Thank you all for your input.
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Being a husband and father is a very difficult thing for sinners to do. You don't want to do it because you're a sinner that's oriented toward yourself (just like all of us). It's very difficult for people who love the self to die to self - which being a husband constantly requires.
The only way to get the spiritual energy that you need to carry out your responsibility with joy is to be continually drinking from the fount of grace.
A few questions:
- Are you part of a church?
- Do you hear good preaching?
- Are you able to share these things with any friends in your life?
- Hows your prayer life?
- Have you spoken with your wife about these things?
- Have you spoken with your pastor about these things?
This is our one and only marriage for both me and my wife and it has been successful. No bed of roses and a lot of work and a lot of commitment. But we are at the point now where I could not imagine life without this woman.
I guess I have a few questions...
1. How old were you when you two married?
2. Is the infidelity in regards to your marriage?
I ask the first one because alot of times people marry super young without realizing just how hard life is. Even more so when married. The hard truth is life is work. Endless work that drives you nuts sometimes. On top of that there are trials, hardships, anger, sadness...etc. Especailly in marriage. We can never satisfy our spouse fully. It is impossible. Only God can do that. If we try then we will just end up disappointed.
On top of it once you have kids.... its the hardest thing ever to maintain a life, marriage and kids. Its why I have no interest in kids right now. In todays world I see more couples get divorced because once they have kids they don't have time for each other, the love dies off and they feel overly stressed. I don't want that. Marriage is hard as it is sometimes.
Obviously don't leave your wife. And don't leave your faith. But stay strong and know this is what you signed up for when you married and had kids. It may be frustrating but in the end theres not much else we can do. Pray, pray and pray. Involve your wife. Maybe tell her how you feel. See if you two can make some changes to make things easier. Get some couples counseling. Talk to a pastor. Maybe have a "Date night" with your wife sometimes, just the two of you out of the house together.
You're depressed?
How do you know I am a sinner?
By sinner do you mean unbeliever?
No, I am not "part of a church", I am the church.
You ask too many questions.
Some are irrelevant to solving the problem, especially talking to a pastor who is just as flawed as other humans.
The Bible teaches that every person is a sinner.
No.
Why not?
Because
What was your goal here? Did you not want anyone to inquire into your situation?
You wanna talk to strangers online about your issues but you don't want to have a face-to-face with someone who's been trained to minister and counsel others on issues like these?
God told me to leave the church I was going to, and He has not directed me any place else. At least not yet.
No, I didn't want anyone to inquire into my situation. I just needed an outlet.
This argument is invalid simply because a person cannot be trained to deal with marriage issues for people who have within them the Spirit of God. Especially not with psychology. We will never agree here. Just move on.
The Bible teaches that every person is a sinner.
No.
Why not?
What was your goal here? Did you not want anyone to inquire into your situation?
You wanna talk to strangers online about your issues but you don't want to have a face-to-face with someone who's been trained to minister and counsel others on issues like these?
How did God tell you to leave your church? Why are you currently ignoring the words of God in Scripture that admonish you to be part of a local church?
Then don't post on a forum. Start a journal. Or don't be surprised or offended when people try to respond helpfully.
You don't think that people can be trained to use Scripture and prayer to minister to and counsel others?
No, I didn't want anyone to inquire into my situation. I just needed an outlet.