Except that in this day and age, with society being what it is, a man isn't going to go around saying he is a virgin if he isn't. That's a sure way to be the butt of every other man's jokes. They even made a "comedy" about it, re: "The 40 Year Old Virgin". A woman's virginity is something to be "cherished". A man's virginity? Something to be shamed and ridiculed.
And why is that? Sounds like the Christian men in the world aren't doing a very good job of teaching the boys how to be godly men. But honestly, we are to believe the men but all women are potential liars. <rolls her eyes>
Society has changed since the 50's. It is socially acceptable, even encouraged, for men and women to be promiscuous. And while women aren't generally "shamed" for being virgins, men are. Our masculinity is challenged. Ive actually been called "freak" and asked if I was a "bible thumper" or a "religious nut" when people have found out about my virginity. And Heaven forbid you "offend" some women by turning down their offer to "alleviate" you of your "problem". Then, they really get nasty with their insults. I'm not going to post some of the things said to me, on here, simply because doing so would get be banned.
Men have always been lascivious. And women are quickly catching up to us in "reputation". According to some polls, men have an average of 9 partners. Women now have an average of 7. Equality at its finest, according to secular society. And remember, those are just the averages.
Makes me wonder if some blood stained sheets are framed in some houses so that the boys know how important it is that their first sexual encounter with a woman is a painful unpleasant experience for her but proves she is "clean" and "worthy" of him. I wonder how many boys have really asked their moms as adults if they were virgins at the time of marriage and why they assume that mom didn't lie if she said 'yes'.
Why would anyone find out about your virginity or lack of it? Why is sexual status a point of general conversation? I also think you need to find different people to hang out with because you tend to assume that everyone is a certain way and I have found plenty of people who do not take sexual status as casually as your companions sound like they do...especially in Christian circles.
My mother divorced my father while she was still pregnant with me. I grew up in the same house with my grandparents. I knew from an early age what my grandfather was and even my uncle told stories about how bad my grandfather was when they were young. My mother was never allowed to "date" as most people consider dating. When the weather was too cold, they sat inside the house, in the same room as my grandparents. If it was warm enough to be outside, they sat on the front porch, with the windows open and my grandparents sat inside, listening and watching. My parents started dating when my mother was 14. They married when she was 17. Actually, it was 2 weeks after her 17th birthday. It was the same for her grandparents.
My great-grandmother's "bird and bees" talk with my grandmother consisted of, "I would rather see you dead and buried than "ruined"'. My grandmother also married at age 17.
I assume that you remember the early days of AIDS? Remember when people talked about, "When you sleep with someone, you are also sleeping with every person they have slept with"? Only a moron doesn't ask about someone's sexual history, especially if youre considering them as "marriage material".
I assume that you remember the early days of AIDS? Remember when people talked about, "When you sleep with someone, you are also sleeping with every person they have slept with"? Only a moron doesn't ask about someone's sexual history, especially if youre considering them as "marriage material".
Have you ever dated someone where you got to the point where marriage was being seriously considered? That is the point where you talk about sex....and sexual history if you really do think sexual relations are holy and for marriage only. Otherwise, it sounds like you are checking out to see if they will sleep with you outside of marriage....so an inquiry.
If this is really your concern, ask for proof that you don't have any STDs. This is a simple doctor's visit. If you are "clean", then you are clean and you can't pass on any diseases from any prior encounter. They don't sit dormant waiting to attack an unsuspecting victim 5 years later...
Yeah, I was engaged once, more than 12 years ago. She repeatedly said she was a virgin. She said that right up until the moment I found out she was still sleeping with her ex-boyfriend. When her mother found out that I had called off the wedding and dumped her, she called me. It was then that I found out that not only was she still sleeping with her ex, but when she was 20 she had moved in an lived with a guy for 3 years. That's wife material right there. A liar with the morals of an alley cat. Yep. Definitely wife material.
If, for the whole time you have been in a serious relationship, they have repeatedly stated that they are still a virgin, how would you react to basically being called a lair by being asked for "proof" you don't have an STD?
Why do you think this is "weird"? This is what most people really do want. They want to find that one person they connect to and stay with them for the rest of their lives. Even those who are in a series of short term relationships feel this way....each one of those short term relationships is actual attached to a hope that "this is the one".
A "born-again virgin" does just that, and a gay man trying to avoid prejudice or assault might also say it.Except that in this day and age, with society being what it is, a man isn't going to go around saying he is a virgin if he isn't.
Erm, a virgin can have certain STDs. I don't see the insult. This is just basic sexual health and consideration for others.If, for the whole time you have been in a serious relationship, they have repeatedly stated that they are still a virgin, how would you react to basically being called a lair by being asked for "proof" you don't have an STD?
A "born-again virgin" does just that, and a gay man trying to avoid prejudice or assault might also say it.
Erm, a virgin can have certain STDs. I don't see the insult. This is just basic sexual health and consideration for others.