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So I'm battling an addiction to inappropriate contentography currently, I am at day 19 right now and since becoming a Christian, I have given in 7 different times. The past 4 days or so, I noticed the temptations seem to be getting so strong that it's hindering me from praying, focusing on God's word and sharing my faith or witnessing to other people. I'm currently doing a 60 day course at settingcaptivesfree, I have a few accountability friends that are supporting me through this, however today I just almost feel like giving up. I haven't given in yet, however, I feel as though I am on the verge of giving in. Like, the moments before you give in to the temptation, that's what I'm currently experiencing right now. My faith feels extremely weak because of the temptations and I know we are supposed to be patient but how much longer am I supposed to endure this? Is this a normal experience to be having that eventually goes away when God thinks you've endured through long enough? or am I looking at this completely the wrong way?

I can't even get my thoughts in the right order because all I keep thinking about is giving in to the temptation eventually. For those who are wondering, yes I've been regularly praying. It seems like something is missing though. I just want to know if what I'm going through is normal and it's just a matter of me being patient through it all OR am I doing something wrong/am I setting myself up for failure?

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They chewed me up and spat me out because I deigned to think about their message rather than blindly accepting and repeating it back. Specifically, they're hyper-Calvinistic, which essentially has God as a puppeteer and us being the puppets. They told me I couldn't quit because God hadn't ordained that for me yet, which is completely against what the Bible teaches about repentance and God's holiness and will for us. Therefore, they are tools of Satan. I seem to remember they also contradicted themselves at least once, but I'm not going back to that e-mail folder again to find examples or for any other reason.
 
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They chewed me up and spat me out because I deigned to think about their message rather than blindly accepting and repeating it back. Specifically, they're hyper-Calvinistic, which essentially has God as a puppeteer and us being the puppets. They told me I couldn't quit because God hadn't ordained that for me yet, which is completely against what the Bible teaches about repentance and God's holiness and will for us. Therefore, they are tools of Satan. I seem to remember they also contradicted themselves at least once, but I'm not going back to that e-mail folder again to find examples or for any other reason.
I had no idea they were Calvanists. I am not a Calvanist, however I didn't find that on their site anywhere.
 
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You need to find something that grabs your attention so that you don't think about it. If you are constantly thinking about resisting temptation then it would be a very difficult process. It is difficult to break any addiction and the feeling may never completely go away. You just have to try and get the point where it simply becomes a passing thought and not something that continuously captivates you.
 
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Rules,discipline are necessary for humanity, respect and self-control. inappropriate content is pure fantasy and has no rules to protect your marriage, to protect yourself from uninhibited behavior that usually involves alcohol and drugs, or even hidden sexual diseases such as Aids:.
Faith when activated allows Jesus spiritually within us to see the difference between righteousness and unrighteousness of temptation, where at first it seems harmless fun but the consequences later on can be disastrous if marriage is not kept private between agreeing partners only:.
Having Jesus in our lives is necessary as he reacts to negative feelings, thoughts, circumstances and in return, he gives us positive supernatural fruits, most commonly joy, peace and courage to avoid depression and anxiety, suicidal thoughts, worthlessness, atheistic thoughts such as:
the Word of God is purely psychological treatment and that Jesus and Jehovah God the Father are mere teddy bear equivalents to comfort our struggles:.
Because Satan is not yet completed eliminated from Earth, Jesus will eventually defeat him when he returns in his Second Coming, plus reveal himself to us in front of our eyes his true identity, and also to athiests who impatiently wanted physical evidence of Jesus Christ immediately.;'*';.
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So I'm battling an addiction to inappropriate contentography currently, I am at day 19 right now and since becoming a Christian, I have given in 7 different times. The past 4 days or so, I noticed the temptations seem to be getting so strong that it's hindering me from praying, focusing on God's word and sharing my faith or witnessing to other people.

*Have you cut off your access to inappropriate content source(s)?
It is good you realize there's a problem and that it's become a stronghold in your life.



I'm currently doing a 60 day course at settingcaptivesfree, I have a few accountability friends that are supporting me through this, however today I just almost feel like giving up. I haven't given in yet, however, I feel as though I am on the verge of giving in. Like, the moments before you give in to the temptation, that's what I'm currently experiencing right now.

*Plan your day, give no room for this inappropriate content addiction to over take you.
Accountability partners, exactly what do yours do for you?



My faith feels extremely weak because of the temptations and I know we are supposed to be patient but how much longer am I supposed to endure this? Is this a normal experience to be having that eventually goes away when God thinks you've endured through long enough? or am I looking at this completely the wrong way?

