I know what I am about to explain might sound unbelievable to some but it is true although I wish it were not so. I am praying someone can understand and help.
My name is Sindy. I am a 34-year-old woman who escaped an abusive husband after 15 years of abuse in a marriage. In the 15 years, I lost 2 precious unborn babies to his abuse. I was hurt in every way you can imagine, many being too vulgar to put into words. He forced me to do disgusting things and kept videos of these acts in order to blackmail and shame me into staying with him. He threatened to make these ugly acts public to my family and friends saying they would all hate me and think it was my doing not his. He went so far as to show my father a video of me after I left him the first time. My dad being very elderly and not clear in his thinking any longer, refused to ever speak to me again and he died hating me, I believe as a result of what he thought I had done willingly.
Suicide seemed the only answer for me but something deep inside of me wanted to live a happy life and be free. I felt like Jesus still wanted me to live and that He would help me. I prayed for strength to leave once more and vowed I would not be brought back. In order to do escape I had to move across the country, change my name and cut all ties with my past completely including my family. It is not safe for me to be in contact with anyone as my ex husband made it very clear he would hunt me down if I ever left him. He has done this twice before finding me and bringing me back under threat of either killing me or hurting my loved ones. I finally was able to get my name changed and start over but I will live in fear forever that he will not give up until I am dead.
I started my life over and was able to secure a divorce. I did not ever expect to find love but I was blessed enough to meet a wonderful Christain man and slowly he was able to help me rebuild my ability to trust and love. He is a wonderful man with a wonderful understanding family who has shown me so much kindness and love. I can feel again and I feel alive again. We want to get married but lack the resources to do so as I have had to travel to the USA and undergo surgeries and medical procedures to correct old injuries from the abuses and we are still paying for the treatments and I will be in therapy for some time. I just a happy wedding day we can remember as lovely and special. There wont be many guests as my dear one is quite new to Canada and doesnt know many people yet. His family is not here and cannot afford to come so it will be a simple wedding but I do so want a dress to make me look like a bride. We are just getting by financially and a new dress or any decorations etc is not in the budget at all.
<B>I was hoping someone might have an old dress in my size (or able to be altered) that they no longer needed or would be willing to lend with my solemn promise to take care of it and return it if that is what is wanted. </B>Even if its a dress in very bad shape perhaps I could salvage some lace or parts of it to make something that would work?
If anyone had any left over wedding decorations, favors just anything they had used to didnt need I would be so so grateful. Just anything to make the day seem like a happy festive occasion. Old lace, fabric, just anything I could somehow craft into something for us to use. I would be so grateful. I know I am asking a lot and I am asking people to trust me but this is sincere from my heart and I am putting my story out there with the hopes that someone might understand what a happy wedding days means to a girl, even an older one. I would love to be pretty to my dear fiancé and to look like a beautiful bride.
I feel afraid to ask, afraid to put my story out there and afraid to expose myself to strangers but I also feel desperate to have a day to remember and there is no way we can afford this without someones kindness. Im not asking for anything but unwanted or un needed items and I would be most grateful for absolutely anything, even if its damaged, old or needs work. I take about a size 18-20 dress and had hoped yellow might be the color of any decorations but I am not fussy. If you have anything you are going to get rid of anyway would you consider sharing it? Your left overs, no matter what, could help me make our day special. I am putting my faith in God and just asking for what I really want hoping that God will help through someone here.
God bless you for taking the time to read this.
Thank you
Best regards, Sindy
I can be reached at [Email address removed - please read our rules - no email addresses to be posted. Members can contact you via PM or by clicking the email link which will still keep your email address private - Erwin]
My name is Sindy. I am a 34-year-old woman who escaped an abusive husband after 15 years of abuse in a marriage. In the 15 years, I lost 2 precious unborn babies to his abuse. I was hurt in every way you can imagine, many being too vulgar to put into words. He forced me to do disgusting things and kept videos of these acts in order to blackmail and shame me into staying with him. He threatened to make these ugly acts public to my family and friends saying they would all hate me and think it was my doing not his. He went so far as to show my father a video of me after I left him the first time. My dad being very elderly and not clear in his thinking any longer, refused to ever speak to me again and he died hating me, I believe as a result of what he thought I had done willingly.
Suicide seemed the only answer for me but something deep inside of me wanted to live a happy life and be free. I felt like Jesus still wanted me to live and that He would help me. I prayed for strength to leave once more and vowed I would not be brought back. In order to do escape I had to move across the country, change my name and cut all ties with my past completely including my family. It is not safe for me to be in contact with anyone as my ex husband made it very clear he would hunt me down if I ever left him. He has done this twice before finding me and bringing me back under threat of either killing me or hurting my loved ones. I finally was able to get my name changed and start over but I will live in fear forever that he will not give up until I am dead.
I started my life over and was able to secure a divorce. I did not ever expect to find love but I was blessed enough to meet a wonderful Christain man and slowly he was able to help me rebuild my ability to trust and love. He is a wonderful man with a wonderful understanding family who has shown me so much kindness and love. I can feel again and I feel alive again. We want to get married but lack the resources to do so as I have had to travel to the USA and undergo surgeries and medical procedures to correct old injuries from the abuses and we are still paying for the treatments and I will be in therapy for some time. I just a happy wedding day we can remember as lovely and special. There wont be many guests as my dear one is quite new to Canada and doesnt know many people yet. His family is not here and cannot afford to come so it will be a simple wedding but I do so want a dress to make me look like a bride. We are just getting by financially and a new dress or any decorations etc is not in the budget at all.
<B>I was hoping someone might have an old dress in my size (or able to be altered) that they no longer needed or would be willing to lend with my solemn promise to take care of it and return it if that is what is wanted. </B>Even if its a dress in very bad shape perhaps I could salvage some lace or parts of it to make something that would work?
If anyone had any left over wedding decorations, favors just anything they had used to didnt need I would be so so grateful. Just anything to make the day seem like a happy festive occasion. Old lace, fabric, just anything I could somehow craft into something for us to use. I would be so grateful. I know I am asking a lot and I am asking people to trust me but this is sincere from my heart and I am putting my story out there with the hopes that someone might understand what a happy wedding days means to a girl, even an older one. I would love to be pretty to my dear fiancé and to look like a beautiful bride.
I feel afraid to ask, afraid to put my story out there and afraid to expose myself to strangers but I also feel desperate to have a day to remember and there is no way we can afford this without someones kindness. Im not asking for anything but unwanted or un needed items and I would be most grateful for absolutely anything, even if its damaged, old or needs work. I take about a size 18-20 dress and had hoped yellow might be the color of any decorations but I am not fussy. If you have anything you are going to get rid of anyway would you consider sharing it? Your left overs, no matter what, could help me make our day special. I am putting my faith in God and just asking for what I really want hoping that God will help through someone here.
God bless you for taking the time to read this.
Thank you
Best regards, Sindy
I can be reached at [Email address removed - please read our rules - no email addresses to be posted. Members can contact you via PM or by clicking the email link which will still keep your email address private - Erwin]
