Before I got married I caught my fiancé messaging men on dating sites. He told me it was s one time thing and he was curious before he got married also he told me of a horrible incident when he was younger of a family member a few years older raping him. I felt bad excused it and married anyways.. Over the course of 3 years I've found the same kind of emails but we dismissed them and tried ignoring it and went about our lives. We separated for a year and during that time he met with numerous strangers of the same sex . We got back together recently but it's still going on and more openly. Although I have grounds on divorcing I don't want to give up on him! But I am already so drained and depressed and worn out with this problem it's tearing us apart leaving our marriage hanging on a thread. I am a firm believer in Christ and I try to keep his commands and follow the bible but I am so lost in what to do or how to handle this. I spoke to him about this and he said he'll take counseling and marriage counseling etc but it might be all talk.. I'm looking for solid Christian bible based advice on how to take on this challenge .. I know it's a lot please no negative replies***
Hi,
You caught him, before you were married. He told you that it was a one time thing. Then he proves to you, that no it is not a one time thing. That dear is a lie.
In contracts, and marriage is considered to be a leagally binding contract, the goods, of you and your mate, are to be accurately described. He did not describe himself accurately whether he knew of it or not.
You did not get, what you thought you were getting. In one church that is instant grounds for annulment. In law, it probably is also. Whether or not, an annulment takes place or not, the first item in that process in a divorce. You, did not get what you thought you were marrying.
Duplicity, lieing, or ignorance, not knowing himself if he has these tendencies or not, are not central to the issue of whether or not intent was involved in making the marriage contract null and void. What is important, is did you get what he promised to give you, in his sexual ways or not.
I am transgendered. I tell everyone not only that I am trangenedered, but espeically if anyone looks at me with those, I want to marry you eyes and ways. Transgender does not go away ever, according to literature. Some of us can control this a little and others cannot.
Your husband, said he had control when in fact he did not. Also, he never mentioned or knew that in fact he is homosexual. His actions prove he is.
Even if he was in denial and these are merely slips on his part, the point is contractually, you did not get what you contracted for. The contract is null and void.
LOVE,
...Mary., .... .