dayhiker
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Jenster,
I've actually done that in the past. not making reference to my EX or GF and it seems at some point it becomes clear that I'm around this person more than a fwe times and then I'm asked who and why was I hiding who that person was.
I am with you that your BF will likely have some feelings that he isn't expecting. I personally have been caught of gaurd a few times. But I then know I need to deal with that emotion. I see emotions as judgments or more precisely emotions tell us what our judgement is. And I don't like judging that my GF shouldn't have had a good time in her previous life. I actually want to wish that she had had a better time in the past just as I wish she was having a good time now. I do think that like any view of how relationships are going, takes work and your BF and mines view also takes work. But I see it as a healthier way to view my GF. I know most doesn't go there tho.
I've actually done that in the past. not making reference to my EX or GF and it seems at some point it becomes clear that I'm around this person more than a fwe times and then I'm asked who and why was I hiding who that person was.
I am with you that your BF will likely have some feelings that he isn't expecting. I personally have been caught of gaurd a few times. But I then know I need to deal with that emotion. I see emotions as judgments or more precisely emotions tell us what our judgement is. And I don't like judging that my GF shouldn't have had a good time in her previous life. I actually want to wish that she had had a better time in the past just as I wish she was having a good time now. I do think that like any view of how relationships are going, takes work and your BF and mines view also takes work. But I see it as a healthier way to view my GF. I know most doesn't go there tho.
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