Women's rights in Islam

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Islam gave women rights and privileges at a time when only barbaric manners and values dominated.
Yet, some people argue that Islam has alienated women in some domains. In fact, this belief is a misconception. People who say so, may have read about it in a magazine or seen it on TV. A quick examination of the issues judged as unjust to women will certainly correct the misunderstanding.

Man as the head of the household:

Some people believe that a woman in Islam is regarded as inferior to man since the Quran says (what means):"Men have one degree above women." [Quran 2: 228]



In the Quran it also says (what means): "Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allaah has given the one more than the other and because men support them from their means." [Quran 4:34]

This verse implies that it is a man's duty to support his wife, and not the reverse, but this, in no way, makes him superior to her.

In fact, the rights and responsibilities of a woman are equal to those of a man but they are not necessarily identical. Since men and women are not created identical, they have different physical and emotional qualities, jobs and privileges. This does not mean that women are inferior.

On the contrary, women are considered crucial members of society in Islam since they are assigned the job of bringing up future generations. People today tend to look down at housewives but, in fact, raising children is one of the most important and difficult tasks. The way a mother brings up her child determines the way he will behave in the future. This duty, which requires patience, love, understanding and wisdom was significantly assigned to women in Islam because her nature suits this job.

Allaah The Exalted, in His Wisdom, has assigned a role for each member of the family so that there would be no arguments concerning who should do what. If a sailboat has two leaders, each will want to follow a path, leading ultimately to chaos and even a crash. In the same manner, how many times have your parents fought over some decision because each had their own point of view and wanted to apply it? This is precisely why it is preferable to have one leader for each household. However, this does not give the leader the right to be a dictator, or to neglect the role of his companion. This does not make him superior to other members of his family. It just gives him a larger duty.

Inheritance:

Some people claim that Islam is unjust towards women because it entitles them to inherit half of what men get. In fact, those people only know one side of the truth.

First, the principle of women inheriting half the money is only applicable in 45 percent of the cases. In the other 55 percent, women inherit the same amount or sometimes even more. For example, a mother and a father each inherit the sixth of their son's property when they are not the only inheritors.

In addition, the laws of inheritance in Islam are proportional to the duties of spending. Indeed, a man in Islam has the responsibility of supporting his family, his brother's children (when his brother dies), his parents (when they retire and do not have an income), his children from his previous marriage (if he has them) and his household, including his wife and children. A woman, on the other hand, does not bear this responsibility. She has the freedom to use the money she collects from her dowry or work as she pleases.

You might object here, saying that women today are working and helping their husbands pay the expenses, which entitles them to share equality with men. In fact, you should know that women's economic assistance to their husbands, which has become the norm today, is only an answer to the females’ wishes. Islam does not oblige women to spend on their households. It is a free choice many women have themselves taken today to feel more liberated, so it does not entitle them to a bigger portion of the inheritance.

Polygyny:

Polygyny is one of the most questioned principles that Islam grants men and women. Indeed, many people wrongfully accuse Islam of injustice because it allows a man to have up to four wives. Nevertheless, like every instruction in the Quran, polygyny has a reason. You see, Islam is a practical religion that acknowledges the needs and temptations of human beings and provides laws that deal with them, thus preserving harmony and morality.

- Polygyny might be the solution for a couple if the wife is barren, the husband wants children of his own and the option of separation does not appeal to both parties.

- If a woman is chronically ill and is unable to perform her marital duties. Polygyny may also be the solution when the couple does not want divorce.

- Polygyny is the religion's answer to cases where some men have excessive sexual needs that cannot be fulfilled by one wife. This in no way means that men should abuse this right and use it whenever they fancy a woman. It is rather a chance Islam has provided to prevent men from committing adultery. Many people who condemn polygyny cheat on their wives, calling this phenomenon a 'swift affair.' Islam, at least, has offered the second woman the option of being called 'a wife' rather than 'a mistress', especially in some countries where women remarkably outnumber men.

- Polygyny may settle the problem of an increased number of unmarried women, especially during wars.

However, polygyny has some limits and conditions to be met. Indeed, the Quran instructs the man to be fair with his wives on all levels, including treatment, money, house, etc. The only level where the man may have an uneven stance is the level of the feelings that he cannot control:

The Quran says (what means): "You will never be able to do perfect justice between wives even if it is your ardent desire, so do not incline too much to one of them [by giving her more of your time and provision] so as to leave the other hanging [i.e. neither divorced nor married]. And if you do justice, and do all that is right and fear Allaah by keeping away from all that is wrong, then Allaah is Ever-Forgiving and All-Merciful." [Quran 4:129]

Finally, it is worth knowing that Islam gives a woman the right to refuse polygyny for her husband by setting it as a condition during the marriage procedures. If this condition is set, then the woman is granted divorce if her husband marries another while he is still married to her.

