I'm new - just looking for a place to find advice, support, and encouragement. My 13 yr old daughter causes a lot of anxiety for me. Currently she frequently says that I am not her mom, that she must be adopted. She has also said things like "I hate you" or that her parents are dead, etc. Usually this happens when things don't go her way, or when she is under consequences for poor choices she has made. I do my best to shrug it off, and especially not show her my hurt or frustration as I know she wants to manipulate me or hurt me. Honestly at times I wish I could ship her off to a convent and pick her up again at 20. She is highly jealous of my love, affection, and time, and gets very angry when I spend time with or show love to my other 2 kids. Her dad either ignores her or only scolds and reprimands. He is rarely engaged with the family. He is a pastor and the church has his heart and his priorities.
Anyway, my question is for other parents of teen daughters - how can I get through this stage of being under constant attack, needing a break, plugging through, trying and trying again to raise my daughter to love the Lord, and to be respectful and kind? I have read "Age of Opportunity," "Shepherding your Child's heart" and "The Power of a Praying Parent", etc., among others. What do you do when your kid says they hate you or that they must be adopted? (Btw, it does sound funny, but she was angry when she said it.)
Thanks for the input!
Anyway, my question is for other parents of teen daughters - how can I get through this stage of being under constant attack, needing a break, plugging through, trying and trying again to raise my daughter to love the Lord, and to be respectful and kind? I have read "Age of Opportunity," "Shepherding your Child's heart" and "The Power of a Praying Parent", etc., among others. What do you do when your kid says they hate you or that they must be adopted? (Btw, it does sound funny, but she was angry when she said it.)
Thanks for the input!