Mail Order Brides?

Carnegie said:

What are the facts and are we speaking strictly about STD statistics here or the how women should be viewed in general?

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Read the links I posted.

Deidre32 said:

it's time for a cheer!

Marriage isn't that important to me to put forth that much effort even if I felt that way. lol Or, I'd take a look at myself as to why I couldn't meet anyone decent and high quality, within a 1000 mile radius.

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Oh, there a very simple reason he couldn't find someone locally. He has standards.

I will say that as a person who lives very rurally it is harder than it is for most people to find a partner and the likelihood of finding a partner that is of a certain "caliber" drops further still in these areas.

The issues of drugs, alcohol, joblessness, lack of education and divorce rates are very real. Most people here have all of those problems and then some. So, it does make sense to cast a wide net if you live in any of these "black hole" areas.

William67 said:

Oh, there a very simple reason he couldn't find someone locally. He has standards.

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D/s scene has plenty of submissive women. I don't need to import some Asian chick, no matter how politically incorrect she is, lol.

MehGuy said:

D/s scene has plenty of submissive women. I don't need to import some Asian chick, no matter how politically incorrect she is, lol.

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I think youre under the mistaken impression that he wanted a wife that would obey his every command. My uncle couldn't have stood that. You should meet my aunt. She loves my uncle and helps him all the time, especially now that his health has deteriorated, but she is definitely NOT submissive. When I mentioned about him talking about the post office "putting holes in the box", well, he said that for her benefit. He knew it would get a reaction. He loves it when she fusses at him. lol He even once told her that he may need to get a second wife because, while she was a great help in the garden, she wasn't much on housework. Ohhhhhhh, that definitely got a reaction. LOL

leothelioness said:

I will say that as a person who lives very rurally it is harder than it is for most people to find a partner and the likelihood of finding a partner that is of a certain "caliber" drops further still in these areas.

The issues of drugs, alcohol, joblessness, lack of education and divorce rates are very real. Most people here have all of those problems and then some. So, it does make sense to cast a wide net if you live in any of these "black hole" areas.

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That's one of the reason I moved back to North Carolina. There were absolutely no ladies to date there. I was related to almost everyone.

Miss Spaulding said:

Anyway. I don't have much imput on the subject at hand beside it being something that I personally wouldn't be interested in. That, and I think any person dumb or desperate enough to go the 'mail order bride' route to finding...well...whatever it is they're seeking, is foolish but should be allowed to do so.

Smoking and driving while under the influence is foolish too and people choose to do those things every single day, so...whatever.

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well said.

Wow, this thread sure took a left turn.

Miss Spaulding said:

Um, I would hang myself if I was related to more than half the population in where Iive.

Well, either that or I'd get the heck outta Dodge.

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That's why I left. Moving wasn't an option for my uncle. His roots were just far too deep for him to move and, because he was a "foreigner", he wasn't allowed to own property in the Philippines. The reason I wasn't born in the same little town is that my grandfather was transferred to Ft. Jackson, SC during WW2. After the war, my family stayed down here because there were decent paying jobs.

Miss Spaulding said:

Anyway. I don't have much imput on the subject at hand beside it being something that I personally wouldn't be interested in. That, and I think any person dumb or desperate enough to go the 'mail order bride' route to finding...well...whatever it is they're seeking, is foolish but should be allowed to do so.

Smoking and driving while under the influence is foolish too and people choose to do those things every single day, so...whatever.

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My uncle was neither dumb, nor desperate. Before he married, he had resigned himself to never marrying. One Saturday, I had walked down to his house and was talking to him and a friend of his named Percy. Percy was telling me the reason he lived with his sister and her husband. Seems one morning he had awakened, made himself a cup of coffee, and walked outside to enjoy the morning air. He said that the next thing he remembered was waking up in his front yard with blood pouring out of his nose and mouth. For some reason, this irked me. Not because he had been ill, but because he could have died, and no one would have known or been able to help. I thought about my uncle laying in the yard, dead. So, I told them both, "You two need wives, 'cause neither one of you have sense enough to take care of yourselves".

Percy's response was, "I wouldn't have any of these women around here. Most of them are either after your money or will give you (an STD)". I'm paraphrasing there because I'm not going to repeat what he actually said. So, I told them, "I know where you can find a wife". Percy didn't want to request any of the information himself because he was worried what the lady who delivered the mail would think. Yes, it really is that small of a town where you only had two postal delivery people and you knew them by name.

Anyway, my uncle sent off for the information and when he received it, he liked what he saw. To him, many of these girls were "raised" the same as he had been in the 30's and 40's. That was that. He wrote to a couple of the girls, remember he didn't have the internet, and he married one.

Unfortunately, it didn't end well for Percy. About six years after my uncle married, some teenage boys stopped by Percy's house to borrow a couple of fishing poles. When they couldn't get him to the door, they came to my uncle. He went by there, and using a key he had to Percy's home, went inside. Percy had been living by himself after the deaths of his sister and brother-in-law. My uncle found Percy in bed. He had died in his sleep. The coroner estimated that he had been dead for 3-4 days. This was in July and it wasn't "pleasant".

As long as it is Biblical, I don't believe in limiting people's freedoms.

Now, while I understand and even endorse my uncle's right to choose a mail order bride, as I have already stated, I wouldn't do it myself. Not that I have anything against women from outside the US, its just that I don't believe that it would be a viable option for me. There are several reasons for this. One, the two main areas for finding a "foreign bride" are Europe and Asia. Lets face it, Europe is worse than the US when it comes to finding a Godly woman. I'm not saying all European women are ungodly, but Europe as been seduced by secularism. Asia presents its own problems. Most Asians countries are not Christian. The Philippines is a Christian country, but there are several aspects of Philippine culture that...I have a problem with. One in particular, which I'm not going to go into.

I have just done a mail order for a book.
But that book I have read before so I know it's a good one. But it's a shame as all the bookshops are closing and even the christian bookshop doesn't stock it.

I wouldn't do mail order for things that I hadn't even looked at or inspected before. I used to mail order clothes as I couldn't find many dresses in the shops. But I found that, even though they looked alright in the catalogue, trying them on and having the right fabric was another matter. I had to send a lot back. Then decided it wasn't worth it and stopped receiving the catalogue.
Now I find I get most of my best dresses from op shops and they are as good as new and even in my size.

Whether this applies to brides or not I couldn't tell you, but that's just my experience of mail order.

Is that a real thing still?

Google "Foreign Brides" and see how many sites you find.

Butterfly99 said:

Is that a real thing still?

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I had the same thought. But yes, it is.

Theres mail order bridal gowns so. There could be.
I dont think they would be allowed on trade me though. The bride does not come with the gown.
I know my neighbour got her bridal gown off trade me. Apparently it is much cheaper to buy a bridal gown from China then get it made locally.