I have a question, My wife and I were married for 4 years and the last 1.5 years were constant fighting, I was depressed and she was making me go to sex addict counseling I was basicly just existing in the marriage and she was substituting me with her church friends because I was depressed (I was not abusive or anything like that), there were also issues with her adult son who was basicly a bum and she condoned it. All of this turmoil was causing her blood pressure to be high and would have killed her so she left. Since then we wrote up a financial agreement and I am intitiating a divorce. I have a GF and am in a sexual relationship and have been harshly talked to by certian members of my old chruch (I say old because im not going to deal with zealots life is to short). My question is would I be considered a pagan because of this, I absolutly love sex and am not going to jump into another marriage because I think thats stupid. I still beleive in God and his word but im not putting myself thought another nightmare or wasting the rest of my 20's abstaining. Im guessing this would make me no longer a christian because of Mathew 18:17, even though this is not a dispute between myself and another church member, it would be between my ex and I who did not want a divorce but had no problems abandoning me packing all her stuff and leaving the state. I guess this is a question of should I even still try or just file my bible on the shelf and call it a day.