My girlfriend and I just celebrated 4 years of being together the other day. 2 days prior I expressed to her how I believe God doesn't want us to move in together. She is going through a lot with her family and will soon be moving out and we were excited to start building a life and home together. But it was weighing heavy on my heart for a few weeks that God wouldnt approve. It was upsetting at first but she quickly came around and understood and now we agree on it. I also however after 4 years of sharing a bed and spending the night together expressed that i dont believe we should do that either. I feel convicted in this but it is very hard especially for her since it all came abruptly and unexpected. Not to mention everything else going on. She wants more of an explanation to why its wrong and all i can say is that its what i feel convicted in. We've decided not to have sex till marriage. So i guess my question is it truly wrong? Or a sin? If its just to truly spend more time with each other, fight any temptation with each other, and be there to console her is it wrong? She mentioned if it was even 1 day a week. Any help, thoughts, opinions, guidance would be great.
Sharing a bed, no sex, yay or nay?
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I think it's pretty dangerous. Then again, I'm single, so the temptation is not necessarily immediate. If you really love her, want to spend your life with her, and move in with her, then propose. Otherwise, regulate self-control. If she can't respect your religious beliefs then maybe she's not right for you. However, if you've been sleeping together [without sexual relations] for a number of years, you've already goofed up.
"But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." [1 Corinthians 7:0]
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I think temptation could set-in.
If it happens, keep Jesus at the forefront of your mind at all times.
If it happens, keep Jesus at the forefront of your mind at all times.
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Don't be tempted. This is Satan at work here....If you truly love her then marry her
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If you truly haven't had sex in all the nights you shared a bed you have self control, if you both can maintain that level of control living together does have many advantages $ being one...there maybe a battered woman looking to get out of her abusive house and you and your GF moving in together might open up the Apt she needs ???!!!
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I agree with those who say if you love her, marry her. But besides that, it could hurt your influence on others in the way you share Christ with others. I mean how many GUYS can actually NOT fall to that kind of temptation. I'm not saying you can't. I just know my struggles in this area before I was married.
Besides that, I believe, as Christians, we have to take into consideration HOW it looks to others. Don't know if it's true, but I have heard that Billy Graham would not even go to lunch with another woman unless there was another person present. He did not want anything to be said of what MIGHT be happening.
That's a great rule to live by.
1. It keeps you away from any potential temptation.
2. It cleanses the situation of any hint of sexual immorality.
3. People just may see that you are very serious about your relationship with God by changing your life decisions instead of trying to find a way to work God into an "is it wrong" lifestyle.
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Great discussion!
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." Ephesians 5:3
I agree with those who say if you love her, marry her. But besides that, it could hurt your influence on others in the way you share Christ with others. I mean how many GUYS can actually NOT fall to that kind of temptation. I'm not saying you can't. I just know my struggles in this area before I was married.
Besides that, I believe, as Christians, we have to take into consideration HOW it looks to others. Don't know if it's true, but I have heard that Billy Graham would not even go to lunch with another woman unless there was another person present. He did not want anything to be said of what MIGHT be happening.
That's a great rule to live by.
1. It keeps you away from any potential temptation.
2. It cleanses the situation of any hint of sexual immorality.
3. People just may see that you are very serious about your relationship with God by changing your life decisions instead of trying to find a way to work God into an "is it wrong" lifestyle.
Great Questions!
Great discussion!
"But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy people." Ephesians 5:3
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There seems to be a lot of threads like this popping up.
Congrats if you really haven't had any sexual relations with her during those four years!
Now you say that your consciousness is convicting you against this moving in situation. Good! That means the holy spirit is working inside you. listen to that!
I also agree with the above verses. I truly hope she doesn't take this as rejection, but a better way to strengthen the relationship before marriage.
Congrats if you really haven't had any sexual relations with her during those four years!
Now you say that your consciousness is convicting you against this moving in situation. Good! That means the holy spirit is working inside you. listen to that!
I also agree with the above verses. I truly hope she doesn't take this as rejection, but a better way to strengthen the relationship before marriage.
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To the OP, I dont see anything biblically wrong with sleeping in the same bed, in that by doing that no sin is being commited ( i stand to be corrected though)
However the temtation you would feel at times would be imense
Ultimately if you feel God is telling you its not right for you, then its not right for you to do.
If your girlfriend cant accept that then it doesnt bode well forr the relationship. Although being upset etc is not the same as not accepting it
However the temtation you would feel at times would be imense
Ultimately if you feel God is telling you its not right for you, then its not right for you to do.
If your girlfriend cant accept that then it doesnt bode well forr the relationship. Although being upset etc is not the same as not accepting it
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