You might ask, why could not there be polyandry (a woman having more than one husband)? The answer is simple. Islam did not allow it because Allaah is All-Aware that it will create a problem of kinship. This means that the child may not know who is actually his father (it could be anyone of the four husbands). In addition to the psychological damage it may cause, this problem also complicates the issue of inheritance. Even birds and animals do not allow polyandry.



This is the status of women in Islam; where terrestrial systems of systems of Islam just heavenly, Terrestrial systems does not sponsor women's dignity, since disowned the father of his daughter, while the age of eighteen years or less; to go out wandering on her face

Islam has honored women, and make it honorable man unlike systems that prepared the source of sin, and take away their right to ownership and responsibility, and makes them live in humiliation and contempt, and prepared by the unclean creature?.

Islam has honored women on the reverse of making women a commodity trading her body in propaganda and advertising?.
Islam has honored women in contrast to systems that are transmitted to swear allegiance to a deal to marry a wife; to be a property of the husband? Some even held their synagogues; to consider the fact whether it is women and the spirit of human beings or not? !.

Thus we see that Muslim women in worldly terms happy with her family in the confines of her parents, and care for her husband, her children, whether dander in the event of her childhood, or youth, or Hermha, and if their poverty or richness, or her health or her illness.

If there is shortening of the right of women in some Muslim countries, or of some to associate Islam - he is a failure because of ignorance, and distance from the application of the laws of religion, and the burden in on the mistake and religion is unconnected with the consequences of those shortcomings.
The remedy for that error can only be by reference to the guidance of Islam and its teachings; for the treatment of error.

The Western civilization can hardly know anything of such meanings, but look at the women look purely material, you see that hijab and chastity backwardness and reactionary, and it must be a puppet of tampering with every fallen; That is the secret of happiness for them.



Is it the means of education, culture, wear tight clothes and transparent and short?!.
Then any dignity when placed belles images in advertising and promotions?!
Why not promote them, but the beautiful Belle, if exhausted past her beauty and her adornment and threw neglected like any other machine that has expired? !.

And share a few beauty of this civilization? And the share of elderly mother, and grandmother, the old man?.
The share at best be in shelters, and the role of the infirm and the elderly; where visited and ask them.
And may have a share of the pension, or the like, shall devour him until you die; the womb is not there, and no link does not close the Crown.

The women in Islam, the more advanced age of increased respect for, and the greatness of its right, and compete with her children and relatives to honor her - as stated above - it does what is it, and who have remained at their children, and grandchildren, and her family, and society.
 

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Polygyny may settle the problem of an increased number of unmarried women, especially during wars.

Yeah, and that's part of why many non-Muslims look upon Islam as rather oppressive of women. We know that the historical reason for that argument (which you've posted above) is the many wars waged by the Islamic state of the prophet and the subsequent caliphs. They invaded countries in all directions and killed the men. Because of that it was "convenient" that the Koran would allow Muslims to take four wives...
 
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Yeah, and that's part of why many non-Muslims look upon Islam as rather oppressive of women. We know that the historical reason for that argument (which you've posted above) is the many wars waged by the Islamic state of the prophet and the subsequent caliphs. They invaded countries in all directions and killed the men. Because of that it was "convenient" that the Koran would allow Muslims to take four wives...

This is not true though. Th Koranic injunction existed well before the Caliphate. The wars under Muhammad were not particularly bloody in terms of loss of life. Your argument is not necessarily historically valid.
 
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Because of that it was "convenient" that the Koran would allow Muslims to take four wives...

You do also realize that BEFORE the Qur'an was revealed, Arab guys were marrying as many wives as they wanted... the Qur'an RESTRICTED the number to a max of four, provided the husband could ensure just treatment... but if he wasn't sure that he'd be able to treat all wives fairly and equitably, then only one.
 
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Hi, amorly.

This is a nice piece of propaganda. I have seen this, if not ver batum, at least 100 times. This piece is heavily flawed; but, I don't know if I want to try to refute it since it is quite long and will require a lot of explanations. Perhaps I will attempt to address a few of the claims when I get a chance.

I suppose that you are using this for your dawah.
 
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Islam certainly sounds more reasonable than modern Western culture. The only issue I have is that polygyny isn't fair to men when there isn't an excess of women, because in this case polygyny means that some men won't be able to find a wife.
 
