to be a delayed gratification. This is why masturbation is wrong. It stimulates sensuality and lust. Poison Ivy will make you itch. When you scratch the itch you feel better for a moment, but then you spread the poison and itch more. This is the same with sensuality. The answer is don't scratch the itch.

Gal 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is .....
Gal 5:23 ... self-control.

3. God given sexual desire. The desire and pleasure of sex is given by God as a blessing to marriage and procreation. Sperm is constantly being created in the testicles and needs release. However, sperm does not need an erection or an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] for release. If you do not touch and you control your imagination, sperm will discharge while you defecate.

Your problem with pornography may also go beyond your imagination and sensuality. In my case, it was a broken heart. When we married we were advanced in our years. I had been a follower of Christ for 7 years prior and had control of my sexuality. However, after getting married I found out that we could not have children. This devastated me since I wanted to be a father. I loved my wife and did not want to hurt her. So I turned to porn imagining I was going to have children with the young models in the films and pictures. God delivered me from my porn addiction by showing the harm it caused my wife every time I engaged in the activity. My love for her was the motivation for my repentance.

I don't know your life, but I suspect that there are disappointments in your life as well which could be a root of your problem. Seek the Lord for the causes, and He will answer you.

 

[tienkhoanguyen]

I just quoted the following on another thread but think it might be of help for you to think about:

Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For in Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit of life has set you free from the law of sin and death. For what the Law was powerless to do in that it was weakened by the flesh, God did by sending His own Son in the likeness of sinful man, as an offering for sin. He thus condemned sin in the flesh, so that the righteous standard of the Law might be fulfilled in us, who do not live according to the flesh but according to the Spirit.

Those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh; but those who live according to the Spirit set their minds on the things of the Spirit. The mind of the flesh is death, but the mind of the Spirit is life and peace, because the mind of the flesh is hostile to God: It does not submit to God’s Law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the flesh cannot please God.

You, however, are controlled not by the flesh, but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. But if Christ is in you, your body is dead because of sin, yet the Spirit gives you life because of righteousness. And if the Spirit of Him who raised Jesus from the dead lives in you, He who raised Christ Jesus from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through His Spirit, who dwells within you.(Romans 8)

The Holy Bible is "book knowledge" written for probably prisoners who cannot be free. It wants you to hope for a better future. Sure I'm sure a certain amount of prisoners might end up with a better life. However don't think you are one of them. It's better that way. I've lived 43 years of life and counting and realize just don't trespass; My real parents (mom Huong Thi Vu and dad Nguyen Binh Thuy) taught right the first time since my youth. Thank you Jesus Christ.

 

[JellyQuest]

I grew up feeling wretched, guilty, and dirty through masturbating. The more wrong i knew it was, the greater the desire to touch. The more impure the thought, the greater the desire to dwell on it and act it out.
When I was nineteen someone asked me to read a book. I read that my righteousness before God was faith in Christ, not observing the law/ being good enough. I was stunned, I had never heard That preached before.
I recommitted my life to Christ. But what of the masturbation? I didn't want it in my life. I left it in Gods hands, I asked him to deal with it and stood for the first Time in my life under a righteousness of faith in Christ.
For the next three days I continued masturbating, but kept firmly looking to Christ. He was my righteousness/ justification before God, not my personal goodness. A voice in my head told me i was a hypocrite to believe I could be a christian and do what I was doing, but I didn't give into that voice, I kept trusting Jesus was my right standing before God. On the fourth day, the masturbation I had been a slave to for six years stopped.
Paul wrote:

For sin shall no longer be your master for you are not under law but under grace rom6:14

God bless

in other words Jesuis set you free and then when you realized you were free you realized you could do it but did not HAVE to any more -and out pof love for him you chose to stop because you are free .John says this is how we know if a person is of god or of the devil ..those born of god do not continue in the practice of sin .they stop

 

[fishyjoe]

I don't know where to begin with this battle. I've done everything, prayed, confessed to people close around me for help. Gone months without doing it. Even a year. But it's back I'm ill I'm sick and fed up with it. I want to give up and just die. I pray and pray I fight, I'm now trying to live above my demons and hoping one day I'll get use to ignoring it and be able to move on. "Live with it". Like when I'm tempted I replace it something better. Well I'm not too sure what to trade it with. During the day cleaning seems to help, but once it's night, is when I fail. Anyways, I'm at my wits end. I don't plan on killing myself, I don't want to that. But some days I wish I was.

Anyways thanks all for reading! Would love some advice if their is any you could throw my way.

Like you said, you've prayed and prayed and asked God to the point of wanting to die. What many Christians don't understand is that, it's soul breaking to call out to God and receive no answer.

They seem to be fixated on cumulative effect , so what is the magic number? They don't know.

 

[fishyjoe]

--you still own the sin .you love the sin .when you love the lord Jesus more you won't do it .
He forgives you now ,(his mercy is new every morning) and he set you free by his blood shed on the cross and his life laid down and his victorious resurrection .Now you are free in him .
Every new day you are free in him and you will serve the master you love the most . You ,like me ,were never taught what repentance is .probably you were led in a "sinners prayer" and so never repented of sin . it's Stopping from going your own way and then following the one you love the most . so many people will lie to you now . and make you feel ok . but the answer is YES you CAN STOP . But you like it and so keep doing it .you love it . but it's ok you don't have to any more .forsake it and follow Jesus and he accepts you . but you can't follow two masters, it will tear you apart . you must repent -it means to change your mind and follow jesus and have faith he can do what he has promised to do . save you FROM IT ,not leave you in it .

Your God won't be there on your arrival.

Will he

You believe so?

Or

You know so?

There's a difference
Skip da doodle!