Adult kids? How do you keep the relationship going?

I lived in sin and came back because my mom invited us over, was always sweet and never stopped praying.

I think you should seek things that you do have in common rather than focusing on the things that you are far apart on.

It also seems like you are being far too harsh on her and not taking some things into account when discussing her current life. Here's a couple points I mean by this...

- It's 2015 and most young people don't have a career because of economic reasons, so expecting one is a bit ridiculous. Take a look around and see how things are for most people...you will see a lot of college graduates as bartenders that are deep in debt, and very few well-off young people who didn't come from well-off families.

- Young people now just aren't very religious (just google millennials and religion for stats), they are not outliers and are just reflecting society at large. Obviously their lack of faith bothers you but you should view the problem on a greater scale and realize it's relatively minor considering outside conditions.

- You used the term "non-driven" which makes me wonder as to what your definition of "driven" is.


Personally, I was "non-driven" through my entire life until the past two years. I went to college and got a 4 year degree (something I consider the biggest regret of my life), I worked in jobs I hated for little money and I was just a very sad person in every aspect of my life. My mom did everything she could to help me but she just didn't understand that working at a large college was something I loathed and that the corporate bureaucratic structure was destroying me every day that I lived inside of it.

During this phase when I was so miserable (I was 26 to 29 at this time), I became intensely interested in cryptocurrencies....a very niche technology that actually resulted in my mom and other family members saying I had mental issues because of my "obsession with internet funny money" No one in my region knew anything about this technology, jobs weren't there and my friends had no idea what I was talking about. Well a few years pass and the tech turns out to be bigger and I'm one of the few people in the Marketing field who understand this stuff...so the opportunity came and I left my hometown and things have been amazing since.

I am now a part of the founding team for a startup that raised $5.1 million in 45 days to create one of the most groundbreaking tech projects of the year.... In other words, my interest in a subject that others didn't understand (therefore they thought it was crazy) ended up being something that made me both immensely happy and financially successful.

To this day my mom really doesn't understand what I do but she no longer things I'm crazy....

Be careful and aware of your judgmentalism, dear Mama! I hear you saying that you raised your daughter well and now she is not behaving in ways that show that she has continued with your training. However- she is still your daughter and I urge you, don't give up on her.
I hear you saying that you are disappointed in her. As a mom, I get that. But please know that your disappointment may be driving as large a wedge between the two of you as her less than great behavior now that she is on her own. Make times to be with her and be a loving, guiding presence in her life. Let her look at you, and want what you've got. To look at your Mom and see disappointment written all over them...it's not a good feeling, and it's NOT going to be what makes her want to do better.
God bless you!!