Husband seeks divorce, just found out I'm pregnant

MandaBZ

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I am in need of prayers and support...

My husband of 8 years asked for a separation 4 weeks ago. Told me he loved me but was no longer inlove and that he needed space to figure things out. My world fell apart. My husband is 32 and admitted to meeting a 20 year old girl at school and that he was falling for her (my husband is ex military and is going to school to become a doctor). I left with our two year old daughter, although I fought him initially. I decided respecting his wishes and giving him time could heal us. He agreed to stop his relationship with the girl, and I emailed her asking for sympathy and to give me time to work on things with my husband. My husband and I attended 2 Christian counseling sessions before he said he no longer wished to participate.

On week 3 of our separation, he stated that he knew what he wanted, a divorce. I was very curious to why he had made his decision so quickly bit the only answer he could give was that I was a good woman, but he didn't want a married life. I continue to go to Christian counseling alone to give me strength and advice. My counselor advised that my husband has "checked out" of our marriafe and that he is more than likely still seeing the girl. I didn't want to believe it, but he was right. I checked phone records and found that they were txting, sending picture mail at all hours of the night and calling eachother like lovesick teenagers. When I confronted him, he met with a divorce attorney.

The day before we separated we had sex, and I now find myself pregnant. We tried for 4 months to conceive our first daughter and it astonishes me that one night of unprotected sex led to this beautiful mariacle. I have been on my knees asking God for guidance, strength and hope. I pray not for the restoration of our family, but that he guide us all and show us His will. I asked for a miracle, asking my husband have a change of heart. To give himself up to the Lord and let him find his peace.

The miracle of this child I carry was not the miracle I thought I'd get, but none the less a true gift from God. When I told my husband the news, he cried with fear and sorrow. Got on his hands and knees and begged me to get an abortion. That he would never be a father to it. I'm so lost. I love my husband very much but can not fathom how he could want me to kill our unborn child. My heart aches. All I want is his love and support. He believes I trapped him. Conceived on purpose to keep him from divorcing me. I told him I would not stop him from divorcing me, but he explained he couldn't live with the guilt and would kill himself if I kept the baby. Please pray for my family. For our strength to navigate these hard times.
 

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May God bring and keep you and your husband together with the new baby, in the Name of Jesus - abortion sounds absurd under these(the above-mentioned) circumstances - and may He keep/save all your family in general, in Jesus' Name

i am surprised and wondering how can a man let such a beautiful woman like you flee, even if the other woman is 18y?!

Blessings
 
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I am including you in The Most Holy Rosary to Jesus and our Blessed Virgin Mother Mary tomorrow MandaBZ.

A firm 'no' to murder of one of God The Most High's little Children - His 'Little Children' whom sit at His Very Holy Throne as His sweet smelling Bouquets - the souls of little Children, many of those souls whom were returned to God The Most High as rejected and unwanted by their earthly parents after God Gifted parents with His little Children.

Murder is murder and a serious mortal sin against God our Heavenly Father - the taking of 'life' - His creation of life/souls gifted into our wombs. God gave us free will to live life yet not to break His Commandments and when broken these require repentance from hearts in genuine sorrow and remorse to Jesus Christ our Saviour, the cessation of those mortal sins and venial sins and penance given to us by Jesus Christ our Merciful Saviour (to those of whom have repented to Him).

Divorce is a mortal sin - we pay the price in God The Most Highs wrath unless we have turned to Jesus and repented to Jesus in genuine remorse and done the penance here on earth.
Fornication is a mortal sin - we pay the ultimate price in God The Most High's wrath in the 7 ways as God has stated in His Holy Word and Jesus has stated to Saint Faustina in Her Polish Convent and Chapel in the 1930s.
Not supporting Children as Parents - we pay the price in God The Most Highs wrath without repentance to Jesus in genuine remorse.

Praying for you and your Children.
 
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Praying for healing and restoration of your marriage as well as for strength and comfort.

I can recommend this site:

https://www.rejoiceministries.org/

It's a site about marriage restoration.

God has saved my marriage miraculous and He can save yours as well.
 
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I think the "checked out" advice is right. My prayer for you is to get an excellent attorney. It seems to me that you can have more rights and perhaps more money - depends on the state and the attorney and judge - if he can be seen to be abandoning you and the children. He is, of course, abandoning you. I would no way agree to any kind of divorce before seeing a good lawyer and hammering out a satisfactory agreement. Your future and the future of your children is at stake. You may feel sorry for him, but you and the kids are the priority.. Check around to see a lawyer people have gotten good results with. Someone nice and aggressive sounds like a good idea. I will be praying that you are led to the right one.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I hope you don't see it as your fault in any way. It sounds like your husband is just highly immature and that it's all about him and his hormones.

I pray for your healing, provision and peace.
 
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Hi, so sorry to hear this is happening. I pray God strengthens and comforts you during this time. Remember God's loves you even though things might not being going as you would like. Also, when you pray have faith that God can bring restoration and healing in your life. Blessings in Christ .
 
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The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
He maketh me to lie down in green pastures:
he leadeth me beside the still waters.
He restoreth my soul:
he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name's sake.
Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil: for thou art with me;
thy rod and thy staff they comfort me.
Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies:
thou anointest my head with oil; my cup runneth over.
Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life:and I shall dwell in the house of The Lord forever. From my heart with care and sympathy and compassion,Remember Jesus cares for you dear for you are his daughter stay strong in this trial of weakness through him.
 
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