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nice of islam to allow polygamy when convenient for the men.

- Polygyny might be the solution for a couple if the wife is barren, the husband wants children of his own and the option of separation does not appeal to both parties.
what is offered to the woman who wants children whose husband is sterile? maybe she doesnt want separation, but she would like children. islam doesnt even really allow adoption.

- If a woman is chronically ill and is unable to perform her marital duties. Polygyny may also be the solution when the couple does not want divorce.

and if a woman is married to a man who is unable? definitely the more common issue that this is the case, especially given that men are usually older than their wives and sometimes by a lot - especially in societies where women are undervalued - and yet no provision other than divorce is open to the woman in this case


- Polygyny is the religion's answer to cases where some men have excessive sexual needs that cannot be fulfilled by one wife. This in no way means that men should abuse this right and use it whenever they fancy a woman. It is rather a chance Islam has provided to prevent men from committing adultery. Many people who condemn polygyny cheat on their wives, calling this phenomenon a 'swift affair.' Islam, at least, has offered the second woman the option of being called 'a wife' rather than 'a mistress', especially in some countries where women remarkably outnumber men.

men are not the only ones who have trouble not cheating because they are not getting their needs met at home. polygamy isnt a decent answer for that - self control is.

- Polygyny may settle the problem of an increased number of unmarried women, especially during wars.

a better fix to the maufactured "problem" of excess women due to war or anything else is to allow women to participate in society, earn equal money and not be dependant on a male provider for subsistence. that dependence makes her vulnerable to abuse. better for her to have choices and not to be a victim. better to teach against war, learn to live in peace and keep a balanced number of men and women. better for marriage to be a partnership where two become one. 3, 4 or 5 can never have the intimate relationship that men and women were both designed to need.
 
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This is not true though. Th Koranic injunction existed well before the Caliphate. The wars under Muhammad were not particularly bloody in terms of loss of life. Your argument is not necessarily historically valid.

I'm fully aware that others have done similar things, don't worry! The point it, however, that with Islam and the Koran, this kind of behavior - which was pure barbarism (not unknown to the human race of course) - was institutionalized as part of a religion, that being the final and perfected religion (according to Islam). And that's a real problem...

Warlords have always roamed our world... But they didn't claim to be the final prophet of God...

My Viking ancestors did similar things to the people they encountered in their raids, but at least their old religions are not one of the biggest global religions today...
 
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You do also realize that BEFORE the Qur'an was revealed, Arab guys were marrying as many wives as they wanted... the Qur'an RESTRICTED the number to a max of four, provided the husband could ensure just treatment... but if he wasn't sure that he'd be able to treat all wives fairly and equitably, then only one.

Certainly, but I'm sure that any Muslim would agree with me that the pre-Islamic Arabs were Pagans (well, most of them), and that their behavior can't really be the standard that Islam would use as a starting point for its own. As the final revelation to mankind, Islam should see it as unworthy to even compare itself to the alleged Paganism of the pre-Islamic Arabs..?

Talking of restrictions. Four is already way too many (since the world consists of ca 50 % men and 50 % women - for a reason...). But the prophet of Islam broke this rule himself as he had 13 (or was it 14?) wives. So this is really not honorable at all. But as I noted above, it was very practical for Muslims to have a "divine" revelation allowing them to do this, cause it was a very handy tool in subduing the populations they conquered. Any warlord would do so - but personally, I would expect far more from someone claiming to be the final prophet of God... If you want to hold the moral high-ground you (the prophet) need to act like that too, and don't just pretend.
 
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Certainly, but I'm sure that any Muslim would agree with me that the pre-Islamic Arabs were Pagans (well, most of them), and that their behavior can't really be the standard that Islam would use as a starting point for its own. As the final revelation to mankind, Islam should see it as unworthy to even compare itself to the alleged Paganism of the pre-Islamic Arabs..?

Talking of restrictions. Four is already way too many (since the world consists of ca 50 % men and 50 % women - for a reason...). But the prophet of Islam broke this rule himself as he had 13 (or was it 14?) wives. So this is really not honorable at all. But as I noted above, it was very practical for Muslims to have a "divine" revelation allowing them to do this, cause it was a very handy tool in subduing the populations they conquered. Any warlord would do so - but personally, I would expect far more from someone claiming to be the final prophet of God... If you want to hold the moral high-ground you (the prophet) need to act like that too, and don't just pretend.

Truth be known though...

Prophet Muhammad had a monogamous marriage before the passing of Khadijih for twenty four years which was unusual at the time...

He was twenty five years old when He married Khadijih...and He was around forty nine years old at the time of her passing.