*Sexual sins are difficult, because they involve your whole being... the flesh loves pleasure, once you get involved with anything of the sexual nature it will latch onto you like everything... many people think "inappropriate content is no big deal"--that's the deception of sin.
That's how so many people get pulled away from doing what is right to doing what is wrong. Once a sexual sin gets a foothold, it will continue to chip away at you.

It's good to have accountability partners but their roles in this battle are
an active one, not one of merely waiting for the phone to ring or for an email
or private message to pop up on their phone, tablet or computer.
So, get your team organized and make battle plans on how to fight this
problem.
Discuss when you're most susceptible, putting safeguards in place,
be honest about this struggle with your accountability team/partners.
Have some of them to check out your home to make sure there's nothing
you've over looked in making it a safe zone. Check your music, books,
movies, talk about friends (are they a good influence or bad?) Are there
places you need to avoid?

It's important to work on self control and for some people they need to
go through a purging process, so they can work on developing self control
because if they don't, they will continue going right back to inappropriate content sites.
If it's like that for you, then by all means do what you have to do so you
can get yourself under control.
The Bible instructs us to FLEE from temptation, that means to get away
from it ASAP!



I can't even get my thoughts in the right order because all I keep thinking about is giving in to the temptation eventually. For those who are wondering, yes I've been regularly praying. It seems like something is missing though. I just want to know if what I'm going through is normal and it's just a matter of me being patient through it all OR am I doing something wrong/am I setting myself up for failure?

*You may not have expected this sin to have such a stronghold-- but it does!
Now you are aware of what it can do, this is how an affair wrecks a person
also.

This site has much to say about inappropriate content:
Breaking Free | Articles about inappropriate content help and Internet safety | Covenant Eyes



I'd prefer it if someone who has overcome this particular addiction to respond to this post.


*Weakened... sounds like you could use a Christian mentor and a prayer partner or
partners also.
It's important to be discipled, too many are unprepared to
face a spiritual battle... I encourage you to talk with your minister
about being connected with a Christian mentor or getting connected
with someone who teaches a discipleship course (if church isn't doing
such a course at this time.)

I share this a lot with people, it's been of help to me to combat my problems
and I continue to read it and share this with others:
Taking Up The Whole Armor of God > Free Bible Study Guides

Study it carefully, meditate on it and apply it in your life each day...review
it often.
 
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I've found Setting Captives Free to be toxic, if you don't tow the line of their bad theology, they will chew you up and spit you out. Beware.
I felt like asking about this because I am thinking of taking the way of purity course again. I have recently fallen into sexual sin enough times that I know I need to take measures to address this issue. The last time I took the course I had trouble with giving into self-gratification during my sleep so I was not able to get more than halfway through the course. I would wake up and discover myself in the middle of self-gratification and even though I would stop in a short time, I still had to answer yes to the question that asks if you fell into self-gratification.
I also am not sure what they think if you question any of the advice given by your mentor. I vaguely recall something in the course that gives you the idea that you have to accept all the advice of your mentor without questioning it. More recently I was taking a course called the Cross Centered Mind and I shared with my mentor that I was having trouble with getting up from bed in the morning and getting to work right on time. He told me to try to get to work a half an hour early and help out with things earlier than my shift. I found something in my employee handbook that it is against company policy to work off the clock and you could be fired but when I tried to explain that to the mentor he told me he did not understand why I am so resistant to his advice.
 
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I felt like asking about this because I am thinking of taking the way of purity course again. I have recently fallen into sexual sin enough times that I know I need to take measures to address this issue. The last time I took the course I had trouble with giving into self-gratification during my sleep so I was not able to get more than halfway through the course. I would wake up and discover myself in the middle of self-gratification and even though I would stop in a short time, I still had to answer yes to the question that asks if you fell into self-gratification.
I also am not sure what they think if you question any of the advice given by your mentor. I vaguely recall something in the course that gives you the idea that you have to accept all the advice of your mentor without questioning it. More recently I was taking a course called the Cross Centered Mind and I shared with my mentor that I was having trouble with getting up from bed in the morning and getting to work right on time. He told me to try to get to work a half an hour early and help out with things earlier than my shift. I found something in my employee handbook that it is against company policy to work off the clock and you could be fired but when I tried to explain that to the mentor he told me he did not understand why I am so resistant to his advice.
Yeah, that all sounds familiar. Why on earth would you go back to that.
 
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