eatenbylocusts
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If your wife wants to reconcile then you should. You don't have grounds to divorce her so I wouldn't think you would have much peace.Thank you for the kind words from experience. I'm so glad I found this thread in the midst of what I'm going through... and the confusion I am having.
We divorced July '08, Christians,parents of 2, 15 years married, did ministry together. In the first year she began to be sexually untouchable. On the few times I was adamant we conceived. Emotionally she has withdrawn over the years,wouldn't kiss,allow touching, surface talk. I have felt very lonely with the rejection, yet I still love her. She won't deal with her fear of intimacy and seems bound. She's faithful,claims to love me,and is a good mother. We are each other's best advocates.
So I tried settle it with a divorce. I've grieved some, distanced a little, but last night I had sex with a lady friend...and I don't feel so good. I guess I want to kill the love in my soul, but I can't deny the love that's there(it seems holy and good), yet God has brought no answer to make it work. So my insides are fragmented. Counseling only revealed her denial but I DO love her but can't rid myself of her. I dispair.
I would like to know where your church stands in all this. If she believes the Bible is true she must know that she is not to deny her husband. If after a few sessions the counseling isn't getting anywhere then try another. The few times I've heard stories like this it has turned out that the wife had been sexually abused as a child. If this is the case then it would be the loving thing to do to let her get the counseling she needs first before demanding sex.
For the record I would be very upset if I was married and my husband refused to have sex with me or to make sure that I was satisfied. It's not right, but I understand that I would have to stay married.
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