Gibbon wrote:

During the twenty-four years of their marriage, her youthful husband abstained from the right of polygamy, and the pride or tenderness of the venerable matron was never insulted by the society of a rival. After her death he placed her in the rank of the four perfect women, with the sister of Moses, the mother of Jesus, and Fatima, the best beloved of his daughters.

Khadija bint Khuwaylid - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

The marriages after Khadijih were arranged for reasons of state and to cement alliances and yes they were allowed per revelation.
 
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I'm fully aware that others have done similar things, don't worry! The point it, however, that with Islam and the Koran, this kind of behavior - which was pure barbarism (not unknown to the human race of course) - was institutionalized as part of a religion, that being the final and perfected religion (according to Islam). And that's a real problem...

Warlords have always roamed our world... But they didn't claim to be the final prophet of God...

My Viking ancestors did similar things to the people they encountered in their raids, but at least their old religions are not one of the biggest global religions today...

I did not say others did it too, I said your argument was historically inaccurate. What you said was not true.

You're also off considering modern theological schools of thought, in the application of marital numbers.

Nothing you have said is true in terms of history or theology.

If you are going to discuss another's religion, you have a Christian duty to do so accurately and with study.
 
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I did not say others did it too, I said your argument was historically inaccurate. What you said was not true.

You're also off considering modern theological schools of thought, in the application of marital numbers.

Nothing you have said is true in terms of history or theology.

If you are going to discuss another's religion, you have a Christian duty to do so accurately and with study.

What was not true?
 
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What was not true?

You said...

"Polygyny may settle the problem of an increased number of unmarried women, especially during wars."


This is not true.

Prior to Islam, men could marry as many women as they liked, so the limitation could not be because of an excess due to war.

The wars themselves were not particularly bloody, with significant losses in life, so there were no deficits of men or excesses of women.

You're also ignoring modern scholars such as Fazlur Rahman, who argue for monogamy as Islamic.

There is a world of historical and theological information you do not have that contradict you. You should study more about the subject before posting on it.
 
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You said...

"Polygyny may settle the problem of an increased number of unmarried women, especially during wars."


This is not true.

Prior to Islam, men could marry as many women as they liked, so the limitation could not be because of an excess due to war.

The wars themselves were not particularly bloody, with significant losses in life, so there were no deficits of men or excesses of women.

You're also ignoring modern scholars such as Fazlur Rahman, who argue for monogamy as Islamic.

There is a world of historical and theological information you do not have that contradict you. You should study more about the subject before posting on it.

I did not say that, it was a citation from the user "amorly", the author of this thread.

Also, women and children were taken as slaves after wars, because the men were killed (such as the Jews of Banu Quraiza).
 
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I did not say that, it was a citation from the user "amorly", the author of this thread.

Also, women and children were taken as slaves after wars, because the men were killed (such as the Jews of Banu Quraiza).

This does not equate to the deficit you mentioned, nor does it explain why men were allowed to marry less after Islam than before, if excess women were the issue.

You are simply not that we'll studied on this subject, and your ignorance hurts the cause of Christianity.
 
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This does not equate to the deficit you mentioned, nor does it explain why men were allowed to marry less after Islam than before, if excess women were the issue.

You are simply not that we'll studied on this subject, and your ignorance hurts the cause of Christianity.

I haven't said that what I've written explains everything, where do you see that? It was a statement from a Muslim debater, and I gave a comment to it. I do not try to appear as an expert - this is a discussion among normal people! I believe that you're reading a lot more into what I've written than what I've actually written. :)
 
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Yeah, and that's part of why many non-Muslims look upon Islam as rather oppressive of women. We know that the historical reason for that argument (which you've posted above) is the many wars waged by the Islamic state of the prophet and the subsequent caliphs. They invaded countries in all directions and killed the men. Because of that it was "convenient" that the Koran would allow Muslims to take four wives...

If you looked at the actual historical context for allowing polygamy in Islam instead of bigoted stereotypes you would find the opposite was the case. Men were allowed to take more than one wife in order to protect the widows and orphans which resulted from *Muslim* men being killed not their enemies. It had nothing to do with the wives and orphans of ones enemies. Men were generally killed only in battle. Prisoners were killed only when they were associated with an act of treason.
 
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the Qur'an RESTRICTED the number to a max of four, provided the husband could ensure just treatment... but if he wasn't sure that he'd be able to treat all wives fairly and equitably, then only one.

And of course, most Muslims would admit that it is impossible to treat multiple wives equally and therefore stick to one. It is not like the FLDS where men are expected to have multiple wives.
 
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