Wife Turned Hateful and I lost Attraction

wolf1027 said:

Sorry I was late have been busy with life.
I am in college and she works online. Started out with elance and she is now freelancing through a company. She is very good at what she does because she gets to control people in a type A manner. I am type B and pretty passive.
We do only have one kid.
I have tried telling her that she needs to do more. This immediately leads to an argument. Some days she is sick but her illnesses are several untreatable undiagnosable cases except for maybe her pcos. Some days she just says that she is working and that is her excuse.
I would be completely fine with serving her in bed if she would just act nice. I try to spend time with her but she will literally start yelling about whatever she deems necessary multiple times a day and I end up taking my laptop and going to the couch.
Our son has picked up on this behavior and will yell in rebellion every time he is told to do something.
I am just tired of it all and very unhappy. I honestly am just waiting until my son is old enough to handle a divorce (he is 6 now) and then just get it over with. I do not if this is the right thing to do in God's eyes but I also know that this constitutes for emotional abuse. Which brings me to the question, Would God want His children to stay in an abusive relationship? Try telling that to my mom who married a drunk and lets just say it ended permanently.
We are going to counseling but the therapist is basically trying to get her to stop being so controlling (which has only made things worse). We have only been a couple of times.

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LoricaLady said:

P.S. Another way to get data might be to talk to your wife on the phone and tape record it, saying how the physical abuse - describing some incidents and when they happened - has to stop. Keep her engaged in the conversation for as long as it takes to get lots of verification from her of what has happened. Maybe role play what you will say with someone else, or at least the mirror.
Hopefully, prayerfully, she won't catch on to what is happening and will say things that make it clear she was indeed being physically abusive. Maybe she would apologize. Maybe she would make excuses. Whatever, just so she is acknowledging that it did occur and you've got it documented.

If she has, or will, admit to the physical abuse with a therapist then I would think that would give you what you need, but talk to the therapist.
Of course keep any documentation with someone else, not where she could ever get ahold of it.

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