Do you know WHY she doesn't want sex?
There are all sorts of reasons... lemme name a few I can think of -
- Pregnancy is very tiring. Some women just have no energy while they're pregnant. Imagine trying to get through a standard day with zero energy. Some scientists have said just being pregnant requires the same amount of energy as climbing a mountain twice - every day. If she's carrying out her usual daily tasks, she might just be too tired by the end of the day to even think about sex.
- Body image. If she's never been overly confident about her body, she might think she's looking particularly fat and ugly now.
- Morning sickness. THe 'morning' bit is a misnomer. It can happen anytime of the day... and sometimes all day too. Are you in the mood for sex when you've got a tummy bug?
- Previous miscarriage. Many women feel, deep down, to blame when they have a miscarriage. Some think maybe everything would've been OK if they hadn't had sex, and are afraid of causing another miscarriage.
- Hormones. Already covered above. How would you feel if your body stopped producing testosterone and it was a major effort to get an erection?
- Inhibitions. Women in particular are often very aware that there's a human being growing in their womb. The idea of someone else being present while they're having sex just turns them right off.
So you can see... it's important to know WHY she's not in the mood.
Of course, maybe God's just giving this to you as a challenge to fulfil your marriage vows - to love her 'for better or WORSE'. Pregnancy is a pretty hard time for any woman, you know. Her body's changing in weird ways (remember how you felt when your voicebox went psycho? Imagine that ALL OVER), there's a new life growing inside her that suddenly she's responsible for (even though others aren't really seeing it as a separate person yet, she is), her hormones are going mad, she's hurting in all sorts of weird places...
Love her, dude. Breakfast in bed and foot massages. Little gifts. Let her know you care about the stresses she's dealing with. Don't make the mistake of being selfish when this pregnancy is a big challenge that you need to face together, as a team.
And ASK what's going on with the sex!
God bless.