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nice balanced reasons for differing levels of discipline
1.Belligerence and defiance. = doing what you know is wrong
2. Doing what you know is wrong.= belligerent defiance
3. Lying.= both of the above .... haha
God bless
by the way that encouraged me - i am dealing with a 17 yr old in my house and i was feeling bad about confiscating cell phone and laptop for his embarrassing sulking at the dinner table last night . i feel great about it now lol
Perhaps some definitions would be helpful.
bel·lig·er·ence
noun
1. a warlike or aggressively hostile nature, condition, or attitude.
An aggressively hostile condition in a child is called a temper tantrum. It's when the child makes the decision to loose control thinking that yelling and screaming will get them what they want.
de·fi·ance
noun
1. a daring or bold resistance to authority
2. open disregard; contempt
This is more than a child ignoring an adult, or saying I don't want to. This is when a clear instruction has been given and the child refuses and demonstrates contempt. "I'm not going to, and you can't make me."
Doing what you know is wrong.
Theft, comes to mind. When a child know an action is wrong and chooses to commit the act any way.
You really don't need a definition for lying.
Each of these is the measuring line between good character and bad.
Ever watch a parent enduring a three year old screaming in a store? I want that........ Our children learned quickly that type of behavior was unacceptable. They would start to throw a fit, receive one reminder of how they should behave. If they did not correct themselves, they were taken home immediately.
We missed a lot of dinners, had interrupted shopping trips and walked out on parties.
By the third or fourth time, they would change their behavior after the reminder.
Hope that helps.