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DragonFox91 said:

Oh, the grass isn't always greener things you mean.

I'd love to be married, but you lose some freedoms when married & that can be hard. So singles can be thankful they usually have more freedoms.

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The truth is, the joy is in the Lord and not of the world. It's a battle of the flesh at times. In marriage and out of marriage.

I was just thinking, my early years as a Christian (early 20), I used to say that we should have joy in all things. Including cleaning toilets. So I wonder if we can apply the same truth towards something we don't want to do that is our duty that may help us for future relationships, with marriage and out of marriage.

DragonFox91 said:

It's been so sad this week


Explain the trick. If you like being single too much, you won't want to be married. It's an oxymoron to me.

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I think the best explanation for what true contentment is in 1 Corinthians 7. I especially like verse 21 (1 Corinthians 7:21). Paul is advising them to serve Christ as best as they can in their current state of life. He tells those who are slaves to not worry about it nor to feel less for being one, but to serve God as best as they can and to be a good witness by faithfully serving their masters. He tells them to take comfort in the truth that they are free men in Christ, and that all men whether free or slaves are servants to Christ. They can find peace in their souls while still remaining a slave. That principle applies to the single person who desires marriage. You can take comfort that even in your singleness you are not missing out on the most important thing in life: faith in Christ. That's what contentment means. You are at peace with your situation. It doesn't mean that you can't prefer marriage over your singleness or that you can't look for opportunities to meet someone. A person can be very content with singleness while still desiring marriage and taking steps to meet someone. In fact, Paul advises them that if they can take steps to improve their situation and purchase their freedom, they should. That the free man can do more for God with his new found freedom.

Being content is not the same thing as apathy. Biblical contentment is being able to rise above our circumstances and to be focused on our primary purpose: being a servant of Christ. If you allow yourself to become too focused on what you don't have in life, you will lose some of your ability or effectiveness as a servant of Christ.

Also, a single person who is not content will end up scaring off or driving away other singles who may have been interested in them. The opposite of contentment is desperation and that's far from attractive. If you are miserable being single and communicate that to others, that gives off the impression that you are more interested in being with anyone (to escape loneliness) rather than a specific person who you actually like. Most women prefer to be asked out by a guy who is showing genuine interest in them; not because he's lonely and would be happy to be with any woman.

DragonFox91 said:

It was not good this weekend

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Myself as well, but I hang onto the positives. There are teaching and God moments if you look for them.

DragonFox91 said:

It's been so sad this week


Explain the trick. If you like being single too much, you won't want to be married. It's an oxymoron to me.

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I completely understand the frustration. People who would tell me that at church but then next time I see them i felt like they were rubbing it in my face that I was single. "Oh did you hear so and so are together" like you people know i struggle with loneliness. Try to relax though brother you have time. I think churches need to repent of idolizing and favoring the married people over the single ones. I know it's hard and very painful being single,especially when its in your face constantly, but you are not alone. I do have a bf now but he's not a born again Christian like me. I don't suggest dating the way I am. But I completely understand wanting someone so bad.

DragonFox91 said:

It was not good this weekend

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What happened dragonfox91? I hope and pray you're doing better today. You're not alone brother. Hugs

DragonFox91 said:

I keep thinking how Jesus says it is to those normal to whom it has been given.

I just get down about marriage...........
It's stupid really, getting that down about it.
This weekend was better. It'll be spring soon

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It's not stupid at all. It's perfectly normal to feel down when you desire to be in a relationship. I've definitely been there Don't give up hope brother. I know February is especially hard because of Valentine's Day. But don't let that get you down. You aren't less than because you're single. I used to feel that way about myself but it's a lie of the enemy. Just because you're single now doesn't mean you always will be

Dr. Francis Myles has a wonderful series you may find edifying in light of your desires. I'm sharing two videos for your reference. The first explains the concept of speaking to the earth. I encourage you to work through the teachings on the courts of heaven, order of Melchizedek, altars and the wind for greater revelation.

The prayer marathons begin with instruction and follow with guided prayers. The one for marriage addresses married persons and those who desire to marry. You may want to jot down the things you seek in your perspective spouse beforehand to cover them during the session.

Speaking to the Earth

Speak to the Earth for Marriages

@Saucy, you may wish to include prayers for unemployment and prosperity.

~bella

DragonFox91 said:

Hi Bella, good to hear from you.

I listened to the 2nd video. Not sure I agree about the earth being something you can / should pray to.

Reminds me too much of Romans 1 & 2 about how man goes away to created things & not the Creator. The dirt is just another man-made mediator here.

BUT in addition to Proverbs & Revelation he shared, Paul says in Romans the whole creation & not just man is groaning. & People also have a long history of praying to the earth. I wonder if that does come from in the original creation before the Fall the earth was indeed alive like that, but I don’t know if it is anymore or ever was.

Maybe I s/h started w/ your 1st video? I will listen to that.

It's interesting at least.

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The first video is the starting point. He provides the scriptures to support what he puts forth in the prayers and always begins them with a teaching beforehand.

You aren't praying to the earth. You're exercising dominion in relation to the subject you're addressing. If you'd begun with the first you'd understand the principle and see the correlations in the bible. I suggested the other subjects for similar reasons.

Then the LORD God formed [that is, created the body of] man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and the man became a living being [an individual complete in body and spirit].

Then God said, “Let Us (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) make man in Our image, according to Our likeness [not physical, but a spiritual personality and moral likeness]; and let them have complete authority over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, the cattle, and over the entire earth, and over everything that creeps and crawls on the earth.”

~bella

DragonFox91 said:

We do events w/ the girls & I do fine but there's never a breakthru

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What would happen if there was? How would you handle it?

Meeting someone is less important than being marriage ready in the long run. We can't anticipate when we'll make the connection. But once it happens that's when we need things to draw from. That's when the things you've learned will have to be applied. That's when you'll see the value of unselfishness, patience, kindness, forgiveness and so on.

Be rich in the fruits which make happy unions. Give less consideration to meeting the one than being a God fearing man. That's more attractive and harder to ignore. Because the light is greater and has a drawing power. But when we're distracted or disappointed the light dims. Our countenance dampens it.

I never think about a man in religious settings or within groups. Never. My mind is on God and the task or subject we're addressing. Oftentimes I pitch in and do little things no one considers. I used to be the coffee girl for my Muslim class and since the prayer meeting occurred at the same time I delivered refreshments to them as well.

The men always noticed and thanked me. Even when I didn't realize they did. They saw my service and said something eventually. When I encountered them elsewhere I was greeted with smiles and warm hellos. Oftentimes it's the little things people remember. That's what they notice most.

On the spiritual level it's akin to record keeping. Whether you met someone or not. And while the articulation isn't negative. That could shift in time and become a grievance. You're creating a reminder. Instead of recollecting what didn't occur thank Him for the gains instead.

I'm reminded of something I heard earlier:

"Whatever the enemy fights is what he fears." Where is he fighting you?

~bella

DragonFox91 said:

It's hard when you hear 'the ideal is to be married in your 20's'

I guess people just say things. Doesn't mean it's true. It's just opinions.

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There may be a general ideal age for certain life milestones, but that doesn't apply to each individual's life. Our circumstances are all very unique. It's best to just pray and focus on God's plan for your life.

DragonFox91 said:

I can't see myself being married. Too overwhelming for me.

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That isn't true. Don't agree with lies.