J
Jenster
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For those who have dated someone who has either been married before or had a serious relationship, I'd like to know what you think. I've run into a situation in which I don't know if my request of my bf would be fair or unfair.
Basically, would you consider it fair or unfair to ask your gf/bf NOT to talk about his or her ex? I'm dating a man who is still friends with an ex, and I don't mind them being friends. But I don't like to be reminded that they dated. When my bf has brought it up, mentioning it because it is part of his history, I tend to feel physically anxious, just thinking about them being together. No, I don't mean, like, going to get ice cream sundaes. I mean having relations, which they did, even though they weren't married.
On the one hand, it seems unfair of me to ask him not to talk about when they were dating. On the other hand, I don't mention my past relationships at all. They're over with, and I don't keep in touch with my exes.
What do you all think? I just don't like the fact of being reminded, since she continues to be part of his life, of the fact that they were lovers. I'm fine with him talking about her as a friend, however.
Basically, would you consider it fair or unfair to ask your gf/bf NOT to talk about his or her ex? I'm dating a man who is still friends with an ex, and I don't mind them being friends. But I don't like to be reminded that they dated. When my bf has brought it up, mentioning it because it is part of his history, I tend to feel physically anxious, just thinking about them being together. No, I don't mean, like, going to get ice cream sundaes. I mean having relations, which they did, even though they weren't married.
On the one hand, it seems unfair of me to ask him not to talk about when they were dating. On the other hand, I don't mention my past relationships at all. They're over with, and I don't keep in touch with my exes.
What do you all think? I just don't like the fact of being reminded, since she continues to be part of his life, of the fact that they were lovers. I'm fine with him talking about her as a friend, however.