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I caught my dad watching inappropriate content
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<blockquote data-quote="ViaCrucis" data-source="post: 68923522" data-attributes="member: 293637"><p>This pretty much.</p><p></p><p>Which isn't to say that there aren't ethical ramifications, in a marriage there is a matter of trust between spouses. I'm not married, though one of my married friends put it quite well when he told me that for him it's a problem because from his wife's viewpoint it is a form of betrayal. And it's not really a matter whether she should feel that way or not, but because of her own insecurities it is a matter of trust between them that he do his best to make her feel loved and supported and not do things that would hurt her. It's about coming from a place of love, compassion, and trust. That's a far more important issue than the mere "morality" factor of inappropriate contentography itself.</p><p></p><p>Which also gets us to this: This really is just between the OP's parents, it's not really her business. It's certainly shocking and unpleasant. I'm a man in my 30's and I still wouldn't want to catch my father viewing inappropriate contentography or looking up naked images--there's a definite <em>ick </em>factor there. By the same token I consider myself very fortunate that I never walked into my parents bedroom to catch them doing the deed.</p><p></p><p>There is a matter of the father's hypocrisy also, in that preaching against the viewing of inappropriate contentography and then indulging in it himself that is a rather blatant example of hypocrisy--that is of course an issue that he will have to deal with himself. That said, it always remains important that hypocrisy is part of the sinful human condition, because we are all sinners we all know that God commands that we live upright and holy lives, but that we fail to do this--that's why we do not trust upon our own strength and effort to be holy but instead trust upon the mercy and love of God in Christ who forgives us all our sins, freely.</p><p></p><p>That doesn't mean that we should ignore our own hypocrisy, on the contrary, that's why we are called to regular confession and repentance. It's why the Church, historically, has always had Confession and Absolution, both private and corporate. As a sacred space in which we confess our sins and hear the words of God's forgiveness.</p><p></p><p>So there certainly are issues involved here, though I feel that the ick factor might be overexerting itself in the OP, in addition there is a culture of purity that tends to place sexual indiscretions, sins, and errors at a much higher level of wrongness than others, which is a topic of its own. </p><p></p><p>I assume the OP is still a young person, and I trust that in time they'll realize that the awkwardness of this will go away. This certainly isn't a case of major tragedy; though it is always difficult when children discover their parents aren't as great as they may have once thought--that parents are just as flawed as they themselves are.</p><p></p><p>-CryptoLutheran</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="ViaCrucis, post: 68923522, member: 293637"] This pretty much. Which isn't to say that there aren't ethical ramifications, in a marriage there is a matter of trust between spouses. I'm not married, though one of my married friends put it quite well when he told me that for him it's a problem because from his wife's viewpoint it is a form of betrayal. And it's not really a matter whether she should feel that way or not, but because of her own insecurities it is a matter of trust between them that he do his best to make her feel loved and supported and not do things that would hurt her. It's about coming from a place of love, compassion, and trust. That's a far more important issue than the mere "morality" factor of inappropriate contentography itself. Which also gets us to this: This really is just between the OP's parents, it's not really her business. It's certainly shocking and unpleasant. I'm a man in my 30's and I still wouldn't want to catch my father viewing inappropriate contentography or looking up naked images--there's a definite [I]ick [/I]factor there. By the same token I consider myself very fortunate that I never walked into my parents bedroom to catch them doing the deed. There is a matter of the father's hypocrisy also, in that preaching against the viewing of inappropriate contentography and then indulging in it himself that is a rather blatant example of hypocrisy--that is of course an issue that he will have to deal with himself. That said, it always remains important that hypocrisy is part of the sinful human condition, because we are all sinners we all know that God commands that we live upright and holy lives, but that we fail to do this--that's why we do not trust upon our own strength and effort to be holy but instead trust upon the mercy and love of God in Christ who forgives us all our sins, freely. That doesn't mean that we should ignore our own hypocrisy, on the contrary, that's why we are called to regular confession and repentance. It's why the Church, historically, has always had Confession and Absolution, both private and corporate. As a sacred space in which we confess our sins and hear the words of God's forgiveness. So there certainly are issues involved here, though I feel that the ick factor might be overexerting itself in the OP, in addition there is a culture of purity that tends to place sexual indiscretions, sins, and errors at a much higher level of wrongness than others, which is a topic of its own. I assume the OP is still a young person, and I trust that in time they'll realize that the awkwardness of this will go away. This certainly isn't a case of major tragedy; though it is always difficult when children discover their parents aren't as great as they may have once thought--that parents are just as flawed as they themselves are. -CryptoLutheran [/QUOTE]
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