recovering from dysfunctinal clergy relationship

survivor4truth · Sep 19, 2015

for 4 1/2 years from the time I was 12, I had a relationship with a christian clergy. He was both emotionally abusive and had impure intentions. Though thankfully he never chose to go too far, I've been told by the police it's possible he would have if at 17 I did not put a stop to it.

I don't have much social support. most people I know know him and side with him.

Inthesafeplace · Sep 19, 2015

I feel your pain. I won't say much about my own story, but I know it's difficult. I have trust issues with that. Something that helps is knowing that Christians are not always reflections of God's character. He is good, patient, kind, not boastful or full or pride, he doesn't remind you of mistakes, he won't embarrass you, he's not selfish. He is a comforter. I'm trying to think of a christian I've meet personally that really embodies this. I'm having a little difficulty.

As for people taking his side, God knows the truth and is taking your side.

A lot of people wouldn't imagine a clergyman doing that. Lots of times, no one but the survivor sees this side of him. I'm incredibly sorry for what he's done and that people side with him.
I know sometimes words are useless in these situations.

Just don't give up God. In my own story, I've found he is actually faithful and actually good, inspite of what has happened. Most of all, he can heal the heart boo-boos.

Recovery can take a while.

survivor4truth · Sep 20, 2015

thank you so much and you are so right! God bless you

LaSorcia · Sep 20, 2015

I'm sorry that someone mistreated you. Especially clergy. That kind of misuse of relationship really disgusts me. I pray God helps and heals you and straightens him up.

Johnnz · Sep 28, 2015

Many women are not believed when they report any sexual abuse. What the abuser's occupation is has little relevance it seems - it must be the woman's fault, or she is lying. Grrrrr.

John
NZ

gerbilwoman · Nov 17, 2015

I had a bad experience with a clergy member too. It's really hard for me, even to be here.

MissRowy · Nov 25, 2015

It saddens me that religious clergy can get away with stuff like this. I hope you are okay and there are helplines you can call if you have to talk to someone

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