It hurts to see him in church and small groups

This is another reason why i don't date guys from church.

About the hurts themselves. I have been hurt a great deal in the past by people who were supposed to LOVE me most. I think you bringing it out in the open here is great. GOD alone can remove the root of bitterness from our heart, IF it is still there seek HIM in prayer, and even ask others to pray for the hard feelings you have. We are all going to reap what we sow one day, and that includes the way we forgive.... GODS way is freely and fully as if the thing that happened had never happened... aka all pain being gone and a gracious friendly spirit toward the person who hurt us. This could also be described as overcoming evil with GOOD..... If you find it difficult to fully forgive then just keep asking our FATHER, There is a principle about knocking and keeping on knocking, and sometimes we have to strive to reach the spiritual place we need to be, and at other times it comes easy.

To share a bit of my own story I remarried at 42 telling her I "THOUGHT" I could build a house... we proceeded to build a very nice home with our own hand with me working full time and her part time. It took a year and a half just to get it up and dried in. We had drawn it off on posterboard. Without telling the whole story I had a breakdown in 2011, she asked me to move after that saying if it ever happened again she wanted the support of her kids. I LOVED her and the house was just a house so I agreed to move. During the time after the breakdown she had told me over and over to never give up, as I was in depression at that time. She was also saying that she had people telling her to divorce me and that she would never do it. After we moved she wanted a post nuptial agreement on the new house and I gave it to her thinking it was just reassurance. Later I found myself divorced and devastated. I moved back to my hometown with nothing but my clothes and my tools. The house we had built and everything we owned was paid for. I had my dream car, a jeep to hunt from, and a nice goldwing motorcycle. Today as I am living in a building that used to be a store, my youngest son lives just down the hill from the house we built... when I go see him there are no thoughts about the things I lost due to her decisions. I realize that she just saw things as she saw them, and the best thing is that there is no pain in my heart toward her... no bitterness at all. I don't know if she was planning divorce when she asked me to move, or if she was intending to give it an honest try, but either way I still pray for her, and the value of not having bitterness from it is worth far more than any of that stuff was.

Seek GOD as a little child, telling HIM to work in your heart to help you be everything you need to be.... it WILL HAPPEN